Shelly, so true what you said. Also, the statement of the previous poster is truthul. Many stays for various reasons, whether it be economical reasons, for the children’s sake, for convenience, for status, for having a more stable life. Whatever - what they loose in this is themselves.
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Brokeback mountain
by InquiryMan ini finally got to see it tonight.
actually i wanted my wife and me to see it yesterday, but we were both too tired.
it was very touching, well-made.
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Brokeback mountain
by InquiryMan ini finally got to see it tonight.
actually i wanted my wife and me to see it yesterday, but we were both too tired.
it was very touching, well-made.
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So many broken and unfulfilled lives - - -
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Brokeback mountain
by InquiryMan ini finally got to see it tonight.
actually i wanted my wife and me to see it yesterday, but we were both too tired.
it was very touching, well-made.
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Of course I do not condone the cheating per se, but they were all victims in this, trying to adapt to the expectations of society and follow the expected pattern. (Is this R-rated in the US? Where I come from it is PG11 (it means according to law, children as young as 8 can see it with a grown up consort, but the content is of course so mature, that hardly anyone below 15 sees it anyway).
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Brokeback mountain
by InquiryMan ini finally got to see it tonight.
actually i wanted my wife and me to see it yesterday, but we were both too tired.
it was very touching, well-made.
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I finally got to see it tonight. Actually I wanted my wife and me to see it yesterday, but we were both too tired. It was very touching, well-made. It was sad. The first scene that really hit me was the one with Alma, sitting on the kitchen table after she had seen it all through the window. Although I never cheated on my wife, I never fully became the husband and lover she wanted. She deserved better and I hope she´ll be happier, too. The rest of the film, was see without a dry eye. I guess I am way too emotional. Not much of a macho man, but I have learnt the tough way to show empathy.
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Kingdom Halls and the no windows thing...
by ObservingTexan invery first post.
go easy on me!.
my question though is this.
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InquiryMan
Maybe this is also an American JW phenomenon. I’ve attended quite a few halls in Europe as well, and ALL had windows.
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My life - a new turn
by InquiryMan inive been on the net ever since the miningco, old witnesses.net days and now here on jwd.
it has been an interesting journey.
yesterday my life took a new turn.
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InquiryMan
In case anyone would like to drop a few lines, feel free to mail me at: [email protected]
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My story - update
by InquiryMan inthis past week have had some up and downs, but mostly at normal level.
i had my 2nd discussion with the first gay man i ever met at the gay health centre.
he was really touched with my story, and when we departed he gave me a warm hug.
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In case anyone would like to drop a few lines, feel free to mail me at: [email protected]
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My story - update
by InquiryMan inthis past week have had some up and downs, but mostly at normal level.
i had my 2nd discussion with the first gay man i ever met at the gay health centre.
he was really touched with my story, and when we departed he gave me a warm hug.
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InquiryMan
Yes, and I did reply promptly. Perhaps that is the reason why I do not get so many pm’s replies. I do write them, but the receiver does not get them? I am Scandinavian. Please write me again, I valued your pm, please feel to tell me your story too.
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My story - update
by InquiryMan inthis past week have had some up and downs, but mostly at normal level.
i had my 2nd discussion with the first gay man i ever met at the gay health centre.
he was really touched with my story, and when we departed he gave me a warm hug.
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a narrow label in a naw. SUPPOSED to be: a narrow label in a way.
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My story - update
by InquiryMan inthis past week have had some up and downs, but mostly at normal level.
i had my 2nd discussion with the first gay man i ever met at the gay health centre.
he was really touched with my story, and when we departed he gave me a warm hug.
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It is true. But as I wrote, there is so much happening at the same time - me selling our house, my family’s future/structure is changing, I am attending the support group/getting out of the closet, living with my wife, struggling with various emotions, having lots of work to do (always been an escape to me, I am handling that part nicely) and being a very emotional personality at the same time. There is a obviously a lot of emotional strain, but I have the asset I think, that I have self-irony, great sense of humor, (my "gay" mentor even stated I had charisma), and I am able to speak openly about difficult matters - something I never did before. I always kept sort of a distance to people. What I need now is to be selective, not taking everything personally (after all the world does not revolve around me), not being naive. During my time as a witness, I belonged to a disliked minority, and people had that label on me. The past 3-4 years, I have just been viewed as a "normal" person. Suddenly I am on the verge of entering the "minority" status again. I think I´ll have to make use of that past as a positive factor, e.g. what I did when I was treated in a cold way at the doors? I never took that personally did I. It was because people saw me just a JW, a narrow label in a naw. It is the same now, if people may view me differently, just because a new aspect of me is made known t them, so be it. But I guess for me the challenge is to be able to discern that although I meet fellow gays, so to speak, we´re just as different, although having one common denominator. There are so many different types of people there as well. Gradually, I guess I´ll be able to find my preferences (I am not talking about sexual matters) etc. But on the other hand, having grown up as a witness, I was never on the hetero "wordly" dating scene either. We met at a congregational book study for the first time, where I was the substitute book study conductor, coming rushing in the other, half a minute to late... Hanging out on bars/pubs has never been part of my life. I do not mind going out though, but I have to learn the social codes so to speak. There is much ahead, and I am looking forward to embrace life with all its aspects, but I have to adapt that to my personality, and also align that the responsinbility I have towards my children. But I do feel whole and still have peace of mind and heart...