Jez,
Just so you know, not all JWs who get df'd have that attitude he described. I begged and pleaded to not be df'd, said I was sorry and that certainly I was repentant. They were the ones who said me and my husband were not repentant. Not repentant even though the situation was cleared up and not repeated and not intentional....... fact was, we didn't tell them (and we did, they didn't DISCOVER anything) until 3 years later when we were having marital problems. So his bullshit about attitude is WRONG.