@tor1500
But you are so correct...it's all about appearances...seen given out literature, seen at the hall, if you're not noticed at the hall, then go to the bathroom to be seen...
I could make a list of then teenagers and twenty somethings with double lives who pioneered and went to Bethel. (And somehow I became the bad guy when I decided to be honest...)
No most JW's are not who they are in the hall...they send their representatives to the hall. The real person is when you just drop by the house..but again they can put on then....I say be a fly on the wall and you would really see who they really are....
I've seen the nicest brothers in the hall and when they leave they are yelling at the wife to hurry up...
But when you come to think of it we all send our representatives out ....most of us never show the real them, because most folks feel the real them would not be accepted....
I could also make a list of abusive spouses, ugly marriages, as well as marriages for the sake of advantage and appearance. (Political marriages.) Towards the end, I eschewed the fake smiles at the hall and just went right to my seat. Again, I just wanted to be honest.
I feel sorry for those that this has happened to...but would these same couples if heard these stories, would they have had any empathy for them ? I don't think so, they would have soft soaped it and said....Jehovah will make a way.
This is an ironic choice of words, but isn't that the truth? These people probably would have evaded this topic. Leave everything to Jehovah... Even though Jehovah works through people??? So if you're saying "leave it to Jehovah", aren't you actually breaking Jehovah's process when you should be taking action? It's nonsense.