Interesting post, very interesting questions.
That got me thinking... what would you do, if suddenly, in a short
span of time, all the people you care about wake up from this cult. You
may spend some time healing by sharing with each other what the journey
felt like but eventually it will be over.
It's family, there will be an entire life to share. I definitely don't need preaching nor any of the JW activities to feel close to my family. Making up for lost time can be great. What would we do is the least of my concerns. There's an entire life there to live and explore.
Sure I agree that the best
revenge is living a happy life but I am not talking about revenge. I am
talking about coming to the sudden realization that you no longer have a
fight. Something that you did for so long that it became a habit, a way
of life.
Talking about my own experiences, the "after the fight", no longer feeling angry or reactive to my JW upbringing has been the best part of my life. Once I discovered that life is nothing like what I was taught, that it's not about preparing for some future destruction, nor that there's no need to be in survival mode all the time, I have been great. I have pursued many of my passions, formed my own family, have a career, wonderful friends and family of choice.
Where at times you have lost the real sense of purpose and you
were just looking for the next WT fiasco to analyze with no real idea
as to how that would help your goal.
Some have resorted to doing
charity. That seems like an idea. I just wonder how you can take in
anything that involves a "cause" without the fear that you are going
into the next Watchtower.
The charity work I have done, I did after I took care of myself, at a point where I felt that I was doing that out of the kindness of my heart, NOT as a substitute for my JW life. My purpose in life has nothing to do with my contributions I've made to make this a better world.
Has anyone asked themselves the same question?
Not me personally. When I walked away from the JWs, I was very clear that I needed to do a lot of work on myself. I was born in, so I needed to get to know me first before making any decisions around life purpose or anything like that, Those things were not priority. I learned self love, learned who I am, and I accepted myself and felt comfortable in my skin before thinking about doing anything for anyone else.
I feel fortunate for having that clarity as I left. Part of the trauma and the negative influence from the WT is making people feel like having a "purpose" and having "a place to go" should be the most important thing for people to do, where the reality is that none of those things matter if there's no love for the self first. I din't buy into any of that nonsense. I matter, my well being matters more than looking for any purpose or whatever I decide to do that doesn't help me and my needs first.