I have been married to my husband for 47 years, both of us were raised JWs, married in KH. I was 18 and he was 21. We also experienced heavy petting, I believe this is a necessary step in getting to inow the one you are preparing to marry. I would NEVER confess anything to Elders, they are only men, Men who are no different than you and your fiance. We lived thru the oral sex mess and it was a horrible time for young JW couples, I saw many use this as an excuse to divorce. My marriage has been between two people, my husband and myself, we never invited Elders into our bedroom, it is none of their business. If your young man continues to invite uneducated men into your bedroom you are in for a rough marriage. We would definetly not allow Elders into our lives now. WE HAVE a son who married at 20 the Elders invited themselves into this young couples bedroom, the problem wasn't a sexual issue. This marriage never had a chance after the Elder qnd CO invited themselves in. If you fiance is not mature enough to live a life without confessing to Elders he is not mature enough for marriage. I wishing you a long loving life with or without him. I am a grandmother of two grandaughters, 16 and 20, I woukd never want any old uneducated men telling them how to live their lives.
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hello. pls help. getting married soon. afraid i won't be happy because wtbts said so.
by seasickbumblebee inalshello.
i'm a practicing jw.
finally decided to create an account to see whether you could all help me.. so i am engaged to this wonderful wonderful man and in three months time we'll be married.
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Dysfunctional witness families
by concerned2 inbeing raised as a jw i feel dirty even posting here.
my life growing up was one filled with fear.
armageddon was preached to us day/night.
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Welcome, and many JWs lives have been dysfunctional but you will find unconditional support here.
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Happy Birthday Dagney!
by I quit! in.
today is dagney's birthday.
i sure she's doing something fun for it..
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Happy Birthay Dagney. Have fun celebrating
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49 years ago today
by Glander inhappy anniversary, sweetheart!
(the minister is my dear uncle.
retired to hawaii and just turned 92.).
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49 years Congratulations. You are in a very special class of long term marriage.
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Mom & Dad (Uber Dubs) and convo about child abuse within the BORG
by El_Guapo inso i tt mom and dad via skype last weekend (they live on the other part of the county) and the topic of abuse came up.
of course they went ahead and blasted catholics for their coverups.
i mentioned gonzalo campos, now mom and dad know this guy he went to their hall for several years in san diego.
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Do you have children? Put this on a personal worry. Make it as personal as possible. Do the Elders have children? Make it personal for them. It probally won't work but it still plants a tiny seed that can be watered and grown.
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I'm thinking about going back
by Corboy101 ini have been out for 22 years.i was raised as a jehovahs witness.
i was baptized in 1986 but soon after left the religion.
theres a whole lot to the reasons why i left, but i left.
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I'm 65 year old born in. I left at the time you was baptised. Take your time, this is not the same religion you knew. The things that I have learned in the past few months has left me shocked and speechless. The hardest for me which I can't even wrap my mind around is dinding out that Jesus is not my mediator only the mediator for 144,000. My body and soul says if Jesus is not my mediator why did I have so much responsibility toward myself and others for all these years. Study, and check facts do not just accept what JWs want you to know ob the surface, dig deeper.
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My story so far
by brainmelt ini've been trying to avoid posting this, due to extreme paranoia but its time to post my story.
i hope to not post too many details, as we've avoided being df so far, our group elder was young and lovely and cool and i just hope that in time he learns the ttatt.. i'm a regular lurker on here, occasional poster (i can't post much as my phone browser only lets me read but not post, so i only post on the odd occasion i get a time alone on the pc).
i have been fading since round about last september ( so almost my first anniversary of learning ttatt).
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Welcome to you and family and enjoy you have waken together. Cancer in your small ones is hard but they can do so much more with cancer today. Hoping for a remission for your son very soon.
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2014 District Conventions to downsize 400 to 100 - "consolidating"
by Gayle inhttp://www.tri-cityherald.com/2013/08/01/2500842/jehovahs-witnesses-convention.html.
what they told me is the decision has been made nationally to downsize the number of conventions from 400 to 100. they're simply consolidating,".
read more here: http://www.tri-cityherald.com/2013/08/01/2500842/jehovahs-witnesses-convention.html#storylink=cpy
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Gander those 8 days were long. Early morning to late at night. Bad dates 1963 Pasadena Rose Bowl missed the first week of Sophmore year of school. Now at assembly halls an only 2 days.
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Article: It's Time to Outlaw Extreme Shunning in Modern Society
by AndersonsInfo inhttp://gilmermirror.com/bookmark/23272594/article-extreme%20shunning#.ufwjurllscm.facebook.
extreme shunningthe gilmer mirror.
its time to outlaw extreme shunning in modern society by: richard e. kelly .
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The WTBTS hates bad publicity that could bring reproach on Jehovahs name. By making the problem of disfellowshipping/shunning to public view it could become an embarrasment to them especially if we slowly, kindly let our neigbors and friends know what will happen if they become JWs. This policy which in thee past was easy to keep from most outsiders, they didn't have much to worry about but now everything is out there for anyone to see. While I was in the workforce I had many non believers ask me why their JW family would no longer associate and most were glad to know the reason. Of Course this may just be hopeful thinking on my part but I still let people know about the shunning policy.
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How many JWs are genuinely in "good standing"?
by slimboyfat inan interesting question arose from my earlier thread:.
we all know that many jws do stuff that would get them disfellowshipped, but never get caught.
but how many jws do you think there really are who have never kept any disfellowshipping "offense" secret?
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When I was a teen the percent who hadn't committed some infringement of the rules 0%. I know we often hung out together. I do remember my mother being upset having to attend a wedding in a church. my dad insisted.