Posts by ShaunaC

for example: some posters are very liberated & graphic on-line when discussing sex, but to their mate or to the average person on the street they may seem like "old-dubs" or just very conservative.. please answer honestly & give me a break, this might be my first "fluffer"

ShaunaC

With men I am the same. With women I am shyer in real life. Not all of my women friends that I've had for some time know I'm bi. With new women I meet I tend to hint early on that I appreciate a hot girl. I also usually tell them about the "Couples/Single Women Only" parties we go to once a month in San Francisco.

I agree with Harmony, guys appreciate the info much more!

Hey Harmony, when you coming to CA? I'd love to get together.

Shauna

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"Homeschooled" Witness kids.

by refiners fire in

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some dub on purelanguage asking for advice because his homeschooled son is having learning difficulties.. thank you for all of your suggestions.

my son is 13; and i am his teacher (homeschooled).

interestingly, the father was only concerned that the kid wasnt paying attention at meetings!.

ShaunaC

My parents took me and my younger sister out of public school when I was about to go into high school and my sister into 5th grade. This was back in 1988. My parents were one of the first in our area of Fresno, CA to do so and received much slack for it. The common complaint was that they were taking us out of our "preaching territory." How ridiculous!

I remained on a home school program for 2 years until I took my Proficiency Exam at 16. My sister did the same when she turned 16 or so.

I think homeschooling is different for every child. I was far advanced by the time I was taken out. The very reason my parents chose to take me out of public school was that in 8th grade I was already being prepped for college and had a good 5 hours of homework every night from advanced classes. My parents felt studying should best be done in the Society's publications. And besides, I wasn't going to be allowed to go to college. (Note: My dad has been an elder since I was 9 and I come from a very strong JW family). I continued to do well on homeschooling because I was that kind of student. My sister on the other hand was completely different.

Although I regret not enjoying high school things and not going to college, I know I wouldn't have been allowed to do any of those things anyway, so oh well. I was not free until 3 1/2 years ago at the age of 24.

Interestingly, although my parents were criticized for this, they ended up starting a trend in our area for the next few years. Then they were praised for it when at 16 I became a regular pioneer. You know how back-stabby JW's can be!

Anyway, just sharing! Sorry I haven't been around. Hi to all my friends!

Shauna

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we're having a baby!!!

by unanswered in

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i had not been visiting the board for some time until just recently, so a lot of you don't even know me, but i wanted to announce that my wife and i are having a baby.

we just found out not too long ago.

today, though, was amazing!

ShaunaC

NATE!!!! So good to hear from you again. Anytime I see Riz in chat I ask to pass on a hello to you. So happy about the good news. Sounds like all is well with you guys! So glad to hear it!

Shauna

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Bisexuality

by gilwarrior in

it is just me or are all the women on this board bisexual?.

just a thought.. "three people can keep a secret...if two of them are dead.".

benjamin frankin - "poor richard's almanac"

ShaunaC

Well you know I'm not shy about this subject. I do consider myself bisexual. I have actually been with more women than men, which is not saying too much since I only need half a hand to count the men I've been with.

I am however in a committed relationship with Nick for almost 3 years. We will most likely get married and live happily ever after.

I do appreciate what Sunchild had to say about bisexuality and how the lesbian community views it. Although I simply love kissing a woman, and am slighty, no hugely breasts obsessed..... I don't think I love and run. I do only play for now because I am with Nick. My bi-curiousity only came strongly into play as I was leaving the JW's 3-4 years ago. I only had my first full on experience with a woman 1 year ago. I do believe, and many people have told me they see it as well, that if I was single tomorrow I would definitely be in a relationship with a woman before another man.

It all comes down to what makes you happy. Whether you're straight, bi, lesbian, or simply curious you should act in a way that makes you and those around you happy. And no one but yourself should dictate that. Anyone who lived under the JW judgemental regime should appreciate that!

