chi chi first of all don't blame yourself these people that are our relatives are sick there the ones with the problems.I mean really how can you shun someone you love?My cousin commited suicide a few months ago and since he had left the wt years ago my uncle and aunt had his body cremated,and disposed of without telling anyone,even a family pet that dies gets some sort of service,and if we were to use there crazy logic that the wt puts out once a man dies his sins are paid he's square with the house, but in the crazy world of the jws they still have to kick someone when there downor dead.This cult is unfeeling and devoid of any common sense,to tell family members to shun there own to me is overstepping there bounds.I was never dfed but i was reproved for dating a worldly girl when i was 17.My father an elder turned me in to the boe and the co.Even at that age seeing these elders falling over there selfs to get me to a jc was sickening.Think about it like this even if you get reinstated they will still talk behind your back about what you got dfed for...there's no winning with these people if that guy you are dating is a good man then marry him and start a family with him.Don't introduce him into this cult just to appease the very people that kick you to the curb when you need them the most.I don't pray anymore but i'm hoping you realize that this pain will pass in time.
20yearfader
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I Got disfellowshiped..wana die!
by Chichi89 ini jus got dissfellowshiped at th last week..i feel like dying..i attended th meetings yesterday and ita ws jus horrible..came back home in tears....... people i used to cal my friends nw cant look me in the eye..so heartbroken confused and giving up on life !.
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We are in for a blizzard!
by coffee_black inthe winter storm watch has just been upgraded to a blizzard watch.
from where i sit, just outside of boston, it looks like up to 2 feet of snow from friday to saturday with high winds that will make travel very difficult if not impossible.. .
coffee .
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20yearfader
as long as that crap stays up there in boston leave maryland out of it
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What is your religious belief now?
by jwfacts ini have a new poll at jwfacts.mobi/pollsarchive/ as i am very interested to see what people have moved on to believe.
as this is considered sensitive by some, you can answer anonymously at the jwfacts.mobi/pollsarchive/, or answer on this thread.
this is what i have created in the list, but feel free to add comments, corrections, or options i have missed.. .
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20yearfader
i would say i'm now deist
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Super Bowl Predictions ?
by Pterist inif it has not already been asked any predictions for the game tomorrow?.
ravens 28 .
49ers 27. .
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20yearfader
unstopableravens i do believe we have a victory parade to attend san fran eat your heart out...GO RAVENS!!!!!
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My Jw mother hates me and always has
by 20yearfader ini just need to vent,you see i was a born in.it's taken me 20 years after fading from the org to finally get my mind free from the wt dogma.i was on the phone with my aunt today and the subject of my mother her older sister came up.now mind you i haven't spoken to my mother in a month or so after my daughter stayed the weekend at her house and she was being tag teamed about the hall and how i took a vow to jehovah and i'm a failure and i'll be destroyed at armagedon.this exchange upset my daughter so much that she was near the point of tears when she returned home and she hasnt spoken to my mother or father since.anyway back to the conversation with my aunt,she let it slip that my mother told her that she wished she had let the seamen that fertilized the egg that produced me had slid down her legnno bear in mind i can remember as a child running into her room playing and she would say to me as a 7 year old child "i wished i had left you in oblivion"this is one of many such saying my mother had for me......i wasn't a bad child i just wasn't allowed to do anything such as going outside going over a friends house....etc,i have struggled for years as to why this woman hates me so.i got baptized at 15 really as a way of pleasing them what the hell does a child know at 15??
?granted it took me some time to get myself together and put those hurtful comments in the past,but today when my aunt let it slip about what my mother has said about me it was like pulling a scap off of a wound.my wife always complains about how im emotionless and distance,this was done by me as a way of protecting myself.so i've decided and i hate to say this that my christian god fearing parents...are dead to me there is no way i can have a relationship with people that are so wicked and since she never wanted me anyway....it works out for the best thx i just needed to vent i felt like i was going to pop..
