Of all the pathetic things that elders do, asking such meaningless intimate questions is the thing that troubles me the most. It is salacious and titilating for them and deeply traumatic and damaging for their victim (the poor jw in the hot seat).
Picture this: a young attractive 17 year old sister bought up in the truth, a regular pioneer, and in good standing gets a bit carried away with a young bloke who is studying. Her father is an elder and the elder body is a long standing cabal of four great mates. The four families are always socialising with each other.
The young bloke goes to the elders and confesses their "sin" and the elders go all judicial. Her father tells her that he is disgusted in her and that she has shamed the family. He tells her that she will get no sympathy from him. And he leaves at the mercy of the other three elders.
At the jc kangaroo court the three other elders who have been her family friends all her life sit her down and proceed to put her through the most disgusting and traumatic experience. She is asked to recount every aspect of the "sin". They ask her to go over and over it again and again trying to trip her up. They ask the most intimate details that in my view are completely over the top. They ask her if she has climaxed. She had no idea what they speaking about and on and on it went. She was deeply emotionally upset.
Flash forward many years and that 17 yo is now a mature woman, no longer a jw, but that experience has left it's mark. It still upsets her today. I am still angry about it as well. I think back to what it must have been like for her to have sit in that room with those three slavering, drooling, sexually-repressed perverts pressing her for every sexual detail they could wring out of her.