Posts by spectromize

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Spectromize - reply to your new post

by waiting in

when i've tried to post my incredibly long, hard, post on child molestation - i get friggin' error messages - i will try again.

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i just did not want you to be honest and then think that i would not feel thanks.

About posting your picture be careful!

by spectromize in

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simon i'm sorry i don't mean to rain on your parade but you have to remember the society and your local elders watch for stuff like that.

this is a very liberal board as far as discussions go and forever thankful for that, but you have to be careful because you could face a jd meeting.

i'm sure everyone is well aware that some posts on this board just wouldn't go over to well with the society.

spectromize

Lol! SevenofNine,
The thing about the elders wife!

Maybe what I'll do is take a picture of half my face and let the local elders try to guess! Lol!

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What should I do?

by Scorpion in

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i have pioneered for over four years.

i have three children and a wife who at times has severe back problems.

i have worked two jobs just to stay ahead of the bills and provide for my family.

spectromize

Dear SC,

In reply to " I've gotten to the point of burn out and badly need a rest."

Be sure your health is intact. I'm saying this not to discourage you from your activities but if you burn yourself out who's going to look after your family? Isn't your body telling you something when you say you badly need a rest?

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Spectromize - reply to your new post

by waiting in

when i've tried to post my incredibly long, hard, post on child molestation - i get friggin' error messages - i will try again.

.

i just did not want you to be honest and then think that i would not feel thanks.

spectromize

Dear SevenofNine,

Thank you for the encouragement and yes children need to know it's ok to tell if something like this happens. Hugs to you too!

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Spectromize - reply to your new post

by waiting in

when i've tried to post my incredibly long, hard, post on child molestation - i get friggin' error messages - i will try again.

.

i just did not want you to be honest and then think that i would not feel thanks.

spectromize

Dear Waiting,

Some of us have been short changed in life starting very young, but with a strong will and help from above, a person can snap back together and lead a productive life.

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Just saying Hi

by Ozzygal in

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i've been lurking for a while, and feeling a little guilty about being here.

you know, the ol' internet is evil thing.

it's been a big topic down our way recently.

spectromize

Hi Ozzygal,

Welcome and I don't feel you should feel guilty.
The society is the biggest fan of the internet. How else could they ever come up with the kingdom ministry on the internet and it's dangers. Personally I feel if they could put up a website then they should have no problem with me being here. Otherwise we might as well go back to the dark ages. So please start getting rid of your telephone , tv, microwave...lol!

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Spectromize - reply to your new post

by waiting in

when i've tried to post my incredibly long, hard, post on child molestation - i get friggin' error messages - i will try again.

.

i just did not want you to be honest and then think that i would not feel thanks.

spectromize

Thank you for your kind words Waiting.

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Writing private letters to the Society.

by spectromize in

for anyone who's ever written something of a private nature or asked clarification on certain beliefs have you ever had the unfortunate experience of the elders calling you in the back room or a sheperding call ?.

the reason i bring this out is that newer brothers or sisters don't know that everytime you write the society the society sends a copy of your letter to your local cong.

elders.

spectromize

Dear Waiting,

You are not the only one, I've just posted my experience. Take courage you'll find many understand.

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Something you should know about child molestation.

by spectromize in

i realize that this is a very disturbing topic so i would encourage some of you before i get into my post not to read it if it bothers you.

this post has to do with me and how it happened to me as a young child.

if i can save one child from being a victim of this, then this will have been worth it.. it's not easy for me to talk about this as this is very personal stuff.

spectromize

I realize that this is a very disturbing topic so I would encourage some of you before I get into my post not to read it if it bothers you. This post has to do with me and how it happened to me as a young child. If I can save one child from being a victim of this, then this will have been worth it.

It's not easy for me to talk about this as this is very personal stuff. But somewhere down the line when you get older you learn to talk about it and accept that this was never your fault.

You see when I was a young boy, my parents were very industrious people. They both had a full-time jobs and I would end up being babysit by my grandmother. My grandmother had many kids, in fact she had 18 of them. Being raised a catholic it was encouraged back then to have big families. It was good for church membership and the donation plate.

So you see I come from a big family with lots of uncles and aunts. Unfortunately it was when my mom was gone to work and I had to be babysit by my grandma that all of this happened. One of my uncles use to lure me as a young child. He would start out by isolating me and inviting me in the garage to play pool with him. Then he would take advantage of me.

This went on for some time till my mom stopped work and was able to stay at home with myself and my brothers and sisters. Thank God for that.

One thing my mom observed from me after picking me up from grandma and she later told me later on in life, is that I was a very clingy child and would hold her and not let her out of my sight when she would pick me up from my grandmother. I was a very insecure child and very emotional.

I was to afraid to tell anyone as my uncle would threatened me if I told anyone about what he was doing to me.

Now my uncle never was or been a JW. I didn't start studying and become a JW till my teens. But what he did to me was no excuse.

One day I confided to one of my relative who is close to me about what had happened and my relative could hardly believe it. It was suggested that I approach my uncle and talk to him. Well when I tried that, he threw me out of his house and I have my relative as a witness as we both were there.

Never did I hear back from my uncle but I did hear back from his wife and was told by her. " It doesn't matter what happened back then, my husband is a good husband."

Now one thing I found about about my uncle later on in life is that I wasn't the only one that was molested by him. I also have 2 cousins that I'm aware of, and everything that I know of them matches the same patterns and places that my uncle use to carry on his deviousness.

I can honestly say that how it affected me later on in life was with low self esteem, lots of guilt and you don't know why, problem with male authority.

So to conclude I want to say that by the time a child molester gets known and caught, it will not have been his first time to molest a child.

So I hope you don't think I'm a basket case because of mentioning this about me because I'm not, I've worked hard at overcoming my problems and have a comfortable level of peace. I just wanted to tell you that child molestation can happen in the org. and does happen as we have seen a post on this board already, except it seems the brothers and sisters take the view that we should never talk about it and want it brushed under the rug.

So I just want to say to you parents to watch over your little children, because it is an inheritance from Jehovah and pray that swift justice come upon those who abuse their authority.

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About posting your picture be careful!

by spectromize in

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simon i'm sorry i don't mean to rain on your parade but you have to remember the society and your local elders watch for stuff like that.

this is a very liberal board as far as discussions go and forever thankful for that, but you have to be careful because you could face a jd meeting.

i'm sure everyone is well aware that some posts on this board just wouldn't go over to well with the society.

spectromize

Simon I'm sorry I don't mean to rain on your parade but you have to remember the society and your local elders watch for stuff like that. This is a very liberal board as far as discussions go and forever thankful for that, but you have to be careful because you could face a JD meeting. I'm sure everyone is well aware that some posts on this board just wouldn't go over to well with the society. Personally I have no problem with diffrent ones expressing themselves, I just wouldn't want to see anyone in trouble because of it. I'm sure you understand.