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  Grieving for the Living

  by StinkyPantz2.0 in

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  i originally wrote this blog a few years ago, but yesterday a friend that is struggling to decide whether or not she will tell her family that she no longer accepts the jehovahs witness religious doctrine reminded me of it so i am re-sharing (with updates).. its not always completely freeing to come out of the closet (as an atheist in my case) and i wanted her to understand that.. i had a very strange realization recently: i dont know what its like to be someones adult child.

  my parents didnt get the privilege of seeing me come of age.

  i didnt get walked down the aisle when i got married.

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  I originally wrote this blog a few years ago, but yesterday a friend that is struggling to decide whether or not she will tell her family that she no longer accepts the Jehovah’s Witness religious doctrine reminded me of it so I am re-sharing (with updates).

  It’s not always completely freeing to come out of the closet (as an atheist in my case) and I wanted her to understand that.

  I had a very strange realization recently: I don’t know what it’s like to be someone’s adult child. My parents didn’t get the privilege of seeing me come of age. I didn’t get walked down the aisle when I got married. I didn’t get parental advice when I went house hunting. I missed out on seeing pride in their eyes when I received my degrees. I haven’t had their shoulders to lean on when I struggled with infertility. I’ve never gotten relationship advice or job advice or any other counsel an adult child needs. We haven’t discussed politics or philosophy or any other complex subject matter. No, my parents aren’t dead, but I grieve for them all the same.

  Click here to read the rest: http://www.freethoughtify.com/grieving-for-the-living/
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  Biological V. Logical Family

  by StinkyPantz2.0 in

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  "sunday was mothers day, one of the worst days of the year for me emotionally, and not because my mother has died (although i still grieve for her).

  my biological family disowned me because i rejected the religion that they chose for me at birth.

  when i talk about this with others, especially those that havent been through it, they usually say, get over them.

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  " Sunday was Mother’s Day, one of the worst days of the year for me emotionally, and not because my mother has died (although I still grieve for her ). My biological family disowned me because I rejected the religion that they chose for me at birth. When I talk about this with others, especially those that haven’t been through it, they usually say, “Get over them. They don’t deserve you. Make a new family “. If you have a recipe for making a new family, by all means share!

  This “make a new family” is not a simple feat, especially while you are grieving the old one. When a person loses a child, you wouldn’t tell them to “get over it, make another child”." (Click here to read the rest of the blog).
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  Happy Un-Mothers Day to the Shunned, Abused, Abandoned

  by StinkyPantz2.0 in

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  today is the day to celebrate good mothers.

  unfortunately, not everyone was raised by one.

  here is a letter to my estranged mother: "mama, i'd like to introduce myself" .

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  Today is the day to celebrate GOOD Mothers. Unfortunately, not everyone was raised by one. If you are one of those, know that you are NOT alone.
  
  Here is a letter to my estranged mother: "Mama, I'd Like to Introduce Myself"

  
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  Who would you date?

  by MsD in

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  i was just wondering i have a friend who is getting divorced.

  she is 32yrs old and has 4 children ranging from 10 yrs old to 18 mths old and i wonder if she can ever really date again?

  she's a really pretty woman but still i wonder.

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  Wow. " I wonder if she can ever really date again?" Why? Because all men are jerks?
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  A Letter to My Mother :-(

  by StinkyPantz2.0 in

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  hi mama, im bridget gaudette, your 34-year-old daughter.

  we havent talked much the last dozen or so years.

  i know its because i rejected my religious upbringing and you felt you had to choose between god and me.

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  Hi Mama, I’m Bridget Gaudette, your 34-year-old daughter. We haven’t talked much the last dozen or so years. I know it’s because I rejected my religious upbringing and you felt you had to choose between god and me. I was young then.. just figuring things out in life and I really needed you.. (read the rest of the letter here).
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  You Might Be a Jehovah’s Witness if…

  by StinkyPantz2.0 in

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  if a pioneer is not a stereo.. if new light never requires batteries.. if a tract has nothing to do with land.. if the new system isnt a car stereo.. if a great crowd isnt an easy to please audience.. if the friends are people you may or may not know.. if you can have a bible study without pulling out a bible.. if memorial day isnt in may.. if starting your time has nothing to do with getting paid or going to prison.. if you spent five days at a baseball stadium, and never saw a single pitch.. for more click here..

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  If a “pioneer” is not a stereo.

  If “new light” never requires batteries.

  If a “tract” has nothing to do with land.

  If the “new system” isn’t a car stereo.

  If a “great crowd” isn’t an easy to please audience.

  If “the friends” are people you may or may not know.

  If you can have a “Bible study” without pulling out a Bible.

  If “Memorial Day” isn’t in May.

  If “starting your time” has nothing to do with getting paid or going to prison.

  If you spent five days at a baseball stadium, and never saw a single pitch.

  For more click here.
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  When parents disown their teenaged or young adult children, they miss out on seeing them mature.

  by StinkyPantz2.0 in

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  i daydream about the conversation i'd have with my jw mother now that i am in my mid-thirties.

  id love for her to get to know me.

  what would she think of her grown up daughter?:.

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  Thank you for all of the kind comments! I'm writing a book about disownment. It's been cathartic. Today is hard because it's my mother's and brother's birthdays.
  
  http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/1433423258/grieving-for-the-living
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  When parents disown their teenaged or young adult children, they miss out on seeing them mature.

  by StinkyPantz2.0 in

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  i daydream about the conversation i'd have with my jw mother now that i am in my mid-thirties.

  id love for her to get to know me.

  what would she think of her grown up daughter?:.

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  I daydream about the conversation I'd have with my JW mother now that I am in my mid-thirties. I’d love for her to get to know me. What would she think of her grown up daughter?:

  Mama, I'd like to introduce myself... (click here to read the rest of the letter).
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  Love: The Secondhand Emotion

  by StinkyPantz2.0 in

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  i am the disowned child of two jehovahs witnesses.

  im writing a book about this experience (along with other stories from disowned individuals).

  as a courtesy, i called my mother last week to let her know about it.

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  I used to post here many years ago.
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  Love: The Secondhand Emotion

  by StinkyPantz2.0 in

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  i am the disowned child of two jehovahs witnesses.

  im writing a book about this experience (along with other stories from disowned individuals).

  as a courtesy, i called my mother last week to let her know about it.

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  I am the disowned child of two Jehovah’s Witnesses . I’m writing a book about this experience (along with other stories from disowned individuals). As a courtesy, I called my mother last week to let her know about it. I didn’t want her to walk by a Barnes & Noble store one day and see my book or see me on TV and be shocked. For some reason, even though she disowned me , I felt obligated to let her know about this, to mentally prepare herself. That’s weird in and of itself. I speak to my mother about 5 minutes twice a year. (By the way this is torture. My heart gets reawakened and re-broken every time and it feels fresh and new every time ). Read the rest here..

  If you'd like to contrubute your story to the book: http://grievingfortheliving.com/survey/

  If you'd like to give a small donation to the production costs (even $5 would be a big help): http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/1433423258/grieving-for-the-living