Love ya Xena! And Moody and Sky I need to get to know you in chat! lol

Shauna

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Be conscious of your spiritual weed.

by ashitaka in

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mary jane anyone?.

ashi

ShaunaC

Thanks Ash! You reminded me that I am still spiritual after all!

Pass the kind kind please!

Shauna

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They shun you--Do you love them?

by ashitaka in

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for all who have, are, or will be shunned (which should pretty much be all of us), do you still have a deep love for those who now shun you...now, not familial love, but an active love that yearns for that person's companionship?.

i have several regrets; one of them is the friends that i've lost.

how about you guys?.

ShaunaC

I've recently been thinking a lot about this. I've been out for 3 years. At first I was so pushed by the andrenaline to have a new life I didn't much let my lost relationship with my family, especially my parents, affect me. About a year and a half after being away I really began to feel the effects of all that I had gone through. It launched me into a depression that manifested itself by uncontrollable crying, no sobbing, every month, then every couple of weeks.

I dealt with my parents by first writing them a long letter which explained my actions. In it I also reaffirmed my unconditional love for them and my desire to receive that in return. Three months later we had a meeting at my house in which they plainly stated that I was not acceptable to them while not a JW. The conversation ended with them walking out of my place, not saying a word, not even a goodbye. My mother threw a 5 page letter on the table on the way out that was full of every guilt trip imaginable. I never thought a mother could express such mean and vengeful words to her own daughter.

Starting at that moment I realized that my parents were not capable due to thier association with the Borg to love me unconditionally. And I realized that I didn't need people like that in my life.

Although as time has passed things have gotten a little better, (I last saw them in August when they even came to my house of sin w/ Nick and went out to dinner with us and had a postive time) I find that I don't miss them anywhere near how I used to. Despite our last encounter being a good one, I don't have much of a desire to call or see them. The longer we don't have a relationship, the less I miss it.

It's very important to me now to have people in my life that love me for me. Whatever that is! Whether they agree with me or not! That's what unconditional love is. I don't want anyone in my life that cannot give me that. I've gone through too much to finally learn how to love myself to let anyone, especially my parents, disrespect me like that.

Now I've come to view them as simply my biological parents. Sadly we no longer have anything in common and they have no desire to make that better. I will continue to perform my duty as a daughter and look after them from time to time and be there to help if ever called upon. But other than that they are usually always referred to in the past tense, like a childhood friend that you kinda wonder where they are now but mostly dwell on those fun times you had all those years ago. That's all I have with my parents, all those years ago that feel like a completely different person to me now.

Do I love them? Sure, but it's not the same love. Do I miss them? Sure, but if I can't share anything about my wonderful life now, what's the point? As they are, I have no use for them. Perhaps I've lost my own unconditional love for them. Perhaps that's what was crucial in allowing me to move on with my life without them.

How sad that I had to give that up! But how empowering that I was able to do it! It's always a double-edged sword!

Shauna

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I FEEL SO USED

by Serena in

i have been "fooling around" with brother charlie for a couple months.

going to his apartment and spending the night with him.

i am so in love with him, i would do anything for him, anything at all.

ShaunaC

Serena, sorry for your pain here but I have to agree with SlipnSlide...

All of your comments contain messages of "I'm so stupid" and "I'm so gullible" coupled with "I can't help myself".

You know things are not right with this guy. You probably already know but won't fess up that he will not likely straighten up the way you'd like him to.

Read over your own responses. You already know what you need to do. It may be tough at first but it will open the door for so much happiness...happiness you gain from being strong within yourself and demanding you be treated the right way...happiness from meeting a real guy who will really love you.

Do the right thing for you and only good things will come out of it!

Shauna

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Which MALE body type do you prefer?

by ItsJustMe in

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personally, i like under 6', muscular, dark eyes, curly dark hair.. self-confidence is a must, as is laughing at my jokes!

ShaunaC

Closer, I'm with you....I LOVE an accent! But the American accents don't do it for me. Gotta be foreign!