Posts by Addison0998

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Am I being unreasonable with my pimo boyfriend?

by Addison0998 in

i was very lucky to have be dating somebody who didn’t run and snitch on me when i started having questions and showing him research i did, instead he listened to me, and after a few arguements, he did wake up as well.

it really didn’t take much to wake him up, and he was more just tired of the crazy witnesses in general.

and now we are planning on getting married and fading together so that our families can at least enjoy our wedding, that special time in life, before we possibly loose them one day.

Addison0998

Thank you everybody, you have all given me some serious things to think about , and you have given me some great wisdom to help me make a better decision. I think I’m going to have to leave everything behind.

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Am I being unreasonable with my pimo boyfriend?

by Addison0998 in

i was very lucky to have be dating somebody who didn’t run and snitch on me when i started having questions and showing him research i did, instead he listened to me, and after a few arguements, he did wake up as well.

it really didn’t take much to wake him up, and he was more just tired of the crazy witnesses in general.

and now we are planning on getting married and fading together so that our families can at least enjoy our wedding, that special time in life, before we possibly loose them one day.

Addison0998

I was very lucky to have be dating somebody who didn’t run and snitch on me when I started having questions and showing him research I did, instead he listened to me, and after a few arguements, he did wake up as well. It really didn’t take much to wake him up, and he was more just tired of the crazy witnesses in general. and now we are planning on getting married and fading together so that our families can at least enjoy our wedding, that special time in life, before we possibly loose them one day. But what irritates me, is that he has never done any research for himself, he is not really interested in doing any. And so because of that, when I have a hard time engaging him in conversation about it, he listens and agrees, but he does not have his own thoughts and opinions about it, he has no emotions towards it at all. He does have his own opinions and thoughts when it comes to his new founded atheism though, which I guess it good. But also, his waking up doesn’t affect his life much. His family is not as “spiritually strong”” and so they don’t care if he misses meetings and doesn’t go in service. Where as I have to go to all meetings, every Saturday service, and study with my family 3 times a week plus my dad makes me do a bible study with him in the keep yourselves in gods love book. I’m so miserable and exhausted from keeping my true feelings inside, someone’s I wish I could just die so I don’t have to continue this life anymore. And I try to be thankful that I have someone who understands the organization and what my childhood and everything was like, but sometimes I feel like he really just doesn’t understand, and I’m so dissatisfied with his lack of anger or disgust towards the org.

Am I being unreasonable? Do you think I should just be thankful with what I have and stop being critical of him? I wish I could be more like him and just let it go and not look back. But it’s negativly impacted me so much more than him, and it affects my life so much more than it does for him.

Thanks for listening.

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How would the Borg view IVF?

by purrpurr in

specifically if an unwed woman decided she wanted a kid without the hassle of dating/relationship /trying to get pregnant etc and just got a sperm doner with ivf?

surely it's not fornication?

the whole process is far removed from sex.

Addison0998

She would defenitly be disfellowshipped. And so would a married couple. A woman is not even allowed to donate her eggs and a man his sperm. It’s so ridiculous and it’s really nobody’s business, but look it up in the elders manual!

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Youth and Spiritual Goals in this week's WT study (Are you F-ing kidding me?)

by TerryWalstrom in

i regret following the wrong goals when i was a young person.

such as?such as spending a hundred hours a month of my precious youth rapping my unwrinkled knuckles on doors and waving soon-to-be-obsolete religious messages in front of aghast householders.such as spending my 20th, 21st, and part of my 22nd years in prison imagining anything useful was happening or that i was pleasing the big guy in the sky.such as taking a crappy job as a janitor and trying to support my family on beans and rice while i peddled cult materials, arguing with people who were better educated about fantasy scenarios i was brainwashed into parroting.such as making excuses for my depressing existence for my empty feeling of constant depression by consoling myself that soon billions of people would be annihilated--except for me and those i was able to convince to waste their time too.thanks, watchtower for twenty years of dry rot for my brain, a jehovah sized hole in my heart, and a great big "thank you" in the form of shunning from all my wonderful spiritual brothers and sisters for all my efforts.sure am i glad i didn't "waste" my youth on education, career, lifelong friends, and (gasp) fun!i was 12 years old when i was introduced to the watchtower and the kingdom hall.23 years later, i walked out a free man.the emotional damage took decades to reconcile.i'm 71 and i'd be thrilled to have those 23 years back!the watchtower is one of the most insidious time-devouring organizations on our planet.thanks for nothing!____________________the above is in answer to:.

this week's wt-study:.

Addison0998

I’m so sorry for your experience Mr.Terry. I was fortunate to wake up at a very young age. I only spent about a year in half pioneering. And it was the biggest waste of time. Spending 20 hours a week with self righteous, McDonald obsessed, nosy, paranoid, crazy weird sisters who did nothing but judge me and act like I was the whore of Babylon because I refused to reform myself to their liking like the other girls did. Anyways, after my privledges we’re gone, I started working my ass off full time, and in four months I saved up twice the amount of money that I had been trying to work for for more than a year!

They made it so obvious that they view works as more important than faith. Look a time paragraph 6.

The second reason is that once you start working toward spiritual goals, you begin building a record of good works in Jehovah’s eyes

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2018 Regional Convention

by Addison0998 in

well guys, after a spiritually encouraging convention, i’ve decided to return my heart back to jehovah.

i realize i was just being too negative and i need to adjust my attitude.

just kidding suckers.

