Posts by Sunnygal41

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One More Elder who is starting to Question the WT

by sis in distress in

he told my husband ?i don?t care, i just need to know is this the truth or not?

i just don?t understand why.

once again i was asked a question that i could not answer.

Sunnygal41

JT, I know exactly how your wife feels/felt! I went thru the same situation, married to a very nice, bright man who got appointed as an elder, and everyone worshipped Bro. Perry! Meanwhile, here I was, standing in the shadows, dealing with all the crap that goes with being an elder's wife.........late nights home alone, him coming home stressed out and not being able to talk to me about it, sitting alone at meetings and assemblies because he wanted to help out..............resenting all of it..............but trying to have a "Christian" attitude.........what got me thru it was the thought that he was helping others. Yeah, I was called a Jezebel to my face by a real asshole elder one time..........the same F'er who came up to me and pretended to brush an invisible demon off my shoulder, the same one who called me a Brother when I got my hair cut short, the same one who accused me of alcoholism, and the same one who told my mother not to talk to me or I'd never learn my lesson and come back.................ooohhh, hehehe, he had NO idea who he was dealing with! I took great delight in pissing him off whenever I could! And, because the other "elders/aka Good Ole Boys Club" had my ex's nuts in a vise he would not defend me. He was a real weenie and I'm glad I'm not married to him anymore. I'm glad I'm out. I'm glad I can stand toe to toe with my boyfriend and glare into his eyes and call him an asshole............and sometimes he laughs and says I'm right! LOL! I am ALIVE today. I have opinions. I can state them and feel like I am a somebody like everybody else................and I have a wonderful man in my life, who altho he is not perfect, lets me have my opinions, and tells me how smart and sexy I am and is proud of my intelligence. I'm sorry, this has become a rant, but, believe it or not, in the past couple of days I've felt I've needed to say these things and there have been some real opportunities to talk about it........I even had one guy on the forum email me about a post I made who wanted to let me know that he and his wife were in the same boat, and he was showing his compassion and solidarity for my feelings. Thank you, all of you, for helping me to heal. I also wanted to say that I felt Sis was jumped on too quickly, but, I didn't post it. I had thought that the brother might be referring to having done the research before things were removed, but, I'm still a little shy about speaking up........I figure everyone here has alot more knowledge and time with the board than I do.............and have had bad experiences with trolls, etc.............hell, I've hardly ever posted on DB's before. This is the only one I'm really involved so much with now. I am enjoying everyone's comments and especially the humor, some subtle and some hilariously out and out in your face............I'm glad I found this place!

Terri

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Former "Elder's Wives" reactions to "brief" Elder's Meetings...............

by Sunnygal41 in

ladies, since maverick posted his topic, i just had to post one for us ladies!

in fact, i wanted to just share a nightmare basically on the same topic, that i had last night.............just a refresher course on my status: i was a dub for twenty-five years, met a worldly guy when i was 18 and he came in to the "truth".

we dated, then got married at 21. we were married for twenty years, then i told him i wanted to end the marriage.

Sunnygal41

{{{{Sassy}}}}! It made me feel better when I would think that if it helped another one of Jehovah's sheep, then it was worth it. There was one elder in our congregation who put his foot down once he had kids. All the others were a little older with half grown kids, but, this bro. felt his family had to be priority. I remember being jealous of his wife and kids, but, I totally agreed, even tho it put extra burden on the rest of the body. Your situation is not much different with your Pioneer mom. We had one sister who was the sweetest person, but once she became a Pioneer she got such a "holier than thou" attitude and totally unbalanced that we sat her down and talked to her! Anyways, I do appreciate your response and I know how you are feeling!

Hugs,

Terri

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Are You Gullible?

by minimus in

jw
friends

have you ever wondered whether we are too easy to believe what people say they are?

it seems that sometimes we get posters that masquerade as down and out, searching, or very sincere----when, in fact, they are none of these things.

i know we want to believe that people are not dishonest or callous----but----i wonder if we should be more aware than ever before that there are persons that will always try to play on our trust.

