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  Elder's attitude to dating a non-believer vs acting like a Christian

  by ItsMyLife in

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  i've not been on here for quite some time, due to personal reasons.. i have been dating a wonderful man for nearly 11 months now.

  he's a non-practicing cofe christian.

  i am a recently inactive jw (oh, how i regret getting baptized at 15).. my dad is an elder.

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  Blondie, I read that somewhere - I was shocked! How can they not see how incredibly offensive they are to non-witnesses? Surely being Christian is accepting everyone as they are, even if you personally disagree or think the bible disagrees with the way they live their lives? Like I said before, they are religionist (is that a real word?) and really do incite hate for non-JW's.

  When I pointed out to my ex-friend that I fully expected her to dump me the way she did because witnesses can't have friends outside of the 'truth', she said 'yes we can, we can be friends with studies and interested ones'. She completely made my point for me and couldn't see it. I couldn't do anything but laugh at that point, she is just so brainwashed, she literally had an answer for everything. And couldn't see she was contradicting herself. Poor woman. I do miss her though.
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  Elder's attitude to dating a non-believer vs acting like a Christian

  by ItsMyLife in

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  2. relationships

  i've not been on here for quite some time, due to personal reasons.. i have been dating a wonderful man for nearly 11 months now.

  he's a non-practicing cofe christian.

  i am a recently inactive jw (oh, how i regret getting baptized at 15).. my dad is an elder.

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  KiddingMe, I would be as confused as you as to when and how that sister would become 'unmarked'. If she had divorced him in order to get back on course, would she not be marked again for that? It doesn't make any sense at all. It is just another control mechanism.

  I hope you are right about the possibility that my Dad will be more accepting once we're married. I have almost come to terms with the thought that he and my Mum won't be at my wedding, although there will always be a small flame of hope that they'll act like human beings! The elder's book says that elders cannot encourage relationships between witnesses and non-witnesses by inviting them to their homes etc, even if they are inactive. I will have a look and see what it says about how to treat the couple once they're married. Surely, if I'm not DF'd or DA'd, they can't ignore that I'm married and he is a member of the family.

  Narcissistic Supply, why does he have that ahead of him? I'm not like that, and neither is my family. I know the organization is as a whole, but he's nothing to do with it, and I have as little to do with it as possible. I no longer have any JW friends and don't attend meetings at all. I don't believe in any of the crap they spout, especially the stuff they use to control the minions.
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  Elder's attitude to dating a non-believer vs acting like a Christian

  by ItsMyLife in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  i've not been on here for quite some time, due to personal reasons.. i have been dating a wonderful man for nearly 11 months now.

  he's a non-practicing cofe christian.

  i am a recently inactive jw (oh, how i regret getting baptized at 15).. my dad is an elder.

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  Besty, thank you. I have skimmed through one of his books, but I haven't yet had a chance to look at it in depth. Being brought up a JW has given me a deep aversion to reading anything that isn't fiction (yes, I realise the irony of what I have just typed!), so I've been putting it off. I will give it a go though.

  Julia, thank you so much. I am happier than I've ever been. The only time I feel sad or upset is when anything to do with the 'truth' crops up!

  Frazzled, I'm sorry you're in that situation - it must be very hard. I admire you for sticking at it and for standing up to him. I do have a son from a previous relationship, and that is another difficult situation with regard to them teaching/preaching to him. Not sure how to deal with that one yet. Thank you for your wishes, I wish you all the best in return. Stay strong :-)
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  Elder's attitude to dating a non-believer vs acting like a Christian

  by ItsMyLife in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  i've not been on here for quite some time, due to personal reasons.. i have been dating a wonderful man for nearly 11 months now.

  he's a non-practicing cofe christian.

  i am a recently inactive jw (oh, how i regret getting baptized at 15).. my dad is an elder.

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  Listener, the 'organized' book advises all spiritual JWs to reduce their contact with a 'marked' one, so as to shame them into getting back on the right path. Marking basically means that you've been classed as bad association, because you've done or are doing something that they don't approve of, but which isn't 'bad' enough to be reproved or disfellowshipped for. Such as dating a non-JW. Because the bible clearly says 'Jehovah's Witnesses must only date other Jehovah's Witnesses'. Oh, wait.......

