Posts by Auntfancy

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My appeal was successful. Now what?

by noonehome in

faders: why do we bother staying in?.

we cling to some false hope that people we love will accept us despite our not believing, even though its as much a fairytale as the dogmas based on untruths.. ive never been anything but a good friend and human being and would do anything for the people i love; i couldnt dream of shutting out someone i care about.

and its not like theyd revel in the idea of doing it either, yet its seen as not just the only choice, but also as undoubtedly the right thing to do.

Auntfancy

Noonehome, I faded for a little over 2 years and finally I turned in my DA letter because I wanted to be free to do as I pleased and not have them looking over my shoulder, we have a JW that lives across the street and I am decorating the outside of our house this year and I knew it would cause them to come after me. I can honestly say I feel so much better and I feel free. As far as I know I don't think they have announced it but that is ok.

While reading your post my thoughts were you write very well, you appear to be a very intellegent young man and I hope you are getting or have gotten a good education. Please go after your dreams and don't let anyone stand in your way.

I too would like to know what is going on with the girl you liked who turned you in. It sure does break the trust between you. I can honestly say while I was in I would never have turned my husband in unless it was something criminal. I never did understand husbands or wives that tattled on their mates for every little thing they did.

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Leaving the JWs, experiencing Christianity and finding freedom! (But it took awhile)

by im_free in

this is my first post here.. i was raised in "the truth", and am an ex-bethelite who worked in brooklyn for several years back in the 90's.

a few years after i left bethel, i started to become disillusioned after doing research about the society and reading crisis of conscience (i know..i wasn't supposed to do that lol).

i eventually stopped attending meetings and going out in service.

Auntfancy

Welcome Im_free, it is so nice to hear you and your wife got out of the religion while you were still young. You have a lot of wonderful years ahead of you. My husband was a born in 3rd & 4th generation and we came out when he was 58 and I was 56. So many lose their spouses when one wakes up and the other doesn't so it always makes me happy to hear when a couple comes out together.

I did not rush into anything when we left and at this point I am happy where I am. I do not believe the god of the bible and if there really is a loving god then why is he allowing millions to suffer and I do not believe what the JW's answer is on this subject.

There maybe a creator and maybe not. Whenever someone says look around there has to be a creator but my reasoning is if there is a creator then who created them? There are those that say the big bang theory is false but if you look at the belief of a god then isn't it the same? He just appeared?

I also do not judge people for their beliefs as long as they are not hurting others. I believe cults are very dangerous and I am very vocal on their damage but whether you choose to believe in a god or not I think you should do what makes you happy. If you still have questions then keep searching. Many get out of a cult and rush back into something without giving themselves time to heal. I know from experience that what I felt about things at 30 is not how I feel about things at 58. Keep an open mind because there is a lot to be gained and as we all know a lot to lose when you close your mind.

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My Story: from JW Elder to Born Again Christian to Agnostic

by passwordprotected in

i first posted here on 3rd june 2008. at the time i was an elder, appointed the previous october, i was 36 and i was a born-in.

at the time i'd become disillusioned with the society due to the governing body's letter explaining why the book study in private homes was being abolished.

april 2008 saw me start questioning this decision, privately of course, and this eventually led me to this site, to jwfacts and to many youtube videos, all of which began to errode my faith in the leaders of the organisation.. in july 2008, having discussed my doubts with my wife, i attended the district convention, deciding to give the society one last chance to convince me it was the truth.

Auntfancy

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The Pastor of my Old Church Tried to Re-Convert Me Yesterday

by cofty in

yesterday evening my wife and i were invited to friends house for new year's eve.

we met them when i was a christian and we have kept in touch.

they had a few other friends there as well, including the new church pastor and his wife.

Auntfancy

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JW.org: " One Hundred Years Ago1914"

by rebel8 in

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http://www.jw.org/en/publications/books/2014-yearbook/one-hundred-years-ago-1914/.

all links and content are posted here for critical review in compliance with copyright laws.

the be thou faithful unto death countdown card was used by some in their resolve to remain faithful to the end.

Auntfancy

I can't believe they even put this card on their site, it just shows everyone how crazy they really are.

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Candace Conti v Watchtower Society | June 3, 2013 | Respondent's Brief - prepared by Rick Simons | A136641

by jwleaks in

jw leaks has published the respondent's brief prepared by rick simons in the case: candace conti v. watchtower bible and tract society of new york & fremont congregation of jehovah's witnesses.

(90 pages).

http://jwleaks.org/candace-conti/.

