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  I really need your advice on this!

  by sunshineToo in

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  if your boyfriend refuses to go to college, what do you do?.

  for his job, he really needs a college degree.

  but he said that there is something about "being at school".

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  I guess what I'm afraid of is that he might get into a difficult situation some day. The company promised him a certain wage if he gets a college degree, and they are already giving him that wage because they knew that he was going shcool last year.

  He is a kind of person who knows that he is doing it wrong but some times just suffers through it without making any effort to change it. It's not just school. It seems like his whole family is like that. They know that they are in a difficult situation, but don't make any progressive effort to do something about it. For me I would reach out for any information that could help me, and would try to change the situation. But they are just-sit-there kind of people, I think. And I think he is like that, too. He has made a lot of progress. He is driving, buys his own clothes, cooks meal some times for himself, and more out going than before. I've never seriously dated anyone. Well, same thing goes for him, too. So I just don't know what to do.
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  I really need your advice on this!

  by sunshineToo in

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  if your boyfriend refuses to go to college, what do you do?.

  for his job, he really needs a college degree.

  but he said that there is something about "being at school".

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  Would you mind going back to him with this, "But he said that there is something about "being at school", and getting some clarification?

  That doesn't really tell us (or you) much. We (you) need more information before we/you can do any opinion forming on this.

  Does he not intend to stay in his current field?

  Well, he doesn't say much about it. I think that's what bothers me. He is shy. But he said that being with a group of people doesn't bother him that much, but certainly a part of his negative feeling, though. He thinks his got his dream job. So he wants to stay in that position. It's just being at "school", he said. I don't understand. Do you think he has some sort of phobia?

  By the way it is a community college that I'm trying to get him going. It only requires 2 years.

  Edited by - sunshineToo on 31 July 2002 2:0:7
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  I really need your advice on this!

  by sunshineToo in

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  if your boyfriend refuses to go to college, what do you do?.

  for his job, he really needs a college degree.

  but he said that there is something about "being at school".

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  If your boyfriend refuses to go to college, what do you do?

  For his job, he really needs a college degree. But he said that there is something about "being at school". He hates school. He took some classes before in which he did very well. But the last one was dropped. He is NOT dumb. He was getting pretty much average "A" in those classes. I think either:

  1. He is not strong enough to go through college life. Hmm....then, is he strong enough to be a husband and father?

  2. Or maybe he had a traumatic experience when he was a kid. But he doesn't remember anything like that though. Should I have him seeing a psychologist?

  What do you think? I don't know what to do. :-(
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  Everybody read this!!!!!!!!!!!!

  by Jesika in

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  i found this post on silentlambs and wanted to widen the search-------------------------------.

  i am posting this message to let everyone know that i have been in touch with the office of the district attorney of brooklyn new york.

  i explained to the person the situation about the pedophilia coverup within the wts.

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  Good post, Jesika!

  Stay strong, be successful, and be happy!
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  I once was a Jehovahs witness

  by sleepy in

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  i once was a jehovahs witness.

  who believed some crazy things, now get this.

  soon will come armageddon, to kill you all dead then.

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  And we had to give up on smurffs, too.
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  Car Wars

  by Crystal in

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  today i had my jeep towed into the shop..i dreaded the ride in with the driver (im extremly shy).

  but we ended up haveing a great conversation about what vehicle i should buy next.. what a perfect person to ask cuz of his job.

  he said "dont get another jeep they roll too easy and they catch on fire.".

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  98' Toyota Camry sedan. I like it very much. The only problem is that some times it doesn't start well; I have to push the gas pedal for about 1 min. to get it going. I'm kind of afraid of fixing it now because I don't know how much it's going to cost me.

  To those who know cars inside and out, do you think I should have it fixed?
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  Too wierd to be true... but it is... Elders???

  by Lapuce in

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  well yesterday i go the visit of two elders of my congregation, my wife told them that i was acting like an apostat as i talked two days before to two mormons, yes i told them that that they were in a cult like the jw's and they couldn't think for themselves like us, boy i got a real sermon from them, my wife told them that i was on anti-depresants and that they made me ack a bit crazy sometimes, well i know one thing, it wont be the last time i will here from them.

  i know 3 years ago i got a talk by the elders but that time it was for buying lotto tickets, again my wife found a ticket in my pocket that i forgot when i put my cholths for washing.

  i got the talk, but no sanctions again.

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  LOL!

  Frenchy, you are right. And Lapuce, your wife remind me of "1984" by George Orwell.
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  HAVE you CHANGED???

  by minimus in

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  after reading so many comments about our collective personalities, i wonder how we were percieved by the congregation in general.

  some of us on the board seem to be shy, others appear to be stronger type personalities.some stories that i have read, suggest that when you left the organization, either nobody was surprised or everyone was shocked.

  do you think that you are basically the same type of person , now, as you were when you were attending meetings?

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  there's a feeling of peace

  .minimus, that is so true!

  At the same time I am stronger, more independent, and confident. And I am ready to help others genuinely, not just because they agree with my thought.
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  Hey sister, have a knock on THIS door!

  by ChuckD in

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  sunshineToo

  Is this supposed to be funny?
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  HELP!!!! I NEED FEEDBACK PLEASE!!!!

  by Prisila in

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  i really need your feedback .

  i am really down on the dumps regarding being shunned and torn apart about da (i haven't yet).

  a week ago i wrote to dr. phil on oprah and wrote briefly about jw practices on shunning.

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  Prisila, I understand the fear that you might have regarding being shunned by your close friends and family. But I want to say that you shouldn't let it terrify you. JWs are not the only people on this planet. Do you have other relatives who are not JWs? You can make new friends with anyone besides the JWs at this time. We are all here and know what you are going through. It seems like Dr. Phil is not too bad at all. Good luck to you!