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  Biology Lesson for the gals

  by Francois in

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  elsewhere in the active topics list is a great post from wasasister dealing in a very wise manner with women's hormonal cycle.

  the viewpoint and outlook contained in her post was to my mind very well done, thoughtful, considerate, and made a number of points that would be helpful to keep in mind in dealing with the male/female dynamic.. so i hope (and believe) that wasa won't mind if i use her post to springboard to one of my own - the mirror image of hers.. wasa makes a very good point in saying that women are jerked around by the hormones in their blood every month.

  and lots of us know at least one woman whose pms reaches truly epic proportions.

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  (((((((Comf))))))))
  I stand by my post,only clarifying that he said "IF" not that he personally gave sympathy-but his next post went on to say the same thing only differently. Some folk aren't as enlightened asa they think they are. I'm always grateful for the enlightened ones such as yourself and a few others. luv ya,Tina
  PS. Posts like F's are a good example of thinking still filtered thru biblical patriarchal nonsense.
  PSS Comf,I'm glad your preceptions we're as mine."D TY! T
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  Biology Lesson for the gals

  by Francois in

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  elsewhere in the active topics list is a great post from wasasister dealing in a very wise manner with women's hormonal cycle.

  the viewpoint and outlook contained in her post was to my mind very well done, thoughtful, considerate, and made a number of points that would be helpful to keep in mind in dealing with the male/female dynamic.. so i hope (and believe) that wasa won't mind if i use her post to springboard to one of my own - the mirror image of hers.. wasa makes a very good point in saying that women are jerked around by the hormones in their blood every month.

  and lots of us know at least one woman whose pms reaches truly epic proportions.

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  You're right I re-read it,you didn't say that-you said 'if they deserve sypmathy and compassion(not that you were giving it.) I stand corrected there.
  But now you say a positive attitude should be had by all? The refering to 'sympathy and compassion' as the positive attitude?
  That seems to clarify what you meant.And it's the same stuff,bit different wording is all.

  You're other points,Im well aware of female biology and some of the problems it has. I don't need your know-it-all attitude on that .
  Im well aware of what's in the DSM- and the politics that go along with classifications.
  Not everyone is in agreement about the PMS issue.

  I have no chip,but think what you like. Your post smacked of condescension veiled as 'understanding' . What ever you write isn't going change how I perceive it.
  And I won't argue with MR Know it all about female biology,lol. Save it for someone else. I ain't impressed. There's a lot you DONT know. Would help if you posted in a less "I know better than you" format. That's why I usually dont respond to posters such as yourself...(and wont waste valuable posting time again here to you personaly) Tina
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  live longer

  by teejay in

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  http://www.apa.org/releases/religion.html .

  analysis of studies shows that religious.

  involvement may be a factor in living a long life .

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  Mornin teejay,
  I diasagree. Larc explained the why of the postive benefits in another thread(gonna look for it)
  It doesn't show a need for god. All that post shows is the human need for affiliation. The benefits of social interaction. We're social creatures. The same results can be found in non-religious groups. Groups that promote positive interaction ,service,and healthy lifestyles. regards,Tina
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  Biology Lesson for the gals

  by Francois in

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  elsewhere in the active topics list is a great post from wasasister dealing in a very wise manner with women's hormonal cycle.

  the viewpoint and outlook contained in her post was to my mind very well done, thoughtful, considerate, and made a number of points that would be helpful to keep in mind in dealing with the male/female dynamic.. so i hope (and believe) that wasa won't mind if i use her post to springboard to one of my own - the mirror image of hers.. wasa makes a very good point in saying that women are jerked around by the hormones in their blood every month.

  and lots of us know at least one woman whose pms reaches truly epic proportions.

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  With all due respect Francoise,
  I prefer not to have a mans 'sympathy and compassion" for what is a normal biological female process.
  I'm a woman,I also breath,,,does that evoke your sympathY?
  Having sympathy and compassion smacks of commiseration for some 'defect' or 'handicap'. Women's bio processes are not defective,-I am not defective-therefore no 'sympathy' is needed. Regards,Tina
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  Not sure I can handle the anger anymore

  by professor in

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  i am over 30 and have been out of the "organization" for almost 14 years now.

  my father is an elder who's main concern is kissing up to the c.o.

  so he can move up the ranks and be important.

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  Hi professor,
  I understand your pain and anger.
  When I first left,my mom started to shun me.
  I got really p'o'd about that !