Sunnygal41

As a group, I don't think we are any more gullible than the "average" Joe Schmoe. However, I, myself, as a person am extremely gullible............Gumby found that out! LOL! He had me believing he really was a midget and his family were all midgets............he laughed sooooo hard!

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Are The Holidays Bothering You At All?

by minimus in

jw
friends

this is the first time i say, "merry christmas" back to someone.

Sunnygal41

LuckyNun, you can email me anytime you want: [email protected] I only have the boyfriend and his family, who have been very good to me. Just after I got out, I spent the first few holidays by myself........it was tough! Then, as I made friends, they made sure I wasn't alone for holidays. Now, I don't mind it so much, I just keep myself happy! I welcome alone time, unlike when I was a depressed, anxious, neurotic Dub. I've grown tremendously since leaving that awful organization.

Email me anytime!

Hugs,

Terri

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Former "Elder's Wives" reactions to "brief" Elder's Meetings...............

by Sunnygal41 in

ladies, since maverick posted his topic, i just had to post one for us ladies!

in fact, i wanted to just share a nightmare basically on the same topic, that i had last night.............just a refresher course on my status: i was a dub for twenty-five years, met a worldly guy when i was 18 and he came in to the "truth".

we dated, then got married at 21. we were married for twenty years, then i told him i wanted to end the marriage.

Sunnygal41

Gopher! LOL! This is for the LADIES!! But, if you have good advice, we'll take it!

Terri

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Former "Elder's Wives" reactions to "brief" Elder's Meetings...............

by Sunnygal41 in

ladies, since maverick posted his topic, i just had to post one for us ladies!

in fact, i wanted to just share a nightmare basically on the same topic, that i had last night.............just a refresher course on my status: i was a dub for twenty-five years, met a worldly guy when i was 18 and he came in to the "truth".

we dated, then got married at 21. we were married for twenty years, then i told him i wanted to end the marriage.

Sunnygal41

In the hall he had the rep of being such a loving caring husband, I had sisters tell me they were jealous. But at home, when we were alone, he just ignored me. I simply craved to be touched.

Sphere, that's exactly how it was with my ex! He always had something else he'd be involved in, like his guitar, or his computer, or golfing............all the sisters thought I had it great with him, and I used to try talking to the older, mature ones about the problem we were having, and, they thought it was me just being obsessive and clingy. I used to tell them that if Randy would show me some affection or attention, I would feel reassured and wouldn't have to be so insecure, but they never got it. I never thought that I was the one who had a problem, because I didn't. He got remarried, and I wonder sometimes what kind of woman she is. She was married before too, and the guy cheated on her, ha ha, maybe they are both cold fish and don't have the need for touching, etc. The guy I'm with shows me how much he cares all the time, and calls me baby, and just generally acts like he worries that I'll be around another day, not the ex, though. I had men crawling all over me at work, too, and that's when I realized that I had to end my marriage. I've been divorced 4 years and out about five from the Borg. I don't miss anything except some of my long time friends. Your post really hit home.

Mulan: been there, did that. I knocked on the door one time, and I didn't care if it pissed them off or not. My attitude was he is where he is because of me, too, and he should make the arrangements to make sure I get home safely. I seldom sat there and waited, after I realized not to take it verbatim that it would be short, no matter what they said.

Terri

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Ex-JW Singles - Post Your Info Here!

by pettygrudger in

lots of love connections have been made on this board, and its about time we made a few more!

its been almost a year since there was a thread on this, and i figure its about time for an update.. so, are you single?

if so, post a little about yourself here - perhaps there's a love connection right here on this board!.

Sunnygal41

NOS!!!!!! ROFLMAO!!!!! That was great! You made my day!

