InquiryMan

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  My journey is reaching another level

  by InquiryMan in

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  some four years ago, i handed in my last report in the kh.

  both wanted our children to have a more mainstream life than the witnesses frame could offer.

  in time, my wife and i got separated.

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  InquiryMan

  I would like to thank you all for the support you´ve given me. I cherish and value it a lot.
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  51

  My journey is reaching another level

  by InquiryMan in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  some four years ago, i handed in my last report in the kh.

  both wanted our children to have a more mainstream life than the witnesses frame could offer.

  in time, my wife and i got separated.

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  InquiryMan

  Of course, I meant to state:_ I feel (The support of colleagues, non-witness family and other friends etc have also been overwhelming both on formally leaving the JWs and also me being gay).
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  51

  My journey is reaching another level

  by InquiryMan in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  some four years ago, i handed in my last report in the kh.

  both wanted our children to have a more mainstream life than the witnesses frame could offer.

  in time, my wife and i got separated.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
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  InquiryMan

  On the contrary, I fell I have risen. Above bigotry, prejudice and intolerance.
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  51

  My journey is reaching another level

  by InquiryMan in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  some four years ago, i handed in my last report in the kh.

  both wanted our children to have a more mainstream life than the witnesses frame could offer.

  in time, my wife and i got separated.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
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  InquiryMan

  We only have one life, why spend it fighting? Personally, I find it easier to display socalled christian virtues, like compassion, emphathy and forgiving after leaving the JW religion. Now I try to display it cause it is good, before it was stressed so much that I got fed up.... (I was kind then too, but now I am relaxed and tolerant and it makes a change). I feel so content now. Doing that formal step of writing the DA letter made me feel free. It was like getting a citizenship in the World. Lovely.
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  51

  My journey is reaching another level

  by InquiryMan in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  some four years ago, i handed in my last report in the kh.

  both wanted our children to have a more mainstream life than the witnesses frame could offer.

  in time, my wife and i got separated.

  1. 
  2. 
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  InquiryMan

  I talkede to my grandmother this afternoon. She was baptized 33 years ago. She is very dear to me. And she is a kind woman. She knows I am gay, and she is the only one who as actually kept in touch with me in her own initiative and been at my apartment. She told me she would not shun me. My children and me were always welcome to visit her. And I should keep on calling her as I do. She is close to 87. She did state however, that her faith was very dear to her, and that she is looking forward to paradise restored. And felt very sad I had abandoned the faith we once had in common. But she loves me. She has put her heart ahead of blind faith and prejudice. But I have also respect for her way of life and desire to live the way she does. Respect goes two ways.
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  51

  My journey is reaching another level

  by InquiryMan in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  some four years ago, i handed in my last report in the kh.

  both wanted our children to have a more mainstream life than the witnesses frame could offer.

  in time, my wife and i got separated.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
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  InquiryMan

  I wish you the best. A wise thing, if possible, is to plan your "departure" as you do. Make a network if possible, so you do stand alone when outside. Be prepared for up and downs. (I do not feel any resentment for them not visiting me the past four years. They did once, we had a nice, politie discussion, but I made it clear I would contact them if I wanted to come back. Having been an elder, I know all the procedures..... Being an elder, made me even more determind to leave.
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  51

  My journey is reaching another level

  by InquiryMan in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  some four years ago, i handed in my last report in the kh.

  both wanted our children to have a more mainstream life than the witnesses frame could offer.

  in time, my wife and i got separated.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
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  InquiryMan

  I wish you the best. A wise thing, if possible, is the plan your "departure" as you do. Make a network if possible, so you do stand alone when outside. Be prepared for up and downs. (I do not feel any resentment for them not visiting me the past four years. They did once, we had a nice, politie discussion, but I made it clear I would contact them if I wanted to come back. Having been an elder, I know all the procedures..... Being an elder, made me even more determind to leave.
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  51

  My journey is reaching another level

  by InquiryMan in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  some four years ago, i handed in my last report in the kh.

  both wanted our children to have a more mainstream life than the witnesses frame could offer.

  in time, my wife and i got separated.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
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  InquiryMan

  Thanks a lot once more for your kind support. They got the letter this afternoon and the announcement was actually made the same evening. My father told me they won`t even look after my children if needed, cause we have brought this situation on ourselves. We will be told, however, if something serious in the family happens, like death or disease.... How kind ;.-) It is an evil system. But I was prepared it was this way. I even shun my sister-in law for five years. But she has forgiven me and my wife for doing so.. I have no respect whatsoever for the organization cause it has ruined a lot of families. But I harbor no bitterness.
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  51

  My journey is reaching another level

  by InquiryMan in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  some four years ago, i handed in my last report in the kh.

  both wanted our children to have a more mainstream life than the witnesses frame could offer.

  in time, my wife and i got separated.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
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  InquiryMan

  Thanks a lot once more for your kind support. They got the letter this afternoon and the announcement was actually made the same evening. My father told me they won`t even look after my children if needed, cause we have brought this situation on ourselves. We will be told, however, if something serious in the family happens, like death or disease.... How kind ;.-) It is an evil system. But I was prepared it was this way. I even shun my sister-in law for five years. But she has forgiven me and my wife for doing so.. I have no respect whatsoever for the organization cause it has ruined a lot of families. But I harbor no bitterness.
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  51

  My journey is reaching another level

  by InquiryMan in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  some four years ago, i handed in my last report in the kh.

  both wanted our children to have a more mainstream life than the witnesses frame could offer.

  in time, my wife and i got separated.

  1. 
  2. 
  3. 
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  InquiryMan

  When I got to the Kingdom Hall today, I just felt relief. I did not feel any bitterness and even have fond memories. Life is not black and white. Not having English as my native tongue, what I meant by "mainstream" was a way of life without the limits of the witness religion. My life is certainly not that of average Joe anymore - and that was not the intention either. I just want to be me. I am well aware of the ethymology and hidden codes of witness language. Of course I know that when I hear the word "world" it will always has another dimension to it than those with a non-witness background. But I know both worlds. As a sidenote: As a witness, I missed ceremonies in a way. In this respect, the witness tradition is poor to say the least. We started celebrating christmas right away, although I did feel uncomfortable the first time I went around the christmas tree singing carols. The feelings of the holiday is not in my spine in a way. However, celebrating birthdays, constitution day, christmas, voting etc feel very natural for me now. I`d given it thoughts before I departed.