Posts by Sunnygal41

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What if she never leaves JWs? (The interminable waiting period...)

by AuldSoul in

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this has nothing to do with whether i love my wife.

i always will.. pragmatically, i have come to the devastating conclusion that i don't want to be married to a jw.

any jw.. she asked me last night, "so, do you believe in santa clause, now?

Sunnygal41

AS, this sounds as if it goes deeper than just the JW thing with her. If a person cannot love another without feeling they must change to a standard they have in their OWN mind, then the relationship is unfair and unhealthy. I know this from first hand experience because for so many years, I thought "well, if he will ONLY DO THIS or CHANGE THAT, then I will feel okay with him...........it was extremely complicated.........the roots of it all, and I still find myself working on the tangles inside of my own mind........trying to own what my baggage is from what his is............I do know that I now recognize that if you are not 100% okay with the way your mate is when you begin your journey together, and evenly yoked, then it's going to come around and bite you later on...........in my case, we spent twenty years together and then parted ways.........it was excruciatingly painful, but, necessary.

Hugs,

Terri

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Can you get along with a person with a completely different Rel. belief ?

by JH in

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can you get along with a person with a completely different religious belief than yours?.

would you even marry a person with a completely different belief than yours?.

is the bible right when it says to marry in the lord only?.

Sunnygal41

Yes, my BF is bornagain Christian.......it's called mutual respect.

Yes.

The bible doesn't factor into my life decisions, nor do I care what it says any longer.

Terri

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At fifty, the madwoman in the attic breaks loose............" - Erica Jong

by Sunnygal41 in

i was thinking this morning about an incident that happened yesterday and came to a very welcome realization..like rett butler, i simply dont give a damn..what others preconceived notions or expectations of me are anymore.i am happy, and content with who and where i am in my life.its a good place to be emotionally and mentally, after being soooo tormented for so many years.with all the negative people pleasing baggage i carried around.its like erica jong said:at fifty, the madwoman in the attic breaks loose, stomps down the stairs, and sets fire to the house.

she won't be imprisoned anymore.its a great place to be, as a woman.anyone else care to share?.

terri.

Sunnygal41

Sherry!!! I love you, too, hon!!! I am very very blessed, I know that, and life is good. Like you, I've gotten used to being eccentric..........and love to see people's looks when I say or do something unusual............lol..........the other day, one of our managers, who happens to be only 28 years old and a love, looked at me and said: "my god, HOW old are you?" When I told him 49 plus a few months, he looked shocked and said: "and not ONE wrinkle!" I simply smiled and said I had inherited good genes from my women ancestors........although, it may be the men too.........I had an Aunt, Kat, who died at 102 years of age..........that would be cool, to live to 100 or over.........quite an accomplishment.............

Terri

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At fifty, the madwoman in the attic breaks loose............" - Erica Jong

by Sunnygal41 in

i was thinking this morning about an incident that happened yesterday and came to a very welcome realization..like rett butler, i simply dont give a damn..what others preconceived notions or expectations of me are anymore.i am happy, and content with who and where i am in my life.its a good place to be emotionally and mentally, after being soooo tormented for so many years.with all the negative people pleasing baggage i carried around.its like erica jong said:at fifty, the madwoman in the attic breaks loose, stomps down the stairs, and sets fire to the house.

she won't be imprisoned anymore.its a great place to be, as a woman.anyone else care to share?.

terri.

Sunnygal41

bttt

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What are you now ?

by moomanchu in

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curious as to what exwitnesses have become or believe.

i haven't joined any religous group and do not attend any services.

(have visited a church's service)

Sunnygal41

Hey, Moo! Love the avatar, btw..........I, myself have gained a well developed Bullshitometer since leaving the organization. As for your question, I am "pagan/animist" in orientation..........I've studied with a shaman elder and view religion and "God" completely differently than when I was a witness. Actually, I have gone back to those beliefs that I had before I was side tracked, and know I have found my true spiritual home. i am very very happy and feel blessed every day.

Terri

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I'm sooooo low in my spirits today... :(

by FreedomFrog in

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i'm not going to get into much details but i'm just so depressed today.

today i feel like i'm living in a personal hell.

i have been sinking into this depression lately and it seems like it's starting to consume me.