  Giordano, thank you for the rules, I appreciate that. The trouble is, he is convinced that I might come back and that I am still a spiritual sister. And no matter how happy he may be for me (and I am thankful he has told me that), he will still put his religion before his family, no matter what.

  This is most definitely a good man that I want to spend the rest of my life with. I just wish he didn't have to put up with this crap because he doesn't deserve it. And neither do I, to be honest. I've been treated just as badly by witness men as I have by non-witnesses.

  He is a very understanding man, my guy. He can see it from my Dad's point of view, as I have fully explained it to him. And he does get it. But he still can't see the 'Christianity' in it! And neither can I.

  So odd how extremely intelligent people can still be blindsided and brainwashed and can't see what is right in front of them.
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  Elder's attitude to dating a non-believer vs acting like a Christian

  by ItsMyLife in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  i've not been on here for quite some time, due to personal reasons.. i have been dating a wonderful man for nearly 11 months now.

  he's a non-practicing cofe christian.

  i am a recently inactive jw (oh, how i regret getting baptized at 15).. my dad is an elder.

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  Hi all,

  I've not been on here for quite some time, due to personal reasons.

  I have been dating a wonderful man for nearly 11 months now. He's a non-practicing CofE Christian. I am a recently inactive JW (oh, how I regret getting baptized at 15).

  My Dad is an elder. He has told me that my relationship is wrong and that I know it. He has told me my son will suffer. He has told me that he can never invite my other half over for dinner as he can't approve the relationship. They know each other by the way, we all work at the same place. Dad has informed me that as my Dad, part of him is happy that I'm happy, but the elder/spiritual side can't approve at all.

  How can he/elders/witnesses not see that this is so unchristian towards the non-jw? They constantly use the scriptures that say 'Love your neighbour as yourself' and 'Do to others as you would want them to do to you', but it appears to apply ONLY to other witnesses!!

  I get so angry that my relationship and partner are judged because he's not got the label of JW. He's one of the most decent, Christian people I know. But they'd rather I dated someone who drinks too much and illegally copies dvds & cds (minor stuff, I know, but you get my point), because he's a JW. I'm freaking SICK of labels and the elitism and the bigotry - because that is what it is. Religionism.

  My gorgeous guy is feeling bewildered and confused as to how they can profess to be true christians when they are being so uncharitable towards the both of us.

  GRRRRRRRRR!!!!

  Sorry, just had to rant. Thanks :-)
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  Matthew 6:26

  by ozbrad in

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  someone posted this on facebook and i found the image and words haunting..

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  Cold Steel If God can not and will not destroy man's free agency, then he can not and will not ever destroy the wicked and make the earth a better place, because that would be destroying the free agency of those wicked men (and women).
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  Only if you're a Brit! LOL

  by tornapart in

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  http://www.buzzfeed.com/lukelewis/things-youll-find-funny-if-youre-british.

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  Some of those were hilarious! Thanks for brightening up a very dreary Saturday
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  Saw this and had to share

  by ItsMyLife in

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  i intend no offence to those who have a firm belief in god.

  i myself am currently on the fence.. http://i.imgur.com/9gajkpy.jpg.

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  Oubliette, thank you for posting the picture itself. I wasn't sure if it'd let me just do a cut & paste of a pic.

  Great name by the way. I know you got it from someplace else, but it always makes me think of one of my favourite films, Labyrinth.
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  Mouthy Grace is not well. Please send love.

  by return of parakeet in

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  in another thread, mouthy said she was "not well" and mentioned "kicking the bucket.

  i believe she needs some encouragement and well wishes.. mouthy, you don't need to respond to this thread if you don't feel up to it.

  just consider it an exceptionally long get-well card..

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  Mouthy, please get well soon. We all love you and are thinking of you. I'm sending good and well wishes your way. You were there with your love and support for me, please know I am returning both for you xxxxxxxx
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  Saw this and had to share

  by ItsMyLife in

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  i intend no offence to those who have a firm belief in god.

  i myself am currently on the fence.. http://i.imgur.com/9gajkpy.jpg.

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  I intend no offence to those who have a firm belief in God. I myself am currently on the fence.

  http://i.imgur.com/9GAjkPY.jpg