  Then I decided to let her know how I felt-not about the wts policy on shunning,but about our relationship.
  Bringing up the wts always seems to bring on confrontation between those who left and those who remain.(so I left that out of it)

  I began by telling her I loved her(she has difficulty with this and probably told me this only once in my life).
  I explained that I certainly knew why she felt she needed to do this.
  I told her I was going to let go 'in love'.
  
  This meaning I would always be there for her if she needed me. That I care about her. That I wasn't going to fight the wts for her love.
  I told her that I was a good person ,and expected my relationships to supprt mutual love and affection. And I will only continue any relationship that had that basis.

  I explained I will not buy into the power and control dynamic that shunning truly is. And that she might want to re-think the ramifications(intrafamilial) of such. That if she decided to keep that choice.,I was going to accept it and go on to live my life without her in it. That it is and will be painful at first,but I can't let the feelings of anger and abandonment rule my life. That I have needs and would develop them elsewhere.
  In a nutshell,I was saying, that I was going to go on and live the fullest and best life I could,even if that meant without her.

  If you noticed I used 'I" language. Always speaking of myself and taking full responsibility for what I was saying and what I was going to do.
  Using 'you' or 'them' puts responsibilty elsewhere and becomes a blamegame. It causes the listeners defenses to go up and then confrontaion. It helps them to just listen.And that's what you want. The opportunity to state how you feel about the situation.
  Another thought. By taking it from a relationship perspective, I was trying to empower her. To show her that she could make a choice,based on that and not the wts.(that also takes some power away from the wt in my situation)

  Well,I'm happy to say the shunning didn't last long at all. She soon made overtures to keep our relationship.
  Now I know all families are different and complex at times. What works for one may not work for another. Just wanted to share my experience. And I wish you the best and hope in time you can let the anger go. Regards,Tina
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  Do You Remember...

  by Undecided in

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  i just got home from a dinner sponsored by the senior citizens counsel, an organization funded by the taxes of our city and county.

  they have many programs to benefit the senior people in our area.

  i hate to admit it but i qualify.

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  Hi Ken!!
  WTG!! It was so nice to read your psotive experience. Yes,there are many nice people out 'there' contrary to what was driven into our mind.
  I get together with some fellow humanists from time to time. DO the coffee shop thing. It's nice to sit back relax talk and just be ME! lol Especially after all the years I was trying so hard to be something I wasn't. hugs,Tina
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  JUSTICE #4b - See No Evil, Hear No Evil, ...

  by Amazing in

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  see no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil .

  some see this expression as a positive exhortation to not look at bad things, don't listen to evil, and don't gossip.

  other's see it more like three foolish monkeys who would not look, listen, or speak out against injustice.

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  Hi Amazing!

  I wanted to tell you how much I appreciate the Justice series. I've been following all of them.
  Just an aside,I met a Bro Love and his family when I was young in CA. Belmont cong. I was living with my Grandparents at that time. We had some fun gatherings at the Loves place. Extremely nice folks. Lots of piano playing and laughter. Anyway,thanks for the series. Regards,Tina
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  Biology Lesson for the guys

  by wasasister in

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  warning: i am about to discuss a rather delicate subject.

  if the words menstruation or period gross you out, please stop reading now.. i am going to attempt to keep names out of this discussion, as my thoughts are directed to the general population, not one individual.

  i am fairly certain, however, that someone may take this personally and react with anger and insults.

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  Tina

  Yes Galahman,(munch munch........... I'm a real bitch.....munch munch.........and to show ya how much......munch munch,I ain't sharing any of these ribs.....munch munch ...with ya....:D

  Tina sittin down eatin' at Adam's RiB....(all ya can eat tonight)
  Unc please pass the hellfire sauce..........wink,luv ya cheeky one,T
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  The BRCI Conference

  by larc in

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  are any of you going to the brci conference in waterloo, canada?

  it should be coming up soon, in a matter of weeks.

  they are a really good group of x's.

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  Tina

  ack ros,lol
  Apologies,I meant to address scorpion regarding Norm,,,,,,,,flips down another "whoops' card on the table of life,Thanks ros! Regards,Tina
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  My Epiphany

  by Farkel in

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  well, folks.

  i just had a minor epiphany.

  its a wonder it never dawned on me before, because it should have been so obvious.. we can forget about doing any more research or any more exegesis.

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  Tina

  Cheeky((((((((((galahman)))))))))))))
  Owyagoin? I sure miss you,I know you're busy and stuff tho....

  Handing Unc a sandwich ,big as a small island. luv ya,Owlie