So! As child grown into the org. I had this crap about not associating with "wordly" people excluding for must situations such as school ....but I've always rebelled because even at 8 I knew better than my JW parents. I would lie to my mom telling her I needed to do group assignments for school so that I could go and yes do my HW with my friends but would also spend the afternoon playing together.
Definitely wasn't going down well with my mother but it was contained to her eyes. However it got intensified when I became a teen and I had a job. I also frequented a health club/gym and clearly remembered a couple of times talks coming up at teh KH some local needs even discouraging people from going to the gym...had to indure the ear bashing going home but it all went in one ear and other the other as I sticked to my guns with the excuse that I needed it for my back (I do have back problems and must do excercise to this day) so it all got brushed off my shoulder.
I've always had wordly friend as well as those of JW growing up and that allowed me to be a "normal" person. When I say normal I mean when I left I wasn't socially challenged because I had never associated with wordly people before, at the contrary. Perhaps one of the reasons why didn't really feel the change in my life from being a JW to non being one. So I totally urge people to make wordly friends.
Ah! Something else. When I was 18 I had a car accident and was in hospital for 10 days. There were no cell phones back then or very few as was late 90s and the day after the accident my mom came to visit me and was shocked to see how many people had turned out at the hospital...people she didn't know...wordly people. Even more the voicemails left on the house phone calling to see how I was. I still remember her face in asking me: "Who are all these people???" Is like she expected only JW to visit or call. In fact it was few the 2-3 that I associated regularly, sure they came and called but in general I had more concerned shown from worldly people.
Clubbing: Okay...this I have noticed and I can speak for both my home country and for London where I lived...it's all down to congregation mentality and type of clubs. In my home country there are clubs for latin dancing or ballroom dancing both extremely popular in my culture...those you could go without people twisting their noses at you, just didn't have to go too often...I found it stupid that you could go to one club and not the other or you could go to one room at the same club but not next door, so don't have to tell you I always went anywhere I fancied.
London the same actually bit more relaxed as mentality.When I first moved I frequented a congregation in Fulham/Chelsea so very central and went many times clubbing with sisters who were pioneers and considered exemplary in the congregations. Even some elders came from time to time. The bottom line was: it depended where you went and who you went with and you had to be with them the whole night.
