i am writing this as a woman who was around males who I knew before and after they became Elders. Most of the ones I knew were very loving kind men before they were Elders as to the idea of putting on a new personality I watched this happen before my very eyes. I saw many change so dramatically from the kind loving person,to the totally company man, I saw others become company men when at KH but still loving when one on one, others who I know were living a totally double life. I have watched many of these men over a time period of 65 Years. I have watched a cousin who was so fun loving who now is a company man who rejects his own children. I have friends who no longer comfortable when we call, we limit the calls. What breaks my heart and made me back away from being a JW was watching my friends change and not to be more loving persons but men I no longer recoqnized. Some of these men I have known from infancy, others I met and loved were friends of my husband when we married 47 years ago. Do I hate them NO but I now have to protecr myself from some of these men. I hate that they still have the power to hurt those I love only because of the change in personallity.I hope this makes a little sense but fear it is a jumble because my mind is being jumbled from my thoughts of all Elders I have known, what they were like before the position and what happened after the TITLE. I don't hate any of them but afraid of the new personalities.
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Should all elders be painted with the same brush?
by Socrateswannabe inan hour or two ago, i was reading a topic on this forum that welcomed new elders to jwn.
there was some criticism aimed at the op and i understand that elders shouldn't be singled out as special.
one poster said he/she hates all elders.
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From Pioneer to Professor: My Story
by laverite ini wanted to say hello.
i knew i was gay.
i wanted to study and learn about everything i could.
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gma-tired2
I so enjoyed reading your life story. You have a beautiful family and career. I feel that JWs miss out on so many onderful people because of their prejudice agaist gays. Your children are lucky to have a father like you.
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Dat da da da: Justitia Themis Law School Graduate
by crmsicl incongratulations to justitia themis on all her hard work at putting herself through law school.
after being raised in the watchtower organization and having survived all of what that entails she has picked up the pieces, analyzed her strengths and has made choices to better herself and the community.. .
i am so proud of her.
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gma-tired2
Justita great job!!! We need more people like you
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Who on here, are close to 60
by Quarterback inwow, where does the time go?
i'm scared of reaching this number, and yet i'm so close.. what is your health secrets?
what do you do for stress releif?
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gma-tired2
65 here and yes on sex, try to reduce stress, eat right, and exercise and your health will be better. 60's is not old each iy is just maturing
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Today Is TotallyADD's 5th Birthday
by Reopened Mind inno, he is not 5 years old, he is 59 today.
totallyadd like many of you was raised in the cult and not allowed to celebrate his birthdays.
he was always on the outside looking in, deprived of cake and comraderie.
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gma-tired2
Happy Birthday 5th Huh.
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When You Were A Little Kid, What Words Did You Mispronounce?
by LoisLane looking for Superman in.
how did you pronounce spaghetti?.
just lois.
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gma-tired2
like Simon had speech problems I have a lisp.
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When You Were A Little Kid And Your Dad Said Prayer, Did He Ever Say Anything Strange?
by LoisLane looking for Superman inmy dad used to pray for the witnesses behind the iron curtain.
i couldn't figure out why were they caught behind this heavy curtain.
couldn't they just find a door and leave?.
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gma-tired2
No prayers dad was an unbeliever
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When You Were A Little Kid, What Did Your Mother Say To Get You To Eat Your Vegetables?
by LoisLane looking for Superman ini hated peas.
my mom would say, "the kids in china are starving.
eat your peas.
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gma-tired2
Husbands momsaid he would sit there till he ate his veggies. So he sat there, sat there, and set there. Mom gave up
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GB (Splane) says JW parent should "force" their children
by Gayle into go in "service," "baptism," etc.. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rsqmosgj710
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gma-tired2
Yes, as said you can pressure obeddience for the first 15 years but as the teens come life changes. I believe the doubts are there for most teens it just depends on whethervthey act on their doubts. Force just doesn'twork. The tighter you hold on the more the young pull away. Try holding a todler too tight and see what happens.
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College Update
by noni1974 inso, in 2010 i recived my ged with the goal of going to college and getting a degree.
in the mean time i have been an active member of my schools honors program and have finished all of the requirements for graduation from the honors program.
they were 15 credit hours of honors classes, 12 hours of volunteer work in my community, and 16 hours of cultural activites offered by the honors program.
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gma-tired2
Congratats you are doing an awsome job. Be proud, as I can tell you are. i have known several JWs pulled out of school to be homeschooled and they struggled to even get low paying jobs. you are accomplishing so much. Again congratulaions.