Posts by Skeptic

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The new insert in the Kingdom Ministry........

by kat7302 in

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friends

i found out today that there is a new insert in the kingdom ministry coming up which is all about how to treat disfellowshipped ones.

aparrently they are clamping down on it big time.

has anyone else heard of this or seen it?

Skeptic

I have not read the article...JW stuff bores me to tears now...but the way to get around it is to have "family business" to take care of. You can associate with a exJW if you have family business like taking care of your parents, funerals, vacations, etc. OK, vacations is stretching it, but the rule is used liberally...visiting the childern of the DFed one is one I have seen used.

Or, in the case of myself, to avoid DFing or DAing oneself. I am one of the lucky few who pulled that off though. All JWs treat me fine, except my brother who does not talk to me.

Eventually, enough JWs will ignore the DFing rules anyway that it will make no difference. Hell, my ex-wife who believes the JW stuff, fell in love and MARRIED a DFed man. I told her how to avoid getting disfellowshipped over it.

Richard

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Do you love people more now that you're out?

by writerpen in

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friends

i was thinking about this the other day.

since i've left the borg, i find myself loving other humans more.

like all the little children being abducted, the miners trapped in the mine last week, the victims of car accidents that i pass on the road, a woman crying in the car next to me while waiting for the green light, the homeless that i see every weekend at a local soup kitchen where i volunteer, etc.

Skeptic

Well, leaving the JWs made me more loving, simply because I am less judgemental now and dont have to filter everything into the JW viewpoint. But the biggest factor in me becoming more loving is by far Windrider.

I used to be a harsh, demanding man. Now, with the shackles and pressures of a bad religion and a bad marriage gone, I am able to be more loving and easygoing. But that still does not explain it by any means. Almost all the credit must go to my precious Windrider.

What Windrider has done for my ability to love is nothing less than astounding. She brought out such tender feelings in me it actually physically hurt...like my heart was being forced to be larger to contain it all. I know that sounds silly, but that is exactly what it felt like, including the physical pain.

Eventually, I took the love and tender feelings Robin brought out and showed them to my kids and friends. It took a while for my kids to adjust...at first they accused me of being a hypocrite..."Oh, yeah you are nice when Robin is here."...then after I started openly expressing my love and affection for them, they wree suspicious, "What are you up to?"...now, they know the great love I have for them is real and they accept it, as much as they are able to.

Giving the love that Windrider taught me how to give to other people has had amazing results.....more than I can comment on here.

Windrider, sweetheart, you are the most amazing woman and I shall love you always. You have no idea how amazing your love is, and how much love you show every day....and how much good you have done in this world. With me alone, you have shown me that my life has made a real difference, and you have touched not only my life but the lives of those I touch...and so on....not to mention the effect you have on those you touched directly....and so on...

Richard

Edited by - Skeptic on 30 July 2002 0:43:15

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Romance status

by Crystal in

just curious as to who is single and who is not on this board.i have been with my boyfriend going on 3 years now.

we just moved in together in feb.for the most part we get along great but he has some weird habits.he also thinks i spend too much time on this site(which i do...but heck i finally belong!!

)so its hard to relate to him on the subject.he thinks i should just forget about it.sometimes i think i might be better off with someone who has more or less been where i have.

Skeptic

I am divorced and available.

Dutchie, I am so sorry to hear about your husband. The pain must still be terrible.

Richard

Edited by - Skeptic on 22 July 2002 21:53:30

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Pornography and Sexuality

by Beans in

after leaving the only religion in the world, what are your views on sexual issues and have they changed more and more since the time you left the borg?

did you go sexually crazy and try many different things?

did you find intrest in porn and want to experiment more?.

Skeptic

My views have always been liberal...since I was a young teen I have felt that whatever consenting adults do is their business.

My sexual practices were always very conservative, mainly because I thought God wanted it that way.

Now, my sexual practices are much more liberal...to say the least. I am now able to practice what I have always believed...that whatever consenting adults do is their business.

Richard

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Ex-JW Singles

by SpiceItUp in

inquiring minds want to know who out there is single.

lets see if we can hook anyone up.

how about a love connection on the jwd.

