Back when I was in and still knocking on doors, I would cringe every time I saw a fellow Witness standing on the sidewalk or even just a few steps from the doorway of a house, writing on their pad. It struck me as creepy, and i KNEW what they were writing. I can imagine how it looked to other people in the neighborhood.
charonsdog
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JW Door-to-Door Notekeeping Attracts Scrutiny of EU Authorities
by Room 215 ina newly- enacted eu gdpr privacy protection law, to become effective from may 25, has apparently prompted jws to file suit in protest: .
(translated from the italian) .
source: ex-jwblog: http://testimonidigeovachiedono.blogspot.com/2018/05/le-note-di-casa-in-casa-sono-illegali-per-il-gdpr.html):.
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Sometimes it's the little things....
by dubstepped ini'm listening to a podcast where a former elder describes how another elder conducted the watchtower study about hyperbole.
the elder called it hyper-bowl.
soon the whole congregation called it hyper-bowl.
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charonsdog
One of my all-time favorites was when the School Conductor gave a talk on "pro-NOWNC-iation". (now, MAYBE that's the British way, but certainly not in middle-America). He kept repeating the mispronounced word over and over until my brother and I had to get up and walk out because we were about to piss ourselves laughing.
Another time, the WT reader pronounced the word "apropos" as "ah-PROPE-us". Great fun.
And the painful WT study on the courage of Stephen. The poor congregation couldn't figure out if it was "Steev-en" or "stef-un".... one would say it one way, another would contradict. I remember one brother who wouldn't stop changing the way he said it, back and forth, because he wasn't sure. Some regulars quit commenting, or would refuse to say the name, instead saying things like "our courageous brother".
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Consequences for having a non religious wedding ceraminy?
by Addison0998 inhey i was wondering if maybe someone who is an ex elder or who knows a lot about these things could help me.
my dad is an elder but i need to be cautious with questions i ask.
now that i’ve been woken up from my brainwashed love of this corrupt corporation and from my belief in the bible, and my fiancé is starting to wake up as well, i really don’t want to have the sexist, overused, impersonal talk outline used for my wedding ceremony by some elder who is trying to show off his talk giving skills.
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charonsdog
"Personally, I would give you a greater wedding present if I didn't have to go. I never liked the weddings."
That's EXACTLY what I used to tell couples who were thinking of inviting me to their wedding. I was able to skip out on attending those fucking drags from 9/2001 until 2016, after I left the JWCult. I would also volunteer to work on Saturdays at my job just so I could have a truthful excuse not to go. I couldn't stomach watching two people get tied together, listening to that god-awful speechifying before the vows, having to sit next to the woman I was miserably married to myself.
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Job 26:7 “Earth is hanged upon nothing”—proof of inspiration?
by Ireneus injws has been saying bible is authored by god because job 26:7 says: “earth is being hanged upon nothing.” and this verse in combination with isaiah 40:22 which says “god resides above the circle of earth” implies that earth is spherical and remains unsupported from above or from beneath.
thus, bible contains the knowledge which science confirmed later.. however, recent understanding of science is that the whole visible part of the universe is only 4%, and the visible exists because of the invisible 96%-- “dark matter 26%” and “dark energy 70%”--which is a fifth and previously unknown type of fundamental force called quintessence, which fills the universe like a fluid serving as a support to the visible universe.
https://www.nationalgeographic.com/science/space/dark-matter/.
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charonsdog
I have thought for a long time that the GB and WTS have always fallen into the trap of reasoning from a strictly Eurocentric point of view. Archaeology and anthropology have shown that many advanced civilizations existed in the past before being wiped out, either by disease or warfare. Is it not possible that around the time of the writing of these scriptures that there were civilizations that had figured out that the Earth was a globe, and that it revolved in space around the sun? It's not like Galileo and Magellan were the FIRST to figure this out. They simply had the luxury of being part of the civilization that endured and wrote the history books.
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Interview With an Apostate: Charonsdog
by charonsdog inthey raised my two younger brothers and me in the “truth”, and convinced some of their own siblings to join as well.
i married pretty early, raised two of my own in the “truth”, sad to say.
my parents are still in.
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charonsdog
Ironically, less than an hour after posting this, I found myself sitting next to a couple at Thai immigration office who are trying to report their field service reports on their phones. I'm keeping quiet until they try to count some time with me.
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Interview With an Apostate: Charonsdog
by charonsdog inthey raised my two younger brothers and me in the “truth”, and convinced some of their own siblings to join as well.
i married pretty early, raised two of my own in the “truth”, sad to say.
my parents are still in.
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charonsdog
Tell us a little about yourself and your family.
My parents became Witnesses in 1972 when I was four years old. They raised my two younger brothers and me in the “truth”, and convinced some of their own siblings to join as well. I married pretty early, raised two of my own in the “truth”, sad to say. My parents are still in. My kids are still in. One of my brothers is still in. None of them talk to me. Most of my cousins who were in have left.
How many generations have been JWs?
Three now. My parents, my generation, and my kids. (Grandkids? I probably won’t be informed)
Did you hold any position in the WTS? (MS, Elder etc...)
