I sometimes wonder if PC is actually driving folk into one extreme opinion or the other. IMHO, continually labelling people with the 'ist or 'phobe tag actually does nothing at all except polarise the person who isn't conforming to our own grand ideas. OMG - he called me an 'obe! I'd better change my views immediately! Yeah, that works....snort. Oh, and BTW, anyone who simply can't resist hanging an 'obe or an 'ist label on me after being infuriated by this post should know that I am indeed, globophobic. So there.
My two cents. I live in USA, culturally I'm not American, I am gay, I am dark, I speak with an accent, I'm not young and I have a disability. So I know one or two things about isms in this country. You want to dislike me for any ism, you will find a reason for it.
If a person like you tells me that you have no problem with me for being ___________, I may be skeptical at first, may start trusting you gradually, but I will definitely match your words with your actions. If you make a remark that I find offensive, or establish an opinion on any social issue that I disagree on, or just say something I don't like hearing, I don't go around labeling people an 'obe or 'ist.Depending on how relevant that person is, I may or may not address any issue with that person directly. The only people I'd characterize as an 'obe or 'ist are those who openly admit to be so.
Yes, I do see a number of people who are all about ranting about being discriminated against, claiming discrimination very time that they do something wrong and are told, or using their "minority" status to get things. But I am very clear about the difference between having an opinion and intending to offend and shun people based on race, and I am pretty capable, intelligent and skillful to accomplish pretty much what I want in spite of.
And then there are a number of people who truly believe in equality, that is until a minority person out performs him/her. There are a number of people who are full of themselves and claim that they are not racist (they just happen to never relate to anyone of a different race than them). So if you feel scrutinized for what you claim, please understand that there are a number of people who like you claim to believe in equality, but (probably unlike you), are full of nonsense and their actions show otherwise.