Auntfancy

A lot of very interesting points have been brought out. I really hope she wins this appeal and I agree with sosoconfused that I would love to see them reinstate the original monitary award. It makes me sick what they have allow when it comes to children in this organization. Someone said they should be put in jail for this and I agree. They are getting off too easily if they do not get prision time for allowing a known pervert to take a child out of the KH. There were Catholic priests that were sent to jail for their actions it is time the men who are in positions that allow this to happen should be held accountable. Another thing that really bothers me is the fact that the national news is not reporting this. I know the majority of JW's will not pay attention but you just never know what will make someone open their eyes.

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Should I just DA or get DFD?

by Julia Orwell in

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my never-a-jw dad told me today that mongrel jws who turn on me were never truly my friends and i'm better off without them, so why worry if i get disfellowshiped?.

i fear being disfellowshiped because my name will be dragged through the mud.

i also think it might be a good idea to da or get dfd because then the link is broken and the fade is over.

Auntfancy

Why play their game? Live your life and enjoy your new found freedom! I struggled with DA myself too but in the end I would be playing their sick game. I personally made the decision to not answer the door or phone and am on my way to building new friends. I decided that if they called me for a meeting I would not attend and at that point I would write a DA letter because it is going to be on my terms not theirs. I deleted all JW's from my FB except two and one I may do very soon. The other one is an emotional wreck and I am only leaving her because I may be able to help her out other wise I would delete her too. There are very few ex-JW's that can hold on to former "friends" in the hall.

Julia, I had terrible health problems and some of them still exist but I realized that a lot of it was caused by the cult and I made the deicsion that my health was far more important than hanging on to people that were toxic for the most part. Yes I miss a few of them but it gets less and less as time goes on. Take care of your mental health because it can cause your physical health to suffer greatly. They are not worth it!

We have been out for almost a year and when we started this journey both of made the decision to not rush into anything. Because we did this we have not regreted anything so far. I think you will find the same thing if you sleep on it and don't make any rash decisions. They may leave you alone and you can go on your merry way.

I also like Punks advice, live your life as if they didn't exist and that is what I am trying to do. We get some knocks on the door but we look out and if it is a JW we don't even answer. I have had one call from an elder around the memorial and I ignored the phone. I am only doing what they have done to us and it is on my terms not theirs!

At first I worried about what everyone would think but now I could care less. I think you will get to the same point real soon. You will want them out of your life because you have very little in common with them now. I don't want to listen to the recap of meetings and conventions because that is all a lot of them talk about. I am not going to let anyone try to make me feel guilty which is one of their tatics.

You are like me and have no family in, so for me that has been wonderful. My relationship has improved now that I am away from it and that is one thing I have worked on since leaving. I lost a lot of time with my family because of the cults stupid control.

Hang in there and it will get so much better.

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My JW Experiences and Living in No Mans Land

by wizzstick in

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lots of proper pioneering (90 hours), lots of calls, lots of studies, lots of interest.

enough to make it all interesting.

driving this buzz was the sense that armageddon was imminent.. my father was never a jw, and was very opposed.

Auntfancy

I have to agree with goatshapeddemon, because the more you search and study books and whatever you can get your hands on you will find that some of the beliefs you think are correct are not. I know I have gained so much knowledge from searching. Research the particular subjects like preaching and see what they did back in Bible times and some of the other beliefs and see where they came from and what the Bible truly says. The WTBTS has a way of presenting snipits of Bible verses but when you read everything around it the meaning is totally different from what they teach. I was talking with someone yesterday about the JW's and he couldn't understand where some of the beliefs came from and I said they take a portion of the scripture and use that and his comment was, "It is similar when someone takes a text message and pulls out a small portion of it and it has a totally different meaning than if you read the whole comment". That made so much sense because how many times does something get blown out of proportion in a news report when they just take a small part of the comment. Keep reading and you might want to reread C of C now that you are an adult, I think it was you that said you read it while a teen and also read Steve Hassens book because it will help you to see another view of the WTBTS.

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My Story - a (kinda) newbie from the UK

by wizzstick in

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after lurking for 7 and half years (is that a record?!

) its time for me to say hello.. so who am i, and whats my story?.

im a born in jw, with all my siblings, mother, wife and children in.

Auntfancy

Welcome Wizzstick, I look forward to hearing more of your story and I hope you can get your family out someday. You might just have the record for lurking but glad you shared some of your story.

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Public Apology & Amends

by Cephyr13 in

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i was in this forum breifly about 7 years ago.

probably no one remembers me, and the people back then probably aren't even still here...but i need to make an amends anyway for what i did.. i've been in recovery (12 step) for a couple of years now to deal with my behavior issues.

in other words, i try to make right what i've done wrong to others.

Auntfancy

I wasn't here then either but I think it is great you are getting your life on track and I wish you happiness and success with your recovery. Even though we don't know most of the people on this board in person it still takes a lot of courage to come out and apologize to others. Once you have done making your amends it is then time to forgive yourself and live life to the fullest. We hope you will stick around and add to the conversations.