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  A tale of three sisters.........

  by Tatiana in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  it started in 1956. a girl was born.

  with lovely strawberry blonde, curly hair.

  dad and mom kissing.

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  SloBoy

  Dear Tatiana,

  Horrific!

  I am one of many sisters. Four have the same parents. We four no longer attend the KH. We four have had similar struggles. Much in your story I could identify with.

  I agree with you. Education is the way out. I work 40+ hrs a week and go to college. I am in my mid forties. I read something beautiful on the board at school the other day:

  "Knowledge is not information, Knowledge is transformation".

  I have my share of PostTraumaticStressDisorder, Al-Anon Issues, Abandonment & Rejection issues etc. All I can say is, if you are triggered or frightened or despairing, get help. Reach out. Go to Al-Anon or CoDependents Anonymous or a Women's Shelter. Find out why we repeat harmful patterns in our life. First and Foremost, Love yourself, nurture and care for yourself the way you wish your Mother would have. She is incapable of stepping up and doing that job. Only you can do it now.

  All the best. No criticism. Only Empathy.

  SloBoy's Spouse
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  I am so depressed

  by Sadie5 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my hubby and i are closing our business.

  2002 was a terrible year.

  we've been in business for 10 years and in 2002 we earned only 60% of our average.

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  Sadie...I can soooo relate...I take it one day at a time. Hope your kids are all grown.

  From another fifty year-old
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  A tale of three sisters.........

  by Tatiana in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  it started in 1956. a girl was born.

  with lovely strawberry blonde, curly hair.

  dad and mom kissing.

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  SloBoy

  Tatiana,

  Damn!! girl, keep going and remember what Shawn Colvin said, " I'll always be telling my story".
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  confused and disfellowshipped

  by daddysgirl in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hello, ive been disfellowshipped for being with my boyfriend who is a witness also, i'm sad and dont know what to do now, so ive been looking around for answers, and found this site.

  i don't want to go back because the people i thought i loved, the fellow brothers and sisters , didnt seem to care when i was having problems, and i wondered where the "love" was in the organization.

  so there is my problem.

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  Daddysgirl,

  Welcome to this site. You have made a very important first step in finding real help. Something to consider about "going back"; do you know that many battered women feel the need to "go back" or stay with their abuser? Why is that? Do some research and you'll see that there are many similarities with the "Organization".
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  This site mentioned in California paper

  by dannyboy in

  1. social
  2. current

  this website has received a brief but favorable mention in the sacramento, california "bee" in an article about the bryant tragedy (in oregon).

  the bryants had lived in the sacramento area, hence the paper's interest.

  here's a link to the on-line story: .

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  SloBoy

  Dannyboy,

  Thanks for the article. I'm sure it is receiving a lot of coverage in that large metro area. We are close to Placerville and will try to make the memorial.
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  Being JW did not make me a better person...

  by Granny Linda in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  no, it wasn't that group of people who showed me what life is about.

  hell, their so busy preparing to die that it seems life eludes them.

  it was by becoming an active participant in my own adventure.

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  Great thread.....I've had this discussion a few times with ex-JW's. One of the pat responses from Witnesses is " How can you turn your back on God's organization after all it has done for you? " In thinking that over, I have to be honest and say, yes, one of the greatest gifts of my life was found at a Kingdom Hall; my WIFE!! But I did not discover my spiritual need, my sense of honesty, my work ethic, or sobriety at the KH. And my wife and I are quite sure that if we had not put some distance between us and the sick dynamics that so saturates most KH's, we would not be married ( and happily I might add ) today. There are indeed so many people and organizations that I am indebted to for whatever quality of life I have today, but the Watchtower Publishing Corp. is far, far down that list. Did I say FAR DOWN?
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  Drifting Away Signs

  by JH in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  what signs did you give, when you started drifting away?

  were you able to tell who was slowly drifting away in you congregation just by their attitude?edited by - jh on 19 january 2003 19:18:56.

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  - Talking-up the benefits of 12 step principles

  -Focusing more on salvation as a gift and not something earned

  -Learning to love/respect/dignify my neighbor without conditions
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  Society's damage limitation article.

  by dmouse in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  troubled by reports of the very problems that were supposed to be only the mark of false religions peadophilia (and hiding it) and hypocrisy (supporting the un) many honest hearted jws, it seems, have slowed down their meeting attendance and field ministry.

  what has the society done to calm these very real worries concerning actual, not imagined, problems.. .

  simple.

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  I hope every individual in the media that has ever done anything on the JW molest scandal gets a scanned copy of this Branch-Davidian like lunacy.
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  A newbie says hello

  by Icansaylucky in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hello, i've been a lurker for about a year now and finally decided to register and start posting.

  i don't have time to tell my story right now, but plan on doing so soon.

  i guess i'm putting it off as i'm not sure where to start without it being a book.

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  SloBoy

  Oh my!!!!......another poster. Simon's gonna be RICH!!!... RICH I tell ya!
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  St. Louis Reporter Seeks Silentlambs for Interview

  by abbagail in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  from: "silentlambs" [email protected].

  date: tue, 7 jan 2003 23:19:35 -0600. to: [email protected].

  subject: st louis area.

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  SwordofJah,

  I detect a bit of a double standard. If waiting on Jah is such a fundamental part of the Watchtower Publishing Company's teaching, then why do they maintain a legal dept., chock full of lawyers, poised to take ANY and ALL matters into litigation, whether they be defendant or plaintiff. A legal dept., I might add, of formidable financial clout, funded on the backs of those "waiting on Jah".