Posts by think41self

so in the interest of board harmonics, (really i'm just a curious / nosy sob) ...... 1. who here is married / partnered with / related to other posters here ?

and what are your usernames / aliases?.

think41self

I'm married to FreePeace (who doesn't post here much) and my sister is Safe4kids (Dana)...both of them two of the finest human beings to ever walk this earth!

Tracy

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Handling anger badly

by Billygoat in

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last night neil and i snuggled up on the sofa to watch a movie over a left over dinner.

we had both worked late and were tired.

we wanted to just relax and not think.

First of all...Give yourself a break sweetie! You have permission to be human and to make mistakes AND to get angry. It's ok...it doesn't mean you'll be ANYTHING like your parents! The very fact that you question if you'll be like them proves that you won't. Stop and think about it....Did they EVER question themselves?

The denial that they are still expressing shows that they are incapable of self examination. You have already grown way past them...and the borg.

You told us how much you've been working lately. You're just tired. When we're tired, our tolerance level for anything is much lower than normal. So chill out babe, you're fine. Neil, I'm sure, would agree with me on that! If you can't afford counseling right now, read some good self help books or just books that make you feel good. Remember, you may have had counseling for years...but time has passed and you look at things differently with each new day, so you may need to look again at something you think you've dealt with years ago. But somehow, I think you'll be just fine!

Tracy

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My two week consulting trip to Bethel (the beginning of the end) Part 5

by seven006 in

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i knew i had a bright mind, i had been told that my whole life.

she hated going out in service but since i hated it myself we didn't go do the door to door work much.

i look back now and i can't believe how controlling and un-loving that religion had made me.

think41self

Panda,

Out of EVERYTHING Dave said in response to you, you pick out a few words and base your next rant on that? Have you ever heard the terms "projection" and "denial"? Because both of your posts on this thread are practically screaming them!!

Why don't you slow down and actually read what people say...and maybe NOT presume that you "know" them and what happened in their marriages by a few words on a computer screen?

Tracy

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Well he kicked ass and took names...ta da

by SheilaM in

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well here he is a marine, also a private first class by meritorious promotion.

he also graduated in the honor platoon.

think41self

CONGRATULATIONS ANTHONY!

I can imagine how proud you are, Mom and Dad.

That story made me cringe (as a mother) but I know they come out of there MEN. We're proud of them.

Tracy

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Ever regret having kids? Honestly!

by Ariell in

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this is a thread from ivillage.

the admission from these women is a real eye opener.

i think it's easier for a mother to be more honest when she's talking to other mothers.

think41self

If I'm being TOTALLY HONEST, I would admit that there were MOMENTS...and they were moments only, when I did regret having them.

They were the moments when I didn't know how I was going to feed them, or provide a roof over their heads, and give them all the things I wanted to give them. I was so frustrated with not seeing a way out, I wished I had never brought my children into such a situation.

Those moments didn't last, and I always found a way to provide for them...and I think it goes without saying that they are the light of my life and nothing THEY ever did made me regret having them...it was just the worries of the day, and my uncertainties about them being ok. That's all.

And the good times, the times they've lifted my spirits with a simple smile...MORE than make up for the times I wasn't sure they would be ok. I'd do it all over again in a heartbeat.

Tracy

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