@sparrowdown
I agree with your assessment 100%. A lot of people (usually at least 2nd, 3rd, or even 4th gen born-ins) have gotten smart about avoiding punishment. It's really blatant where I am. The minority uber-JWs are on the social outskirts while the cool double-lifers party (literally) and don't invite anyone into their circle who would tattle. These double-lifers look like uber-JWs to anyone who isn't in their circle. Other born-ins do just enough to maintain all our family and friend connections. All us born-ins know how to talk a very good game (whether you're a cool-JW or a fringe-JW) if we want to...
Just because our parents fell for some cult-crap, doesn't mean the kids feel the same.