I was baptized at 16, and began pioneering shortly after. I went to Bethel (WTF) for a year. Later I served as MS and then elder.
Did you *really* believe in the bible, in spirits (angels, demons)?
I guess it was more of an instance where I didn’t question it as much as believing in it. When I did start to have questions, I was told to “wait on Jehovah” and that my questions were about unimportant things. Such as the logistics of the Flood, how over three million Israelite refugees (and their herds/flocks) maintained a nomadic lifestyle in the middle of the desert.
Did you get baptised? When and why?
I got baptized because my friends were baptized and pioneering. I wanted to look good.
What was the initial trigger that made you start questioning things?
I don’t exactly remember. Reading the Bible and really thinking about how things could happen was something that I had done. Probably Joseph Heller’s book, “God Knows”, about the imagined musings of an elderly King David really got me to start questioning the stories in earnest.
Where did you find information? Internet sites? Books?
I stayed away from all things apostate. Even after I left. I only began looking after discovering this website by chance.
How difficult or painful was the process of leaving?
It took me a long time to make the decision to leave. First, I left my wife, as I could no longer live with her after almost 24 years of hell. Living on my own away from the former congregation made it easier for me to slip away.
Was it a big dramatic exit or a careful quiet fade?
Neither, really. After being separated for over a year, and having stopped attending the meetings, I asked my wife for a divorce. She wanted to know if she had grounds for remarriage (which she acted upon six months later), and I decided that I was going to be truthful in all of my dealings. I told her she did, and henceforth I was shunned by my family and eventually DF’d in absentia.
Did you convince anyone else to leave with you?
Sadly, no.
Were you or are you still being shunned by those who didn't leave?
I’m still completely shunned. My daughter reached out to me for a couple of months last year (online, as I live on the other side of the world), but that ended. Probably around the time when my brother made a last-ditch effort to make me think about attending the meetings again, and I told him I no longer believed it and he should examine his own beliefs. That probably outed me as apostate to my family.
How long have you now been out?
For over four years now. I attended my last Memorial in 2014. Never went back.
Was there anything you looked forward to doing when you left?
Yep. Making my own damn decisions about my life.
What are you most proud of achieving since you left?
Surviving. And thriving. I discovered that people are generally good, regardless of whether or not they belong to the cult I was a part of before. I met people from around the world, made friends, and last year I quit my life in the US and moved abroad to Thailand.
Is there anything you miss about life in the congregation?
The social life. I was always entertaining people in my home or planning group activities. It was much easier when you had other people with whom you were in constant contact through the meeting schedule.
Red pill or blue pill? Do you regret waking up to reality at all?
I regret not waking up (or choosing to continue “sleeping”) a long time ago.
Did you become an atheist or transfer your faith elsewhere?
I will never join another organized religion. If the JW’s were right about one thing (in my opinion), religion is a snare and a racket. Theirs included.
How do you now feel about religion in general?
To each his own. I’m surrounded by Buddhists here, and they make it work for them. Too many damned temples everywhere, though. Waste of money and real estate.
Do you feel any guilt celebrating xmas or birthdays or doing any other JW "no-no"s?
I still hate the pagan holidays. Last Christmas, I was chosen to be Santa Claus at the school where I teach. No amount of my protesting about how much I despise Christmas seemed to dissuade my bosses. I was given a cheap, ill-fitting costume and made to go out in front of the kids. Never again. I felt gross.
Birthdays, however, are something I love. And I don’t have any problem if someone offers me marijuana. I have smoked two cigarettes, simply because of the circumstances. I didn’t feel any guilt, but I don’t choose to make it a habit. I am in a long-distance relationship with a woman now, and I’m faithful to her because it’s the right thing, but before that, I felt no guilt in sleeping with anyone I wanted to.
Have you attended any face-to-face meetups of ex-JWs?
No. Because I don’t think there are enough ex-JWs in Thailand to have a meetup.
Do you tell people about your JW past?
I used to avoid the subject, but now I’m very open about it. If they want to talk about it, I will. If not, that’s cool, too.
Do you feel animosity or pity toward current JWs?
No animosity (with a few exceptions), but mostly pity to those who are stuck by fear of losing everyone they know.
How do you respond to witnesses when they call at your door?
I only wish they would.
Storm the barricades or tend to the wounded? (do you favor activism or support)
I’ll stick with tending to the wounded. Storming just seems to make them reinforce their flanks. I don’t have the time for it. Besides, there aren’t many “Christians” in these parts anyway.
What do you think is the most effective approach to reaching people still in?
Kindness. Smile when you see them. Don’t push them to engage, but be open if they do.
Do you think the WTS can or should be destroyed, will continue on as-is or grow / change?
I’d love to see those motherfuckers (GB, and “heavys”) go to prison or be flayed alive. Won’t happen. But hopefully the rank and file will catch wind of the stink below the surface soon and abandon it.
How has your life been impacted by your JW past?
Not having attended university has had a serious impact on my financial security and also my own feelings of self-worth.
