my jw dad calls me every once in awhile and is very friendly.
i have even went to his house for dinner,went shopping with him and his wife.
then months go by and i call he is cold and distant.so i figure he doesn't want a relationship.
They are "Reminded". It is forced down there throut! Stay away from non-believers. Even if it is your flesh and blood.
Would Jesus turn his back on anyone. Espeicaly someone who was kind and loving like most of us are, because we hope and pray they will love us back unconditionally.
my jw dad calls me every once in awhile and is very friendly.
i have even went to his house for dinner,went shopping with him and his wife.
then months go by and i call he is cold and distant.so i figure he doesn't want a relationship.
Our parents must love us somewhere in their hearts. They can't be totally without a heart. They are somewhat human.
They seem to be in a battle with themselves. They want to love us (they do in there own sick way), but they go off to their meetings and at one of their brainwashing sessions they are left feeling guilty of their love for us and guilty for there interest in us (They feel like they are sinning).
This is what it seems like to me. They are in a constant struggle. They are told it is the devil working on them. Proven that this is a sure sign that they are in the truth. They are weak minded! That is why some of us left. We were no longer week minded pups that head to be lead around on a leash.
HOW DO YOU USE THE SPELL CHECK?
my jw dad calls me every once in awhile and is very friendly.
i have even went to his house for dinner,went shopping with him and his wife.
then months go by and i call he is cold and distant.so i figure he doesn't want a relationship.
I am new to this site. I thank all of you for sharing your pain and your stories. I wouldn't wish any of this on my worst enemy, but it is nice to hear I am not alone. My husband doesn't understand how I hurt. He tells me to just forget about them. I do try to forget, but it is nice to share with people that truly understand.
My hurt brakes for all of you. We are better off without them. It took me too long and I wasted too much of my precious time on hoping and wishing that family life with the JW would be normal.
Thanks again!
my jw dad calls me every once in awhile and is very friendly.
i have even went to his house for dinner,went shopping with him and his wife.
then months go by and i call he is cold and distant.so i figure he doesn't want a relationship.
Hi, Mommy1! I too had the same situation with both my parents. First my mom turned JW when I was nine. I am now 38 and have 4 great kids. She through my dad out of the home and got rid of all our nice friends. Took me out of Catholic school and sent me to public (where I was teased every day because she told them I couldn't participate in holidays or salute the flag.) To make a long, horrible story short, I stopped going to the KH when I was 15 and moved out when I was 18. My mom has caused me and my family many, many years of heartache and pain. When I was getting married I would get a letter one week saying she is so happy for me and can't wait, then I would get a letter saying I am marrying of the Devil and so would my in-laws. 11 horrible, long years after, I finnally decided that I had enough. I no longer have my mind controlling, selfish, nastey, NEGATIVE, obsessive, filty women in my life. I AM IN PEACE. She too tortured my children and was so mean to them. I wanted her in my life, but I didn't want my children to put up with what I did.
My Father went on a drinking bindge and never stopped to this day. He, like your father, would call and be all happy (He is not a JW and never was). Then I wouldn't hear from him for months at a time. He didn't live near by. He has hurt my feelnigs my whole life. He was always interested in my troubled brother. He said I could fend for my self and that my brother needed him. Well, I needed him too. Anyway, he moved near me last year and said he can't wait to make up for lost time. He wanted to cook with me and hand out with me at my pool and do things with my kids. It turns out that he just wanted to push my brother on us (he got out of jail 2 years ago) He wanted my husband to give him a job and teach him his flooring business. My father moved 2 miles away. Built a brand new house. He was coming over every week for almost a year. We had nice dinners (all of which I purchased and cooked for him and his wife). He moved into his house and I never saw him for 3 months. My brother told me he didn't want my kids at his new house. Well, did that hurt. Especially when I have a beautiful home. There are no holes in my walls, the paint is not chipped or dirty from kids hands, my furniture is 3, 4 & 5 year old and is still brand new.
I cannot imagine why my Dad no longer wanted me in his life. It just hurts too much to go back and forth and back and forth. When I did hear from him he was nice (his wife is a witch). Now I have kids asking me why Grandpa George doesn't come around and how come we don't go see him. I don't want my kids to hurt like I did or do. So I stopped it.
Maybe after you go through it a few more years you will feel the same. Take my advise. Enjoy your beautiful family and forget about those who make you feel bad. Get them out of your life and you will be happier. You probably will still long to have them in your life (like me), but believe me they are not normal and they probably will never be. It is better to be in peace with the pain then in termoil with the pain. It took me 38 years. Don't take that long! Don't accept it! You don't have too. You wouldn't want your kids to go through, don't let yourself. You are a wonderful person. He is missing out on more then you and he doesn't even know it. Like I always say about my Mom - she is dead and just needs to buy a coffin and burry herself.
