Harder for born in because of the family being held hostage.
Not true. I became a Witness as an adult and started a family. After realizing it was a cult I wanted to leave WITH MY FAMILY. I actually spent six or seven years trying to figure out how to get all of us out of the cult together.
It didn't work.
I left. They stayed and all of them shun me. I have an adult child that lives less than 1 mile (1.5 km) from me. I reach out regularly, but still get rebuffed. This has been the case for nearly a decade.
Let's accept the fact: it can be hard for everyone, perhaps not in the same ways, but it is hard ... and very painful.