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  My Grammy is dying....

  by diana netherton in

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  she's in her last stages of luekemia.

  she fell a few days ago and she's going downhill.

  quickly.

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  Auntfancy

  Diana, I am sorry your Grammy isn't doing well. I am also glad she is still in your life after you chose another path, she must be a special woman.
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  HI! im new here...

  by outofthelionsden in

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  i have been reading post on this forum for many months and i wanted to thank you all for all the great posts and comments that have really helped me get through this hard year of fading.

  my husband and i where born in jdubs and almost 1 year ago we started to fade , now that we think about it has been a few years that we were suffering from cognitive dissonance without knowing it.

  we feel that finally we have our life back , a life that is just starting.

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  Welcome! I am sorry to hear that your family has shunned you and that they went to those lengths to find out what you were doing. You will make a much happier and healthier life for you and your children. It does get easier with time and we are all here if you need to talk. It feels good to be free from their crazy teachings. I am glad your husband is free with you. My husband came out with me too and it has made things much easier than others whose spouses are still in. I wish you so much happiness! Looking forward to hearing your story.
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  The Story of Joe

  by dozy in

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  when i was a young pioneer , over the years i had built up a route call and every wednesday afternoon myself and a couple of the other pioneers would walk ( or if adverse weather , drive ) around the streets of our town and the surrounding villages distributing the magazines.

  most houses were empty , which didnt really matter - it was a pleasant diversion from what was generally quite a harsh unfruitful territory to work.

  we would talk about the things young ones talk about girls , football , tv and , er , girls chewing the fat over the latest gossip.. in our congregation , joe , a retired brother in his 70s lived with his non-jw worldly ( but very pleasant and hospitable ) wife , jean.

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  Thanks for posting this story. It too brought back memories for me. I have always had a problem with pioneers that run around placing magazines but they don't even check up on the ones who are suppose to be their brothers and sisters. I had six surgeries and a hospital stay from an illness and in all that time I had one meal! The GB are to blame for this behavior because they stress the importance of getting the magazines out there and not taking care of their own who need help.
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  AAWA is here!! (The Association of Anti-Watchtower Activists)

  by cedars in

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  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fcic4g5tulw.

  http://www.jwactivists.org.

  facebook the association of anti-watchtower activists.

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  Auntfancy

  Wonderful news!! I appreciate everything you guys are doing and I hope this will be the beginning of great things in the future! I sent in an application so I hope I did it correctly and it was received. Thank you, everyone of you who work so hard to put this together. I hope we can all make a difference and help those who are enslaved.
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  Our Story

  by Auntfancy in

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  hi everyone, i have been on here for a little while and haven't introduced myself to you.

  i can't tell you how much all of you have helped me sort many things out in my mind.. i was raised in a very good christian home and married my hs sweetheart.

  i left home and moved half way across the country with a husband and a brand new baby.

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  Hi Everyone, I have been on here for a little while and haven't introduced myself to you. I can't tell you how much all of you have helped me sort many things out in my mind.

  I was raised in a very good Christian home and married my HS sweetheart. I left home and moved half way across the country with a husband and a brand new baby. After 5 years of marriage it ended. It was very lonly for me because I only knew the people I worked with until I met a very nice man. He is a born in and his family has 6 generations on one side of the family and 5 generations on the others. His Grandmother professed to be of the anointed and was a Special Pioneer for many years. He was disfellowshipped at the time we met and I knew very little about the Witnesses. One thing that really bothered me was the custom of disfellowshipping. I told him that I didn't want to have anything to do with anyone that would treat you that way. He explained to me that it was the right thing to do because it was from the Bible. I wish I would have kept that feeling in my mind for the rest of my life!

  I met many of his friends and other Witnesses that his Mom introduced me to. Of course I was love bombed and didn't realize what was happening to me. I would come home from gatherings and tell him how exciting it was to meet all of these wonderful friendly people.

  We got married and I encouraged him to go back to meetings. He told that I didn't understand that it is a way of life and it wasn't just that easy. I went with him to the meetings and had a study with a couple of sisters and he was reinstated. Life was pretty good and he was made a MS and I was baptized.

  He was appointed and Elder and he was on for years and very involved in the KH Buildings. He was on the Regional Building Committee and also many local KH projects. He gave so much time and money to these builds. In the meantime I got very ill and missed a lot of meetings. So you can imagine how we were treated!! I was treated horibble during this period and a brand new CO came to town and felt he should step down because I was missing meetings so my husband said fine!! We were treated like we were disfellowshipped which was awful.

  Many times after that the brothers begged him to reach out again but he never would because he didn't like how the brothers were acting and he was through with the nonsense. My health worsened and during this time I had 6 surgeries and during this time I had ONE meal from the congregation! I kept saying how can this be the truth if there is no love shown.

