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  Over the Sea to Shetland - This is What CCTV was Invented For

  by cofty in

  1. social
  2. entertainment

  from the comments at youtube - if you are on a laptop move it from side to side and you can pretend you are a cruel god.... .... .

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  happy@last

  You'll see scenes like that most Saturday nights on Sauchiehall Street , people moving to and fro all over the place
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  I am exhausted emotionally.

  by PaintedToeNail in

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  2. friends

  i have been reading ashley judd's 'all things bitter and sweet' autobiography, and it has exhausted me.

  she paints a picture of neglect and abuse from early childhood on.

  as i sat reading, i realised i was identifying with so much of what she wrote.. why, when having an emotional breakdown as a teenager, major obsessive compulsive disorder, obvious depression symptoms, would you refuse to get medical help for your child?

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  happy@last

  PaintedToeNail, please know I understand your pain. One of the biggest issues I had was blaming myself for not having spoken up as a child, however my psychologist showed me children don't act and react like adults, and I was looking at my childhood from an adult perspective, which was unreasonable.

  So please don't worry or wonder why. As to your parents behaviour, it is typical cult behaviour, this is not an excuse but is an explanation.

  Keep grieving, it is a necessary part of your healing. Thank you for sharing, it helps people like me realise we are not alone or wrong in feeling the way we do at times.
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  Reaching Loved Ones Stuck in a Cult: An Idea for Discussion

  by 00DAD in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  you may have heard the expression: "the map is not the territory.

  " have you ever thought about how this idea may help you reach your loved ones stuck in a cult?

  the phrase has been attributed to polish-american scientist and philosopher alfred korzybski.

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  If you ask someone in the cult, what is it that attracts you to it, each person gives a different answer. So too, they each need a different angle/subject matter to see it differently, there is no one way to do this.

  Dropping hints that don't immediately appear to have a direct blast hopefully gets their minds working, don't expect anything overnight though as much as we want it. Using examples such as Steve Hassan or other may be helpful. Doctrinal changes are good too for others. Different things trigger different emotions for different people.
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  JW played me and broke my heart

  by new22day in

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  happy@last

  It sounds to me like you talked about this cult at length, and yet he still went back. As he is not trying to 'save you', count it as a blessing, and try and forget about him, he is clearly not worth it. It's a really sad story, but I can't see any happy ending except that you are free to carry on your life as you want, he is not.
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  Hi guess i may have to introduce myself

  by rickisteel in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hi im from the uk im 42 years old , i was brought up as a witness from birth to 12 years of age i left the meetings with my parents ,.

  i had a wild youth was a bit of a rebel involving alcohol ,drugs , heavy metal and motorcycles , i was thrown out of home at 17 my sister was 14. and was discarded as my parents remarried and neither of there new partners wanted us (baggage) , anyway by the time i was married and 21. somebody spiked my pizza with lsd (cant remember the flavour ) and for the next 3 days i thought the world was ending , i called my dad and rambled some stuff to him ( cant remember exactly but the world was ending in my head) a little while later i got a witness call briefly , i found out where he lived and went and asked him for a bible , he suggested i have a bible study me and the wife took the offer and so it began again , i was baptised in 93 and went from strength to strength in the truth , aux pioneering , volunteered for everything , talks , cleaning , meeting parts etc was soon appointed and moved on giving public talks , assembly parts , shepparding calls etc , then in 1997 my wife fell down a kerb and damaged her cruciate ligaments several operations later and disabled ( by the way the brothers /sisters in the cong were great at this point ) my wife began to act odd 1n 1999 she tried to take her own life and over the next several years took 26 overdoses and spent much of her life in phychiatrict hospital in 2001 she was bi polar disorder type rapid cycling (not the common oh i feel a bit low type bi polar but the full blown rollercoaster ride bi polar) .

  the thing that struck me was i began to feel like a leper and despite a couple of close friends nobody in the cong or on the circuit( long time friends) seemed to care , i brouht up the kids on my own visiting my wife in hospital and caring for her at home , i felt so alone , when i used to take the kids to the meeting / assembly on my own i just got tutts and sad headshakes "she not come" ?

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  Welcome Rickisteel, I'm in the UK too. You've been through a lot, I too saw how unloving the organisation can be, they're too busy doing what they're told to be human.
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  Mother's forgiveness gives convict second chance

  by Iamallcool in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  november 30, 2012 7:12 pmmother's forgiveness gives convict second chancebysteve hartmanplay cbs news video(cbs news) tallahassee, fla. -- not many convicts consider themselves blessed, but eric smallridge does, and for good reason.

  he's getting out of prison -- way early.. .

  "it's going to be like being on borrowed time, because i know i should still be in prison, because the justice system said i should still be in prison," eric says.. .

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  Mixed messages here, I still think if you drink and drive you have to pay the price, drink and drive and kill you lose all rights. I don't know the whole story, I really hope he spends the rest of his life stopping others doing what he did.
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  DF/DA for giving kid blood transfusion

  by turtleturtle in

  1. watchtower
  2. medical

  can jws be df/da for giving their kid a blood transfusion?.

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  I would say if you protested but the doctors gave the kid blood anyway then there's no grounds for DFing, if you sanctioned it then possibly depending on which elders deal with it.
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  A new life with my long lost brother...

  by TimeBandit in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  as some of you may know, about two years ago my brother contacted me on fb.

  i hadn't seen or heard from him in roughly 12 years before that.

  things progressed well once he found out that i and the wife had left the jws.

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  happy@last

  Thank you for sharing such a positive story, it just proves that there is always another path, one perhaps never considered that can lead to happy times
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  This article literally made me tear up a little .... for a good reason

  by EntirelyPossible in

  1. social
  2. current

  http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2241454/now-thats-customer-service-lego-tracks-rare-train-set-aspergers-boy-11-saved-years-discover-longer-made.html.

  now that's customer service!

  lego tracks down rare train set for asperger's boy, 11, who saved up for it for two years only to discover it was no longer made.

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  happy@last

  Superb, congratulations to the person in Lego for making it happen also.
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  What was the worst thing an "elder" ever did to you ?

  by Pitchess Co-Gen in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  the worst thing an "elder" ever did to me was in 2008. i was in one congregation, but i wanted to return to my home congregation because i've been reproved there twice ( once private and the last one public ).

  when i came into this congregation in 2007 i thought i was going to move up the food chain ( this congregation was full of older people, so i thought i would move up faster ).

  but i got into some trouble in the congregation.

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  happy@last

  1. Believed my abuser, thump him one, but still send me back to him when I was a small child

  2. Another told me to move on with my life, the horrors I went through was a long time ago