Sunnygal41

Dearest FreedomFrog, I love you, hon................please know that I have been where you are and can truly empathize with you..........but, it gets better!!!! I know, because it has for me..................PM me if you would like to know more about the meds that have helped me to function as a normal human.........

In true love,

Terri

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Do One Nice Thing..............

by Sunnygal41 in

in honor of their wedding, newlyweds aviva presser and erez lieberman wanted to do something different.

the two harvard and mit phd students were thinking beyond their big day.

they wanted to spread their joy around.

Sunnygal41

God/ess Bless ya, Shelly!!!

Terri

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At fifty, the madwoman in the attic breaks loose............" - Erica Jong

by Sunnygal41 in

i was thinking this morning about an incident that happened yesterday and came to a very welcome realization..like rett butler, i simply dont give a damn..what others preconceived notions or expectations of me are anymore.i am happy, and content with who and where i am in my life.its a good place to be emotionally and mentally, after being soooo tormented for so many years.with all the negative people pleasing baggage i carried around.its like erica jong said:at fifty, the madwoman in the attic breaks loose, stomps down the stairs, and sets fire to the house.

she won't be imprisoned anymore.its a great place to be, as a woman.anyone else care to share?.

terri.

Sunnygal41

I am soooo thrilled that so many wonderful comments have been left on this thread...........I LOVE the poems and will copy them into a special book I keep for such things..........AK Jeff.........you are my Birthday Brother and can comment on any topic I post...........and, it's great to get a man's perspective, also.

I was giggling a bit about my newest avatar..........it kind of goes along with my feelings........Krumm is a character from a child's cartoon program that I fell in love with awhile back...........he's got the biggest heart, and is loyal to his friends, but, at this point, he is certainly got an interesting exterior, looks wise. Note the hairy armpits? LOL.........there are times that I don't bother shaving mine either, or my legs for that matter.......I also am amply proportioned, like him.........and, I LOVE what JGnat wrote..........I have my age spots, also, a few wrinkles around the eyes, from laughter..........I have many silver threads among the brunette, which I wear proudly......I love silver hair......it's beautiful and I feel it should be worn proudly.

Terri

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At fifty, the madwoman in the attic breaks loose............" - Erica Jong

by Sunnygal41 in

i was thinking this morning about an incident that happened yesterday and came to a very welcome realization..like rett butler, i simply dont give a damn..what others preconceived notions or expectations of me are anymore.i am happy, and content with who and where i am in my life.its a good place to be emotionally and mentally, after being soooo tormented for so many years.with all the negative people pleasing baggage i carried around.its like erica jong said:at fifty, the madwoman in the attic breaks loose, stomps down the stairs, and sets fire to the house.

she won't be imprisoned anymore.its a great place to be, as a woman.anyone else care to share?.

terri.

Sunnygal41

I am an eccentric independent person. I didn't plan it, it just turned out that way.

LHG, that about sums me up, also..........I've always been that way, from childhood, and for years I cried my heart out because none of my peer group wanted anything to do with me. Then, when I became a witness, I thought all of that would change...........yeah, right. They are just as judgemental as others.

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At fifty, the madwoman in the attic breaks loose............" - Erica Jong

by Sunnygal41 in

i was thinking this morning about an incident that happened yesterday and came to a very welcome realization..like rett butler, i simply dont give a damn..what others preconceived notions or expectations of me are anymore.i am happy, and content with who and where i am in my life.its a good place to be emotionally and mentally, after being soooo tormented for so many years.with all the negative people pleasing baggage i carried around.its like erica jong said:at fifty, the madwoman in the attic breaks loose, stomps down the stairs, and sets fire to the house.

she won't be imprisoned anymore.its a great place to be, as a woman.anyone else care to share?.

terri.

Sunnygal41

I was thinking this morning about an incident that happened yesterday and came to a very welcome realization………..like Rett Butler, I simply don’t give a damn……..what other’s preconceived notions or expectations of me are anymore.I am happy, and content with who and where I am in my life.It’s a good place to be emotionally and mentally, after being soooo tormented for so many years……….with all the negative people pleasing baggage I carried around.It’s like Erica Jong said:“ At fifty, the madwoman in the attic breaks loose, stomps down the stairs, and sets fire to the house. She won't be imprisoned anymore.”It’s a great place to be, as a woman.Anyone else care to share?

Terri