In your footsteps dude:

Ht: 5'8"

Wt. chubbette, rubenesque, zaftig

Hair: dk brwn, silvery highlights, growing it lonnnngggg, it's shoulder length now. I will NOT dye it, so don't ask me to.

Eyes: dk brwn, twinkling (my best feature)

Smile: wide and gleaming white teeth, with dimples

Laugh: often

Interests: reading, knitting, cooking, environmental issues, native american/indiginous, the universe, i.e. astronomy, astrology, history, animals, archeology, music (all kinds), food of all kinds......love to try new things!

Salary: $30's

Career: right now I'm a civil employee

In the WT since age 14, outed myself at the same time I left a twenty year marriage

Turn ons: intellectual, witty, well read individual, who likes to travel and cook, must have a great great sense of humor, not take life too seriously, be responsible, a mild partier, drink and do some weed okay, someone who thinks outside the box and is not afraid to be unusual, tatties, I love tatties and long hair, piercing is okay, within reason, must LOVE animals and care about our planet, must be touchy/feely

Turn offs: bad hygiene, altho I LOVE the natural scent of a human body, temper, arguing is okay, throwing a temper tantrum is not, bad living habits....i.e. pick up after yourself, help with house hold chores, I want a grown up, not a kid, liars, drunks or drug addicts, no sense of humor, being anal retentive or obsessive, not having an open mind, or unadventerous

Hmmm, guess that's it for now,

Terri

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What's your Phobia?

by ApagaLaLuz in

jw
friends

i tend to be a pretty wild soul.

i have eaten the grossest foods.

i don?t get sea sick.

Sunnygal41

Things I am NOT afraid of: needles, bees, dentists, rats or mice or any fuzzy mammals at all, I love them! Snakes, the non-poisonous variety....., bugs.....I think they are cool and I've been known to pick them up..........I like frogs and lizards too............being in the woods alone.........Czar, take my hand and let this native american find the trail! I'm not afraid of elevators anymore....................I can hide in a closet..............so, confined spaces don't necessarily frighten me................hmmmmmmmmmm, oh, I don't like going in Fun Houses that are pitch black, I do have a slight fear of the dark, but not like I used to when I was a Dub..........ya never know if there's a demon in there somewhere..........for the longest time I was afraid of men who were drunk..........thanks to good ole dad and his violent drunken episodes, but, I'm not anymore...........

Terri

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What's your Phobia?

by ApagaLaLuz in

jw
friends

i tend to be a pretty wild soul.

i have eaten the grossest foods.

i don?t get sea sick.

Sunnygal41

Heights, big time, I think because my sister fell off stairs and fractured her skull Fire, I think, because my sister caught on fire when I was a kid. I get seasick, so I have to use stuff for it, but that's not a phobia, but, I will not swim in water that I can't see the bottom in, either. That means open ocean water makes me nervous............probably also because I almost drowned when I was a kid.................so, I think that most phobias have a source..........mine are all events that happened during childhood. For a while I was so obsessive about fire when I was younger that I would wait til my parents went to bed, then I'd go check all the ashtrays and the stove and the furnace and the waterheater............we also had friends lose their house to a fire and of course it freaked everyone out, so, I had good reasons for being afraid. The wierd thing, tho, as I'm sitting here, thinking, is that even tho a German Police dog grabbed me by my hip when I was a kid and shook me, I'm not afraid of dogs, and I've fallen off horses more times than I can remember, but, I'm not afraid of them either. Also, I will climb trees, and ladders, but don't get me near a cliff..........

Terri

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Are The Holidays Bothering You At All?

by minimus in

jw
friends

this is the first time i say, "merry christmas" back to someone.

Sunnygal41

Only that I wish I had more money to give more people gifts! I love giving gifts! I also think the whole consumeristic attitude is a bummer, but, I don't engage in it..........I give when I can..........some of my acquaintances will get their gifts after the holidays..............I love your greeting, SNG! I might try that on a couple of people here at work!!!!!

Terri