Waiting,
I'm sorry I didn't quote the Nelson's source. I was being lazy. Here it is.
Matt 18:15-17 Jesus teaches His disciples about the process of restoring an erring believer. ….the church then is to do everything possible to convince the believer who has sinned to be reconciled or to right the wrong. If the erring one will not respond, that person is to be cut off from the fellowship. Such a loss would be extremely painful to the offender.
They don't elaborate as to what constitutes extreme pain.
I do not take the bible literally, but prefer to understand it in terms of its cultural and historical context. Most of what I have read on the subject agrees that the first century christians practiced shunning.
John Gill's Exposition of the Bible
to look upon him as the Jews did one that disregarded both private reproof by a man's self, and that which was in the presence of one or two more, (twxp rbx) , "a worthless friend", or neighbour; as a Gentile, with whom the Jews had neither religious nor civil conversation; and a "publican", or as Munster's Hebrew Gospel reads it, (hrbe leb) "a notorious sinner", as a publican was accounted: hence such are often joined together, and with whom the Jews might not eat, nor keep any friendly and familiar acquaintance: and so such that have been privately admonished and publicly rebuked, without success,
their company is to be shunned, and intimate friendship with them to be avoided.
Matthew Henry Complete Commentary on the Whole Bible
If he neglect to hear the church, if he slight the admonition, and will neither be ashamed of his faults, nor amend them, let him be unto thee as a heathen man and publican; let him be cast out of the communion of the church, secluded from special ordinances, degraded from the dignity of a church member, let him be put under disgrace, and let the members of the society be warned to withdraw from him, that he may be ashamed of his sin, and they may not be infected by it, or made chargeable with it.
(1cor.5-11, 2 thess. 3:6, 14, 15)
I prefer your undersanding of Jesus' statement, but what I have read proves otherwise, at least for me.
While I agree that the bible itself encourages shunning, I'm not completely convinced that it is the word of God. So, in my opinion, shunning is no more appropriate than a good wheeling.
Edited by - Sassenach on 21 January 2001 2:8:29