Addison0998

Well guys, after a spiritually encouraging convention, I’ve decided to return my heart back to Jehovah. I realize I was just being too negative and I need to adjust my attitude.

Just kidding suckers. Lol. I just wanted to point out a few observations. First of all, Jesus was hardly mentioned at all, it was really strange. I can probably remember them mentioning Jesus twice besides I’m the prayer. It was all about david mostly, and Moses, then Sunday all about Jonah and Elijah. Also some more serious grilling about college. The videos may have been the cringest ever. For a convention about having courage, there sure was a lot of fear mongering. My mother also called me pro-gay for cringing at the video with homophobic Sally. An interesting weekend.

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Seeing convention post on Instagram

by Addison0998 in

i find it funny that our watchtower today was about encouragement, which was absolutly mind numbing during the meeting the way they conduct the watchtower in my hall and beat a dead horse trying to milk points out, (everyone was half asleep and the conductor had to repeat questions to the audience multiple times lol).

but anyways, i’m seeing some post witnesses are making about the convention saying things like, i really need to get my act together and we need to make adjustments.

wow!

Addison0998

I find it funny that our watchtower today was about encouragement, which was absolutly mind numbing during the meeting the way they conduct the watchtower in my hall and beat a dead horse trying to milk points out, (everyone was half asleep and the conductor had to repeat questions to the audience multiple times LOL). But anyways, I’m seeing some post witnesses are making about the convention saying things like, I really need to get my act together and we need to make adjustments. Wow! I never seen this people say this after an assembly or convention before. Of course, all these programs always tell people they aren’t doing something right, it’s never enough, “Jehovah” needs more more more from you. The org is also defenitly trying to make people more homophobic, every year they have to squeeze something in there about us resisting the urge to be accepting and tolerant, 🙄. No, it’s not just good enough for us not to practice homosexuality, we also need to be very visibly uncomfortable and icky in front of people who even support it. But anyways, how ironic though, it doesn’t sound so encouraging to me. I’m so nervous for going next week, I don’t know how I’m going to keep a straight face, or try not to laugh, or frown during the absurd videos, especially the last one. Wish me luck

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Getting Married to a Non-JW

by LaurenM in

so i just got engaged to my boyfriend of over a year.

my jw parents still don't know about him.

i'm currently faded, so they know i'm not a practicing jw, but i am baptized.

Addison0998

I’m sorry for the stress yourbprobably dealing with, but congratulations!

I’m not sure if the rules are different depending on congregations, but around where I live, once somebody leaves home, they can do whatever they want without the parents dealing with any repurcussions. If you are still living at home, then they would get hell for it. And you can’t be disfellowshipped usually for marrying an unbeliever. As long as there’s no proof of porneia lol. You probably will be marked and avoided though. And if your parents are anything like mine, and have a severe disdain for “worldly people”, they might not go to your wedding. Don’t let it stop you from enjoying it though.

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hall crash

by intrigue169 in

i live in the des moines iowa area , i would be interested in doing a kingdom hall crash after watching some on youtube, i would love to do that with a group of people.

i haven't meet any other ex jw around here.

i was never baptized, i always knew i could never live up to jehovah's standard so i never did even consider baptizing.

Addison0998

I’ve watched a lot of ball and cart crashes, and I do agree with some on here that to the JW, the person usually just looks crazy to them and it will make them feel so much more superior and assure them more they are “in the truth”. But I do think they can be affective. You just need to do it the right way. Make your message brief, and effective, because the elders will take you down as quick as possible. Do not be angry or lose control. Most wil not wake up, but there might be one person who gets the seeds planted. Or there might be a visiting person who will be affected by it. I really applaud the people who do it the right way, it takes A lot of courage. I wish someone would do it where I live, I gotta admit just because I would love the entertainment aspect of it lol, freshen up the boring meeting.

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Since Democrats Are All About the “Children” why does ABORTION Not Bother Them?

by minimus in

jw
friends

if everything is supposed to be about the lives of children, how can they hypocritically fight to take babies and kill them?

what about the children and their quality of life?.

Addison0998

I agree that abortion is morally wrong when it has become a fetus with hands and feet. But you need to do research and educate yourself on why abortions are necessary sometimes and women should not be forced to carry out a pregnancy they do not want to have. Alot of people do care about children, but there are some situations and circumstances where it just would not be fair and loving to bring a child into it. And yes, people should properly protect themselves, and make wiser decisions with who they have sex with. But it’s still their bodies, and people should stay out of the decisions they make with it.

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Should it be considered sexual harassment?

by Addison0998 in

on thing that really makes me angry and disgusted is when i think of the way in the past that the elders pressured me over and over again to have a meeting with them over a petty make out and petting incident.

they asked such instrusive, personal questions like, “did he touch your breast, for how long?

under or over your clothes?” i know that this happens to thousands of people, especially young women, and it’s just not right, it makes me so angry that i almost feel tempted to confront the elder who especially did this, when i see him at the convention in a few weeks and tell him what a sick person he is and how much trauma he caused me, manipulating me and pressuring me to answer such instrusive questions while he sat there and took notes!!

Addison0998

Thank you guys, love you all!