Thanks a lot for your input. It really made my day! Our kids are handling things nicely. They have met my boyfriend and also the boyfriend of my wife. They are confident and feel secure. It was tough though, to tell that I was gay to my teenage son. He reacted very maturely, stating that everybody has the right to live the life that is fulfilling to them. It made me feel very proud to have raised such a non-judgmental son! The smaller ones (aged 11 and 9), also reacted well. In fact the 11-year old said that: Wow, I´ll might end up having three dads. That was his initial reaction... My daughter has made drawings to both the new adult persons in their lives. So viewing everything, it seems that things have worked out well so far. And I am pretty confident things well be nice in the future too!
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My journey is reaching another level
by InquiryMan insome four years ago, i handed in my last report in the kh.
both wanted our children to have a more mainstream life than the witnesses frame could offer.
in time, my wife and i got separated.
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My journey is reaching another level
by InquiryMan insome four years ago, i handed in my last report in the kh.
both wanted our children to have a more mainstream life than the witnesses frame could offer.
in time, my wife and i got separated.
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Some four years ago, I handed in my last report in the KH. I had been serving as an elder for a decade, was baptized at 15. My wife and I left the witnesses at the same time, though for different reasons. She wanted a normal life, I left mostly for doctrinal/organizational reasons. Both wanted our children to have a more mainstream life than the Witnesses frame could offer. In time, my wife and I got separated. We will be divorced in a few weeks. However, we are the best of friends. The process of leaving the witnesses, in way paved way for me coming out of the closet as being gay. I did, however, never lead a double life and thus could face my family with a clean conscience, in order to use a witness phrase. Now, I have a boyfriend, who I love very much and he supports me. I also have fellow coworkers who are helpful, and actually some ex-witnesses and "Late Bloomer"-gays that are also supportive. So things will work out fine. My (ex)wife and I will hand in a dual "resignation" letter to the congo today, just stating that we want to inform them that we no loner acknowledge ourselves as members of the congregation. The reason: After four years of no activity whatsoever (no meetings etc) suddenly two elders came to the door of my ex-wife, wanting to know if it iwas true that she had christmas lights in the window... Reportedly some witnesses had seen it, and were disturbed. They stated they regarded us as brothers and sisters. (Oddly enoyugh, my immediate family and all other friends/acquaintances etc view it otherwise). In order to avoid further complications, I did contact the elder and had a calm respectful conversation with him making it clear that we did object to such interference in our private lives, although stated in very polite terms. Today,. five days later, I hand in our letter. Yesterday I told my parents and sisters that we did this. My sisters broke down in tears, but still making it clear they choose "Jehovah" and abide to the bible. And we all know what that implies: shunning. However, I do love them and want them all the best. My door is never closed. (((( HUGS )))))
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I wrote you a pm. I am gay, and was an elder - see my pm.
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I wrote you a pm. I am gay, and was an elder - see my pm.
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Celebrating today!
by InquiryMan ini ve got my 42nd birthday today.
although i exited some three years ago, this is the first real celebration in a way... i brought cake to work today (baked it myself - i am a man ;-) and going to have dinner and a few beers with colleagues /friends at work...
it is nice to be included and acknowledged.
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Had a nice evening.... I had a nice dinner with colleagues... For once, I allowed myself to just relax... So they managed to get me rather tipsy... got six-seven Sambuca shots on a row, in addition to beer and wine... But we had a great and relaxed and fun time... Pure fun... And no worries about anyone taking offense...
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Eurovision Song Contest
by katiekitten inhalf way through the songs, and my vote is with latvia.
fantastic acapella song.
beautiful.. nice country song from germany.. lithuania - i dont know what to say!!!!
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My favourites were Sweden, Russia, Romania and Bosnia. Finland sucked!!! But still fun they won, have never won before, their best position was nr 6....
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Celebrating today!
by InquiryMan ini ve got my 42nd birthday today.
although i exited some three years ago, this is the first real celebration in a way... i brought cake to work today (baked it myself - i am a man ;-) and going to have dinner and a few beers with colleagues /friends at work...
it is nice to be included and acknowledged.
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I´ve got my 42nd birthday today. Although I exited some three years ago, this is the first real celebration in a way... I brought cake to work today (baked it myself - I am a man ;-) And going to have dinner and a few beers with colleagues /friends at work... It is nice to be included and acknowledged. It does mean something... Also congrats to JStalin! Morty
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any one here gay
by alexjen in.
hi my name is alex and i was born in the truth and...i'm still in it.......i'm 15 and openly gay well at least at schooland to all my friends some who are also jw's well the reason for posting this is i wanted to knw if there were any other gay people here......if anyone wants to email me its [email protected].
i want like advice on how i should deal with this cause sometimes i feel this oppression(dont knw if i spelled that right) on being gay and also being a j.w theres this i'm not sure how to explain it....like you knw that when people in your congregation find out the ones you know all ur life are going to hate u cause ur gay............this i guess just makes me feel really sad........ kind of hoping that this made some sorta sence.................... i suck at spelling so if i miss spelled something sorry@_@
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Hi! Welcome to the forum. It is brave of you to stand up for yourself at such a young age. But beware of the implications involved. However, being honest about oneself will ease many burdens... I did not have the guts to come out until the age of 41 - after years of being a baptized JW, elder etc. And having a family, kids etc. You´ll be free to create your own life according to your orientation. (I do not regret my life though, but finally I found out I had to accept what I am). Also, feel free to e-mail me: [email protected] that goes for others, gays and non-gays alike. I also like to chat from time to time. Have a nice day!
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What did you dream of last night? Do you remember?
by JH in.
i dreamt that there was a hurricane, and the house was falling apart because of the strong winds.. i was afraid of losing my cat through the holes in the house, because the house was falling apart .
sounds more like a nightmare than a dream....
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I dreamt I accidentally met my sister at a sport event, and she deliberately shunned me and I yelled You damn Jehovah’s witness to her.. (I guess this honestly is my subconsciesness showing me that I fear my family´s reaction when I am coming out as gay to them. It was bad enough for them that I left the elderhood and the truth....
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Poll: How many Quit school to pioneer? And: Did you go to college?
by theredhead inhow many of you quit school to pioneer or just because?
and please explain why you quit...
also: did you go to college?
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Did not pioneer - could not stand the ever-ending "encouragement". Was however very zealous in ministry, Aux. pionereed often. Did not pursue school after 19 yrs - in spite of top grades. My teachers thought it was a disgrace. My parents would not have stopped me if I had gone further, but the admonishment given at assemblies, meetings and in the literature was sufficient for me not to pursue more education and even pursuing a career later on... But they did not encourage me either :-(