Skeptic

Divorced male (and yes, it is finalized), live with 8 year old son, looking, 41 years old, live in British Columbia, Canada

Broke up with Windrider about 2 months ago, so if I had half a brain I would not be looking now.

Can't remember where my photo (other than my profile pic) is online, but my photo is available upon request. Send an email to [email protected]

If you are a female submissive, all the better.

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Age Sex Location Occupation Anyone?

by Perfection Seeker in

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friends

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33 female iowa massage therapist happily married no children (yet).

anyone else?

Skeptic

41/male/British Columbia, Canada/unemployed software developer divorced and looking, have 8 year old son

27

SEX SEX SEX SEX & MORE SEX

by Perfection Seeker in

ok, now that i have your attention................................... it seems like most of the witnesses i know, and who have posted here, say their parents kept them in the dark about sex.

do you agree?

my parents never discussed it at all- in fact- if they did- or saw a love scene on tv- my mom would always say "thats disgusting' (yeah, right mom) .

Skeptic

JWs aren't the only ones who don't tell their kids anything about sex. When I asked my father what VD was, he told me that you got it from toilets. Go figure.

Even though my hometown was so kinky it made the news, I was raised in almost total ignorance of sex. I never really learned much about lovemaking until Windrider. I say she taught me, she says we learned together.

I had always just answered my kids questions about sex as they asked, so they knew the very basics at a very young age. When one of my sons was 13, I told him that if he had any questions about sex, just ask cause I would rather him be told by me than by his friends. Two years later, that one ending up in an essay to his school about how I was a pervert. I was a pervert for saying if you want to ask, ask? And folks, we are talking about vanilla sex here.

Now, my son is 17 and knows I am a Dominant (he asked) and he thinks that is the coolest thing ever. Go figure.

I have tempered my policy of answering questions...my youngest son is asking WAY too many adult quesitons....I tell him I will tell him when he is older. There are some things a young child does not need to know. I did I ever mention that have three geniouses for kids is not necessarily a blessing?

Richard

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Male and Female Friends

by StinkyPantz in

my husband and i have had sort of a disagreement of sorts.

he says that men cannot be friends with women.

he says that any man that appears to want to be friends with a woman really just wants to get in her pants, and if they end up friends it's purely by accident.

Skeptic

Xena, oops...I sent you an email with my private email address that never gets full. Please write me. Check the email address you use for this site.

Richard

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Do you care that you offend JW's?

by wholewheat in

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friends

this is a sincere question.

do you worry about offending active witnesses?

Skeptic

I care about not offending JWs as much as I care about it for other people. JWs are people too, dont forget that.

In gnereal, I try not to offend anyone. But I am true to myself. In person, I am less confrontational than I am online, unless someone is shoving something I dont want to hear down my throat.

So the short answer is that I will treat JWs as I do everyone else.

Richard

42

Male and Female Friends

by StinkyPantz in

my husband and i have had sort of a disagreement of sorts.

he says that men cannot be friends with women.

he says that any man that appears to want to be friends with a woman really just wants to get in her pants, and if they end up friends it's purely by accident.

Skeptic

StinkyPantz,I pity your husband. I have had plenty of lady friends as just friends. Wonderful friendships.

If your husband is worried about possible unfaithfulness issues, either he is brainwashed with the JW nonsense about male/female relationships, or he secretly wants to sleep with a lot of women. I am very serious. My ex was the jealous type, and always accused me of wanting to sleep with all of my lady friends. Finally, she told me she wanted to take a lover.

Xena,

I can't be friends with men, well I don't know how to be. lol I just seem to screw things up.....

That's cause you are so damn sexy, baby! Come visit me and "screw up" with me.

Xena, why havent you emailed me or answered my emails? There is so much I want to talk to you about, find out how you are doing, and also, I worry about you. Email me and tell me you are OK...pleazzzzzzzze. Email me at [email protected]

Oh I am a kinda seperated woman.

Change the gender, and I can say, "Me too." The kinda part is the hard part to take, much harder than definitely being either way.

Richard

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