it struck me just how odd and weird it is that jws are told that if they do not preach, they are "bloodguilty" for failing to warn people of the upcoming destruction at armageddon.. hang on a minute now, hang on!.
why should a mere human be made to feel "bloodguilty" and "responsible" for "failing to warn someone" of gods wrath??.
these average people are not the ones who are about to unleash a genocidal massacre on 99% of humanity (including babies born to non-witnesses).
We are blood guilty? I thought it was supposed to be the angels work?
New Living Translation
And he will send out his angels to gather his chosen ones from all over the world--from the farthest ends of the earth and heaven.--Mark 13:27
We won't be blood guilty. Once the angels found a 'chosen one' he will direct a witness to knock on his house. If there are any 'chosen ones' left out, it is the angels fault. Not ours.
when parents say all the things we've done for you and your not doing anything for us in return like going to meetings, witnessing, answering up etc... how do you respond to parents?.
When parents say all the things we've done for you and your not doing anything for us in return like going to meetings, witnessing, answering up etc..
Words above won't have much effect on me.
My parents did not talk to me much after I DA'd. They write notes and leave it on the table.
The first two months after I DA'd was the hardest part. I see notes on the table :
"Do you know your mom is crying because you left?"
"The family can no longer be happy because of what you did."
The most heart wrenching for me was when I see my mom crying in the morning while reading the daily text. In the past, I will be with her discussing the day text...
I would lock myself in the room after school and pondered over what I have done. I did feel guilty. I would be lying if I tell you that I did not consider going back.
But I know myself. I couldn't and wouldn't pretend that all is fine with the org. When I have doubts, I want it answered. I am sure that even if I am reinstated, within a few weeks they would DF me. I wrote a note and tell my parents what I am thinking.
Luckily, after about a month or so, my parents finally accepted the fact that I am out . They don't pressure me to go back anymore.
guy a and guy b were in bondage for a long time.
during this period, they have endured a lot of suffering and hardship.. somehow, they managed to escape from their captors.. guy a was very happy that he regained his freedom.
he put everything behind him, work hard and succeeded in building up a career.. 10 years later, he met guy b. he asked guy b what he has been doing for the past 10 years.. guy b replied :" i can't forget how we suffered while in bondage.
guy a and guy b were in bondage for a long time.
during this period, they have endured a lot of suffering and hardship.. somehow, they managed to escape from their captors.. guy a was very happy that he regained his freedom.
he put everything behind him, work hard and succeeded in building up a career.. 10 years later, he met guy b. he asked guy b what he has been doing for the past 10 years.. guy b replied :" i can't forget how we suffered while in bondage.
Yeah..good.
I think Guy B would have more satisfaction than guy A....
have da'd myself nearly 3 months ago.
now i am part of this world but i feel myself the odd one out.
something inside me is still blocking me to do the things i have been longing to do while i was still a jw, such as attending birthday parties, sex, etc.... just last nite, i was on the way to attend a birthday party.
hahaha! another 63 years??? I have seen people around 40 y.o. needs viagra already...that is why I'm so eager to use it now before it becomes useless....
guy a and guy b were in bondage for a long time.
during this period, they have endured a lot of suffering and hardship.. somehow, they managed to escape from their captors.. guy a was very happy that he regained his freedom.
he put everything behind him, work hard and succeeded in building up a career.. 10 years later, he met guy b. he asked guy b what he has been doing for the past 10 years.. guy b replied :" i can't forget how we suffered while in bondage.
I like your story, Morpheus.
I think we need to learn to let go.
Many of us are carrying a heavy load of baggage containing our past failures, past mistakes and past grievances, especially from the wt bondage.
We really need to put this baggage down and move on.
I know it's easier said than done. We may not be able to put the whole baggage down all at once. But I'm sure we can slowly throw off the rubbish in our baggage bit by bit. It will then be lighter and make it easier for us to move forward..
10 years from now...will we still be under wt bondage even though we are physically out of this cult a long time ago????
Just some thoughts from a 16 y.o. kid....
guy a and guy b were in bondage for a long time.
during this period, they have endured a lot of suffering and hardship.. somehow, they managed to escape from their captors.. guy a was very happy that he regained his freedom.
he put everything behind him, work hard and succeeded in building up a career.. 10 years later, he met guy b. he asked guy b what he has been doing for the past 10 years.. guy b replied :" i can't forget how we suffered while in bondage.
Guy A and guy B were in bondage for a long time. During this period, they have endured a lot of suffering and hardship.
Somehow, they managed to escape from their captors.
Guy A was very happy that he regained his freedom. He put everything behind him, work hard and succeeded in building up a career.
10 years later, he met guy B. He asked guy B what he has been doing for the past 10 years.
Guy B replied :" I can't forget how we suffered while in bondage. I can't get over it. I wanted revenge!"
You know what guy A said to him?
"I never knew you are still in bondage to them for the past 10 years!"
i am prepared for shunning when i send in my da letter.
my dad was furious when he comes back from overseas and find out that i have da myself.
yes, i do regret not talking to him first before i da...i also know that my mom is crying in her room.. but they didn't chase me out of the house.
Diogenesister, I have visited exjwreddit. I have also sign up as 'newkidintown16'.
I may not be able to post much as I need to prepare for my cambridge exams. This is my final year in high school.
You will be an instant hero I have to say!
You must be kidding me. Even a 13 yr old kid need to pm me and tell me that I "have just made one attempt..need to keep trying" after he read this topic..
I only hope that I will not make a fool of myself when I post here and @exjwreddit.
i am prepared for shunning when i send in my da letter.
my dad was furious when he comes back from overseas and find out that i have da myself.
yes, i do regret not talking to him first before i da...i also know that my mom is crying in her room.. but they didn't chase me out of the house.
It's all because of my dad's words : "Take care of your mom."
If he has said :"Don't make your mom angry!", I would have reacted in a different way.
i am prepared for shunning when i send in my da letter.
my dad was furious when he comes back from overseas and find out that i have da myself.
yes, i do regret not talking to him first before i da...i also know that my mom is crying in her room.. but they didn't chase me out of the house.
What a silly idiot I am! ...after reading the comments here and had a good nite sleep last night, I realise that the problem lies with me and my childish, unrealistic expectations..
I have expected too much and too fast. I have unrealistic expectations.
I am feeling better now. Thank you all for the good advice you have given me.
Answers to your queries :
I am 16 y.o. DA'd 3 months ago.
Deegee, if you mean immediate family, the answer is no. I am the only son in the family. All my other relatives are non-jws. They do not know I am no longer a jw and that my dad and mom are shunning me. My granny is very opposed to this religion. She loves me a lot. I cannot let her know my family is shunning me. It will cause a lot of trouble to my parents.