Are there things in your life you blame the WTS for?
Besides the lack of a good education, stealing the best years of my life, alienating me from my family (and from my non-JW extended family when I was “in”), and just lying to me all of my life….no, I don’t blame them for anything.
JW upbringing - a protection or a curse?
On the surface, would seem like a protection. But it scarred me.
How do you fill your time now it's not filled with meetings and field service?
Neftlix and Facebook, unfortunately. Oh, and travel. I can go places and not give a rat’s ass about missing meetings.
Do you still have an interest in JW beliefs and doctrines?
It still holds a morbid fascination for me to see what they are up to.
How much of your time is still spent on JW related matters?
Too much. My girlfriend thinks I should stay away from it. She may be right, because the dreams lately have been waking me up. But it’s also cathartic to connect with others who understand what you’ve been through.
What do you think of the ex-JW community?
It’s interesting to see that we still have fellow-feeling for each other without the aid of the “Holy Spirit”
Do you see yourself still being associated with the ex-JW community in 5 or 10 years time?
I’ll probably have moved on from visiting the websites. I don’t see myself living in areas where there are many ex-JW’s to meet up with personally.
Do you fear the future?
You mean, do I fear Armageddon? Nope.
What advice would you give to anyone starting the journey of leaving the WTS?
Don’t be afraid. Decide how much hurt/loss you can stomach, then fade/run accordingly.
What would you change in your life if you could go back and talk to yourself?
Listen when your brain says “run away” the night before you get married. You aren’t ready. You aren’t right for each other. Who cares about losing privileges? And listen to your doubts. Don’t let anyone tell you that they aren’t important.
Do you have any regrets about life since you left?
Sure, I’ve made some mistakes. But my life didn’t begin until I left.
Can we read your life-story anywhere? (links to online or books)
If you’re interested in reading my erstwhile, self-indulgent blog, send me a private message.
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Birthday
by charonsdog inby the time i finish this post, i will have turned 50 years old.
i spent over 40 years of my life not celebrating my birthday, and it never seemed like a big deal to me.
three years ago, i received a cake and some friends sang "happy birthday" to me at a dinner party that was for a different event.
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Pete....you just made me cry. Honestly. Because you expressed exactly what I'm feeling. We were so deeply ingrained with not drawing attention to ourselves that it seems wrong somehow to have others celebrate our milestones. I too, could never understand the ban on birthday celebrations. The "well, the only birthdays mentioned in the Bible were times when people died" bullshit reasoning never ever resonated with me. I found myself embarrassed trying to defend it when confronted about it in field service. Damn them for taking away something that should have been a happy part of our lives!
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Birthday
by charonsdog inby the time i finish this post, i will have turned 50 years old.
i spent over 40 years of my life not celebrating my birthday, and it never seemed like a big deal to me.
three years ago, i received a cake and some friends sang "happy birthday" to me at a dinner party that was for a different event.
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charonsdog
By the time I finish this post, I will have turned 50 years old. I spent over 40 years of my life not celebrating my birthday, and it never seemed like a big deal to me. Three years ago, I received a cake and some friends sang "Happy Birthday" to me at a dinner party that was for a different event. It was nice. The very first time since I was three years old. Two years ago, I spent my birthday in Thailand, finishing up my PADI open water SCUBA diving certification, getting a relaxing massage, then spending the last couple hours of the evening drinking and going home with a woman I met earlier. Last year, I was surrounded by strangers in Laos at a hostel, who put candles in some donuts they bought for me, sang the birthday song, then took me bowling.
I never thought much about my birthday. Never really missed it, because it was "pagan" to celebrate it. Just another day. However, this one seems like it should be special. But I didn't know how to tell people about it. It just seems self-important to be announcing that you have a birthday coming up so hopefully someone will plan a party. I don't really have any close friends here yet, so inviting them to a party that I plan seems desperate.
So, I'm ringing in my half-century mark pretty much alone. I have some immigration papers to take care of during the day, a class to teach in the evening. Then I'll probably just go home and get ready for the next day. I'm not trying to have an "oh, pity me" moment here. I'm just wondering how the rest of you deal with your birthdays after leaving the organization.
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5/6/18 cleveland ohio circuit assembly notes
by nowwhat? inwilloughby assembly hall.
1400+ attendance 5 baptised a robust 0.38 growth!.
$11k expenses however 1st.
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charonsdog
1,400 in attendance and 5 dunked. What the hell? I remember when you could generally count on it being 1.5% of the total attendees being baptized. Can nobody else see the slowdown? "Jehovah is speeding up the work?" Jesus Christ!
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Brilliant Medical Advice from the Slave
by Vanderhoven7 innot sure where i picked this up:.
self explanatory science and medical advice from the faithful and brilliant servant class in brooklyn________________________________________thomas edison, the inventor and electrician, of phonograph and telephone fame, has been experimenting with the new light "x-rays.
" and has succeeded in taking a photograph through oak eight inches thick.
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charonsdog
Great to see how the Holy Spirit was giving food at the proper time. Most of this crap was during Rutherford's tenure. What a fucking nutjob.