  We were both struggling and we sought out therapy and found a wonderful person that worked with us and she knew our background but never touched the religion but helped us get stronger. Finally I stopped going to the meetings because of my health but I noticed when I was away from it I felt better. I then went to a couple of meetings and had a panic attack when I walked into the KH and I thought something is not right so I started reading everything I could get my hands on. I was reading Crisis Of Conscience and would tell my husband what I was reading and he would come back with the response he learned for the WT and I said to him "that is exactly what they said you would say"! He said "OK, let me read the book".

  He was shocked by what he read and we have been on this journey together. We have been married 31 years and I am so thankful that we did this together. It never crossed my mind when I started this that he wouldn't come along but I am fortunate because from reading I can see that many spouses don't listen.

  We have faded at this point but I think for us to have any peace we will DA ourselves. We are using this time to help others out and he has a niece that he wants to help out.

  Going through all of this has been hard and in the mean time I found out I have an early stage cancer. Not one JW has done anything to help. It really sealed it for me to see that the only thing important to them is putting in field service hours. I have a lot of anger about all of this. I waisted almost 30 years of my life and for my husband he gave 58 years of his life. I just hope we have many years ahead to enjoy life. Oh, an my family is so happy. I found out that my Dad use to cry when they would get together over the holidays because I wasn't there. He told my siblings that we can't lose her no matter what. They were always very careful what they said to me and I am so thankful that I never cut them off. I have gained so much since I left just in being so much closer to my family and I celebrated my first Christmas in 30 years and my family made it so special for me.

  I hope this wasn't too long and again I want to thank all of you for the time you put into this site and for just being there.

  Aunt Fancy
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  Our S

  by Auntfancy in

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  3/15/12 WT: Health Problems Causing You To Become Spiritually Weak? Then You Are Wicked.

  by yourmomma in

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  2. bible

  http://download.jw.org/files/media_magazines/e1/ws_e_20130315.pdf.

  check out the first study article in the march 15th study edition.

  it seems they are now stating that if you allow health problems to cause you to miss meetings or become inactive then you are wicked because you refuse to "get up" from being stumbled.

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  I think they get worse by the minute. That is exactly why I started to do my research! I had some serious health problems and surgeries and had almost no support and I kept repeating the scripture "you will know my people by the love among themselves" and I thought, where is that love??? I have since found out I have cancer and will be going through some treatment and I have not heard much at all. This to me is very disgusting how they treat those with health problems. I spent 30 years of my life in this cult. I am still going through some of the angry stage but I am thankful my family never JW's so I have loving support from them and I never cut ties with them when I was in. I also have my husband who was a born in with 5 and 6 generations and he followed me right out. One side note, since I have made the decision to fade and eventually DA, my health has improved in some areas. I hope others wake up when they read these awful articles. I swear these men are wicked to the core!
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  Hello to everyone - new member from Scotland - just registered and wanted to introduce myself

  by 88JM in

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  2. experiences

  greetings to you all from scotland!

  it's nice to finally be able to say hello to you all, having been a long time reader of the forum.. i put off signing up as i didn't feel i had much to contribute, but if i'm honest, seeing atlantis' post about confidential information pushed me into it.. i hope i can get round to writing my story - i always enjoy reading others and it never ceases to amaze me how many have had similar experiences.. so there goes my first post!.

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  Welcome from the USA! Best wishes with your fade which is what we are doing at the moment but I really think in the end we will DA ourselves to have total freedom!
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  worn out ministerial servant!

  by El_Guapo in

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  Welcome El Guapo, I wish you the very best. So much helpful advice was given to you and I am sure you will handle it well. Being a diabetic myself you really need to watch your stress level and I too would use that as the reason. I too saw the lack of love and that is what started me on my journey and thank heavens my husband followed me right along! I would recommend you read the books Ray Franz wrote if you haven't already and also there are two books by Steve Hassan, his first and recent book that will help you get the cult mentality out of your head. There is so much wonderful information on this and other sites that has helped us so much. I haven't had time to post much but I try to read when I have time. Best wishes to you!
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  Jehovah’s Witness Elder in court for rape

  by BlindersOff1 in

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  2. scandals

  jehova's witness elder in court for rape, lawyer questions why victim's father took case to police instead of church.

  http://www.lusakatimes.com/2012/12/14/jehovas-witness-elder-court-rape-lawyer-questions-victims-father-case-police-church/.

  lawyer to a jehovah's witness elder who is accused of raping a fellow congregant has wondered why father of the accused reported the matter to police when his church was capable of sorting out such matters.. .

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  This crime is one of the things that upsets me the most about the organization. I get so upset everytime I read about someone being raped or abused by men in power. Their policies make it such a safe haven for them. There is just so much wrong with the WT that you could read for years and and still hear something new! Thank heavens this young girl has a father that loves her and I am so glad they went to the police. That lawyer is no better than the GB asking her such questions.