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  Which meeting was the worst?

  by freedom96 in

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  i absolutely detested the watchtower study.

  never did an hour go by so slow.

  there would the 20 or so paragraphs that had to read and answered, and i would watch the clock.

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  All of em,my daughter hated the meetings and she screamed the whole time.I spent most of my meetings in the back room or bathroom.
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  What's The First Step To Leaving The "Trut...

  by minimus in

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  for those that have entirely left, what was it that first got you seriously thinking that this really wasn't the truth?

  for those that may be in just mentally, you can answer too....

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  When I left ..I was confused about the religion and I always had doubts if it really was the truth.I always found some of the teaching didn't fit with scripture.I have been gone for 10 years now and really it is just been the past few months that I realize it can't be the truth.I didnot know of the false prophicies...I didn't know about doctrines changing and so called "new lights"I just happened to start studing when everything was truth forawhile and the new lights came about a few years later.When I heard about all these changes...I was like huh....so much stuff changed and the "truth" that I knew was different.In some ways,its like a different religion.
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  elders paranoid about baby shower

  by jurs in

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  perhaps someone out there knows if this is a common jw paranoia.

  once a sister in my hall was going to have a baby.

  because she wasn't in the "click" no one offered to give her a baby shower.

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  This may not be topic....

  I remember having a party for my 4 year daughter,just to make her happier in the organization.I have family who wasn't involved in the organization,so I invited my 3 yr old cousin.There was wordly children there..........I had cake for the kids and chips....One of my friends husband is an elder.He became a bit and had a talk..sunday and added not have have parties that resembled B-days...while he said that he looked right at me..I wasn't impressed.

  I recall having cakes at get togethers and when they used to have these dances for the teens.I was like whatever.Double standard as always...
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  All bookstudies at the KH???

  by Intuit39 in

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  i know of a congregation on the east coast that is having all bookstudies meet at the kingdom hall!

  that's right--no bookstudies in private homes, at least for now.... has anyone else heard of this?

  and what could be the reason?

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  I remember they used to change it everyonce in awhile.We would go to the KH for bookstudies...that wouldn't last long,than they would have this vote thing..asking people who would like to have book studies in their homes.When the CO visit came we had the book studies at the KH for we could all meet him and his wife....
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  What are your thoughts on writing DA letters?

  by mamashel in

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  as most of you know, i have been inactive for about 2 1/2 yrs and completely out for about 7 months.

  i am debating on wether or not to write a letter of da to the org or not.

  in some ways i just want closure, and on the other hand i dont want to play by their rules.

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  Another thing,please donot worry about what the elders..sisters and brother..etc say about you.They think they are so righteous,I feel like taking a mirror and putting it front of their face and say...judge me?They are no better than you and myself.I couldn't care less what the elders say about me...shes immoral,an apostate,unrighteous.I know what I am and so does God and God knows what the elders are and all those slandering you.
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  I AM A NEWBIE, NEED HELP

  by wildfire in

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  i have been lurking around here for some time,,, i personally know laurie fitzwater and what she has gone through we lived in bradenton.

  florida in the late 80's .... she is the one telling me to come here for help ,,, a hug ,,, i have a nightmare of a story which involves married to a professed annointed one who made me and my childrens life pure hell on earth....i guess he needed to be replaced as he was df twice and was never a ms or elder..... go figure i suffer from severe depression and post-traumatic stress and have tried to end it all numerous times... but the turning point for me was this demon--inspired internet and all the truth it contains i also read george orwells.. 1984 --big brother is watching ,,,, doublespeak;;;; its us versus them just to name a few of my eye---opening events i have 5 children,,, and only one my baby (16) in the borg....... i really cant go on ,,, i have emailed lady lee and she helped me alot .... but i have to be careful...... there are spies everywhere....i still attend meetings.

  to some extent... missed the assembly this weekend tho.. so please be gentle and reasure me.... i am baby--stepping,,, i am doing the work.............

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  Thanks for the welcome
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  Where are you ?

  by sunshineToo in

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  in which part of the planet are you?

  i'm in the sf bay area, ca, u.s.a. i have been there for 17 years.. how about you?

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  Hi,I'm from Canada Nova scotia :-)
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  After-meeting conversations

  by Gopher in

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  to be able to properly "encourage one another, more so as you behold the end drawing near", we as jw's were instructed to do the following: .

  (1) stay after the meeting for "upbuilding association", and .

  (2) rather than talk about mundane things of life, discuss the finer points of the meeting just held.

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  I wanted to hurray up and leave.I was always tired after hearing my daughter screaming for the full 2 hours.Idonot recall anyone talking about the talks...they were all probley over in their corners talking about my screaming daughter...lol

  To me it was kinda like highschool..they all go in their clicks and if you try to invade..they look at you like what are you doing here...

  I never talked enough and I had one woman tell me that people are wondering what is wrong with you ,you don't talk enough.So they had after conversations about me a s well... *grin*
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  What are your thoughts on writing DA letters?

  by mamashel in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  as most of you know, i have been inactive for about 2 1/2 yrs and completely out for about 7 months.

  i am debating on wether or not to write a letter of da to the org or not.

  in some ways i just want closure, and on the other hand i dont want to play by their rules.

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  Hi,I didn't have any close family within the organization.I choose to write a letter of DA to get rid of the hold of them that "they thought"they had on me.When I choose to leave,they were at my doors allllll the time..even at my windows!Thats one of the reason I wrote the letter.I totally agree why people donot know if they should or shouldnot.I imagine it must be a very hard experince having family shun you.
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  I AM A NEWBIE, NEED HELP

  by wildfire in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i have been lurking around here for some time,,, i personally know laurie fitzwater and what she has gone through we lived in bradenton.

  florida in the late 80's .... she is the one telling me to come here for help ,,, a hug ,,, i have a nightmare of a story which involves married to a professed annointed one who made me and my childrens life pure hell on earth....i guess he needed to be replaced as he was df twice and was never a ms or elder..... go figure i suffer from severe depression and post-traumatic stress and have tried to end it all numerous times... but the turning point for me was this demon--inspired internet and all the truth it contains i also read george orwells.. 1984 --big brother is watching ,,,, doublespeak;;;; its us versus them just to name a few of my eye---opening events i have 5 children,,, and only one my baby (16) in the borg....... i really cant go on ,,, i have emailed lady lee and she helped me alot .... but i have to be careful...... there are spies everywhere....i still attend meetings.

  to some extent... missed the assembly this weekend tho.. so please be gentle and reasure me.... i am baby--stepping,,, i am doing the work.............

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  Hi,I am new here as well.I DA myself 10 years ago and for many yrs had anixety problems.I have been visting other sites and talking to other x-jws or inactive JW's.They have helped me a lot and I am a happier person.I must say I still have some controling problems..I hate to be controled in any way and I can get very sensitive at times and take things the wrong way. :-)

  At first I was angry with all the things I heard about the witnsses when I first started to visit sites.I felt all those years dedicating myself and having that fear hold on me ..that I'm gonna die...All the "new lights" and the old teachings that I never knew of when I was a JW and The molesting issues!!!!!!!!!! sick and repulisive!!! Today at very much of my relief..I'm glad I am no longer involved with the organization.They no longer have a hold on me and I donot really care if they talk to me..I feel no shame,like the way they would hope I feel.I look at them in stores and look away like they are someone I donot know.I suppose I'm lucky,my immediate family was not involved at with the JW's ,so I never had the feeling of my parents and siblings looking at me as if I were dead.

  Well nice to meet yahs and take care all.