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I just need to vent,you see i was a born in.It's taken me 20 years after fading from the org to finally get my mind free from the wt dogma.I was on the phone with my aunt today and the subject of my mother her older sister came up.Now mind you i haven't spoken to my mother in a month or so after my daughter stayed the weekend at her house and she was being tag teamed about the hall and how i took a vow to jehovah and i'm a failure and i'll be destroyed at armagedon.This exchange upset my daughter so much that she was near the point of tears when she returned home and she hasnt spoken to my mother or father since.Anyway back to the conversation with my aunt,she let it slip that my mother told her that she wished she had let the seamen that fertilized the egg that produced me had slid down her legnno bear in mind i can remember as a child running into her room playing and she would say to me as a 7 year old child "I wished i had left you in oblivion"This is one of many such saying my mother had for me......I wasn't a bad child i just wasn't allowed to do anything such as going outside going over a friends house....etc,I have struggled for years as to why this woman hates me so.I got baptized at 15 really as a way of pleasing them what the hell does a child know at 15???Granted it took me some time to get myself together and put those hurtful comments in the past,but today when my aunt let it slip about what my mother has said about me it was like pulling a scap off of a wound.My wife always complains about how im emotionless and distance,this was done by me as a way of protecting myself.So i've decided and i hate to say this that my christian god fearing parents...are dead to me there is no way i can have a relationship with people that are so wicked and since she never wanted me anyway....it works out for the best thx i just needed to vent i felt like i was going to pop.
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As a JW, how did you feel about shunning?
by jwfacts ini am interested in the answers for a new poll.
also, feel free to suggest other options, wording etc.agreed in full with the watchtower guidelinesagreed with shunning in general, but not for familywas stumbled by this practice but shunned as instructeddid not agree with the practice and secretly associated with disfellowshipped people .
for me personally, i did not agree with the practice and secretly associated with disfellowshipped people, even whilst at bethel.
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I never practiced it, to me the dumbest thing to do to someone that you claim to love is to ignore them.We would go to the dc and i had 2 aunts that were dced.l always made an effort to go and sit with them,which would drive my mother and father bananas.It's funny even as a child i had more sense then most jws,every person i talked to that was dfed was bitter and angry,how is this christian?Most jws use it as a status thing,my mother regular tells me that she's been in the org for 50 years and never been in trouble or dfed,she really looks down on people that have been dfed i think she gets off on it she gets such a certain joy when someone is read off.All my life this wicked cold hearted women has been this way i think the ultimate pleasure for her is to see me destryed at armagedon.If people like her are to be the ones that populate paradise if there is such a thing i'll pass.
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Born-ins. What does this remind you of ?
by DATA-DOG inhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=blw0mnqh0r8 .
i laughed out loud!
guess you had to be there!
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20yearfader
now i see why a lot of people were so pissed off with us when we would ring there bells on a early sat.
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An experiment: Open House for Demons
by return of parakeet ini feel cheated that never, not once, as a dub or as a ex-dub, did i experience the presence, manifestation, or just-things-flying-around, of demons.
not so much as a teacup levitating from its saucer.
no inexplicable cold spots.
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20yearfader
i use to buy the gonesh ones that come in a gold wrapper.prehaps you might want to do an internet search on haunted places around you and investigate.They don't respond all the times to our calls we are only flesh we command nothing but good luck,becareful what you wish for....
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Its been a long time since i last posted, but life is being rough again
by akafreelife init has been a long time since i was on here and life has gone many different ways since then.
been married and getting divorced, and now have a son.
life has not been kind to me since i have left the org.
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20yearfader
i agree with exwhyzee women hate a man that seems needy.I made this mistake with my first piece when i let the org.You need someone to love and be loved,but our being born in the org ruins any relationship skills we should have these worldy women..lol and men are like 3 steps ahead of us plus they didnt have the disavantage of being raised in the moronic org.Next person you meet try not to go all in be confident however a little aloof let her decide how far she wants this relationship to go.Don't start the relationship off on how you were in the org and what happened to you,people that have never had contact with the jws might not understand what we you are going through keep that to yourself until you feel that's it's time to open up about that.Lastly don't sweat this chic go get your stuff from her house,keep your head up and please please dont beg her good luck bro.
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An experiment: Open House for Demons
by return of parakeet ini feel cheated that never, not once, as a dub or as a ex-dub, did i experience the presence, manifestation, or just-things-flying-around, of demons.
not so much as a teacup levitating from its saucer.
no inexplicable cold spots.
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20yearfader
If you really want to contact the demons start burning incense for a few months i dont know what it is about incense but weird things happen to me when i use to burn it.It's funny cause some of the worst hold downs i use to have was when i was in my parents jw home. You be careful about what you wish parakeet,not saying ...i dont know what im saying i just know i have had some weird experiences be it demons or other beings i dont know but something is out there.........be careful.