Posts by simplesally

How about congregations that sell their old Kingdom Halls to churches? When I objected to this as an elder, I was told it was
OK with the Society!

In California, it is against the law to discriminate. If anyone offers full purchase price on a piece of real property it AGAINST THE LAW not to sell it to him/them. The prospective purchaser(s) has the right to sue you if you do not sell it to them.

So, in order for the JW's to really do this without reproach, the religious organization would have to offer FULL price. If they offer one penny less or demand things to be fixed then they do not have to sell.

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Cathartic Finish to Painful Memories of Mark

by jst2laws in

continued from http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/7/107302/1.ashx .

after 10 years in the "fultime work" my wife and i left bethel and moved back to missouri to serve where the "need was great".

mark had was about 17 and had put his foot down about going to the kh but his dad still pushed.

simplesally

Sorry, I am using my MAC and the 1st two paragraphs should have appeared in quotes from jst2lawas and I cannot edit my post!!!

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Cathartic Finish to Painful Memories of Mark

by jst2laws in

continued from http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/7/107302/1.ashx .

after 10 years in the "fultime work" my wife and i left bethel and moved back to missouri to serve where the "need was great".

mark had was about 17 and had put his foot down about going to the kh but his dad still pushed.

simplesally

I know he was not my son and I am not responsible for his choice, but I also know I was the only one he leaned on who could have helped him. Yet I did not have the mindset necessary to meet his needs. Instead I screwed the JW clamp tight like a good do bee elder. I wonder more than ever, now that I've left the WT, what we would be like as a family if we had never been JW's. Maybe not great either way, but cult thinking and constant rejection certainly do not produce balanced young people

He died believing the JW's had the truth and that he was sh*t in Jehovah's eyes. This disturbs me. I sometimes wonder if he had thought that his family would love him and accept him instead of disapprove of him, even if he fell off the wagon,

Sometimes I wonder about my first ex-husband who was tortured growing up as youth who did not want to be stuck in a JW world. For him, he was tortured that he had been told that his thoughts, desires and emotions were WRONG.....that there was only one RIGHT WAY to think, act and believe. He had been inactive at one point before I met him, put on reproof many times and df'd twice during marriage. Even at 30 years old, his parents were still trying to make him tow the line and SO WAS I.

There were other issues which caused our divorce but I often wonder if I had not been so pioneer minded and WT led, what would have happened. Maybe if he could have gone out with his wife in normal situations, if were weren't called to waste our weekends, maybe he would never have turned to such wayward people in the 'world' ..... maybe then he would have opted out away from drugs if his own wife didn't tell the elders on him and supported him instead to live a good life just not have to be a JW.

The WHAT IF'S can plague you.

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THE STONES STUNK

by wednesday in

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what a bad performance.

lack luster, boring

simplesally

I thought it was too short and boring! I enjoyed watching them sing and play. My daughter refused to dance and she will dance to a commercial!! She said his neck was too old.

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For Puternut, Dad, Dede's mom & sister and all . . .

by cruzanheart in

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friends

who have ended their lives due to the wtbts' arbitrary and mean rules.

may you rest in peace.

you are not forgotten.

simplesally

Nina, we have many success stories here of people who have moved on to 'normal' life since leaving the WT. You, your family, me and Teryn, Sixy and hemplover are, even though divorced, raising a daughter in normal fashion, our friend Sassy has had troubles with her kids but one now lives with her!!!!

It's so sad that others have chosen to end their lives. I feel so bad for them and don't blame them .... I wish we could have held them and told them how much we loved them .... that we could have known what they were feeling and made a phone call. They won't make the phone call because they know they will be talked out of doing it and the next morning the pain will be there again..........

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weekend poll- which was the best Superbowl Advertisement

by stillajwexelder in

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weekend poll- which was the best superbowl advertisement.

i did not think any stood out this year - i thought they were all pretty average-

simplesally

I loved the Sprint commercial where the guy says he even has a feature called "Crime Prevention" .....

the other guy's phone obviously does not have this feature!!

Anyway, the Sprint guy throws his phone at the other guy and nails him!! Sprint, with Crime Prevention.

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Our friend PUTERNUT has died

by Nathan Natas in

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friends

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thanks princess for helping us remember ari's screen name.. the "sad news from maui" thread is here: http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/107021/1.ashx

simplesally

Orobus, he didn't care about being df'd........ he didn't care about his ex-wife not speaking to him. He and she were split before he got df'd. He had moved to a different state, so it really didn't matter that the old 'friends' no longer spoke to him (yes it mattered but it was not the big thing) ... it really was distressing to him that he was without his children.

I feel bad that he chose to end his life and that he did not give the girls the years away from their mother that they would possibly have needed in order to re-establish a relationship with him. But it was obviously too hard on him to wait and be so alone, so far away. He may have despaired because his daughter married into a 'good JW' family and he probably felt that due to her husband's influence that she not ever come around. I don't know. I do know that he missed his children terribly.

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Sad news from Maui

by Makena1 in

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friends

we went to our favorite beach, met up with some of our local friends.

we don't have much in the way of details - but heard some devasting news that ari (well known to seattle area exjw's and i am sure by many on the board) killed himself sometime over last weekend.

he was so excited about moving to maui, and starting a new life here.

simplesally

I remember when he came here and we were lying by the pool and drinking beer during the week! We had such fun.

I got a call from Ary over Thanksgiving. I had had chemo that week and my mom had left the day before. I was sick. Teryn and I spent the day alone pretty much in bed all day. I didn't get up to get the phone and didn't listen to the message till days later....and then I emailed him back instead of calling. Reading his posts (in another thread) now make me realize how alone he felt that day. I am glad I emailed him back and told him I had been ill..........but still, I wish I had been able to 'be there' for him ........ I wish he would have told somebody the depths of his despair.