Thanks Listener. I have Crisis of Conscience in a pdf format but my husband would never consider reading it. He doesn't even know that I have it. I have also read both of Steven Hassan's books which are excellent and again, my husband doesn't know that I have them. He will not listen to TTATT....at all! He becomes very angry if I bring up anything anti JW. I hope that I have planted some seeds of doubt but I am not sure. I know there are some things that he does not believe in. One is the JW's stance on charities. My husband always donates to charities and also supports a foster child through world vision. I think that they are a bit of a scam too but I fully support him in this and tell him how generous he is and what a good thing he is doing. My husband also does not believe in shunning family members which doesn't affect him personally as he doesn't have family or friends in the organization.
ingimar
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I think that I could get my husband Df'd
by ingimar inthere are some things that i wish the local congregation knew about my husband but i am not sure how to inform them.. my husband was a jw in a previous marriage but none of his family are jw's except for one half sister who he recently met for the first time.
his ex wife is no longer a believer either and their three adult kids want nothing to do with the jw's.. i met my husband 8 years ago on eharmony.
i should have been leary when he stated his religion as "christian".
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I think that I could get my husband Df'd
by ingimar inthere are some things that i wish the local congregation knew about my husband but i am not sure how to inform them.. my husband was a jw in a previous marriage but none of his family are jw's except for one half sister who he recently met for the first time.
his ex wife is no longer a believer either and their three adult kids want nothing to do with the jw's.. i met my husband 8 years ago on eharmony.
i should have been leary when he stated his religion as "christian".
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ingimar
Yeah you are both right. I just wish that this elder would become aware of this stuff without me having to tell him. Perhaps he will drive by sometime after a meeting and see my husband's vehicle in the driveway.
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I think that I could get my husband Df'd
by ingimar inthere are some things that i wish the local congregation knew about my husband but i am not sure how to inform them.. my husband was a jw in a previous marriage but none of his family are jw's except for one half sister who he recently met for the first time.
his ex wife is no longer a believer either and their three adult kids want nothing to do with the jw's.. i met my husband 8 years ago on eharmony.
i should have been leary when he stated his religion as "christian".
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ingimar
There are some things that I wish the local congregation knew about my husband but I am not sure how to inform them.
My husband was a JW in a previous marriage but none of his family are JW's except for one half sister who he recently met for the first time. His ex wife is no longer a believer either and their three adult kids want nothing to do with the JW's.
I met my husband 8 years ago on eharmony. I should have been leary when he stated his religion as "christian". I know now that a real christian would at least specify catholic or protestant.A couple of weeks into our relationship, he told me that he was a JW. I was shocked but ignorant of the religion so carried on. It didn't seem to affect anything because he was obviously inactive because he never went to meetings. I know now that I should have done more research but never saw the need to at the time. If he was a good JW! he would not have been looking for a wife on eharmony, right?
We lived together for 3 years before we got married in 2008. All was great until last summer when we returned from visiting his long lost sister and her elder husband overseas. Like I mentioned, these two are the only JW's in his very large immediate and extended family. Also, none of his friends are JW so I was pretty confidant that he would never go back. Well shortly after we return, an elder starts showing up at our door repeatedly. My husband works out of town so for the first couple of months, I am able to tell him that I am not interested and send him away. Well this guy is a pest and he eventually catches my husband at home and in November my husband starts attending the Hall, I start researching and start freaking out. Yes, I know that is exactly how they tell him I will react.
Shortly after he starts attending every second Sunday, I get diagnosed with a rare blood disease. Coincidence? I think not. I am not supposed to get stressed and this JW stuff is totally stressing me out as I see my husband becoming more involved with this cult. My husband can see how stressed I am and he knows that I am just about ready to leave so he announces that he can't stand to see me like this so he won't attend for a while. I am shocked but I thank him. He has not attended now for probably 6 weeks.
The elder continues to drop by but now only when my husband's vehicle is in the driveway as he does not like talking to me! My husband just tells him that he is working or will be away. I hear thus because I open the window and listen.
I would love for them to find out that we met online, we lived together for three years before we got married, he celebrates holidays with me and his family, not always willingly but his family and I force him to participate and he has a good time, he is not always working when he says he is and also that his worldly wife thinks nothing of trashing the JW's. I know that I have to control myself but I have a really hard time doing that. I am going to try harder though.
My question is how can I make this pesty elder aware of all his faux pas? My husband would not be happy if I called him up and told him but I will if this marriage is going to fail.I still hold out hope though as I know that he loves me andcI love the non-cult him.
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Stickers (complete with QR Code) for Laundromats
by nicsfreedom inaccording to one of our friends who visits our local laundromats the literature is out of control.
guess its time to do some real educating aka jw un-witnessing.
throwing the mags away just keeps the dubs bring back more (and counting placements) so with my friend and husbands help we are going to "stick it to the watchtower" literally:).
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ingimar
I sent you a PM with a request.
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Who the hell are the Ninja Witnesses who keep...
by sooner7nc in...sneaking into my hospital while i'm there and leaving magazines in all my waiting rooms?.
it's like they have predator suits or something.
pesky boogers.. by the way, if the person or persons who are doing this ever read on this site please know that i pick them up within 30 minutes of your leaving them.. .
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ingimar
oops. I see I took too long to post suggestion.
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Who the hell are the Ninja Witnesses who keep...
by sooner7nc in...sneaking into my hospital while i'm there and leaving magazines in all my waiting rooms?.
it's like they have predator suits or something.
pesky boogers.. by the way, if the person or persons who are doing this ever read on this site please know that i pick them up within 30 minutes of your leaving them.. .
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ingimar
Perhaps instead of throwing them out you should have a sheet of pre-printed labels, directing readers to jwfacts.com, jehovahs-witness.net, watchtowerdocuments.com and any other TTATT sites. Put the label across the front of the magazine and leave it there.
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YOU are thinking......but..........is it working?
by Terry incouldn't we say that the worst possible error would be losing the only life we have because we couldn't make a simple choice or decision?.
what if we only made bad decisions because workable good decisions weren't perfect enough for us?.
what is more "rational" than knowing the difference between what is essential and what isn't!.
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ingimar
I love reading your posts! This is so common sense! I just may try to get my JW husband to read this as I know that he his struggling with his beliefs. He won't admit it right now but his JWism has caused major problems in our marriage. So much so, that he has agreed not to go for a while as he can't stand to see what it does to me. I have recently been diagnoses with a rare blood disorder and stress is not good for me. I tried to remain calm whenever he attended meetings but it ate me up inside. He saw this and he chose me over them....for now. This may be a temporary solution to our problems but if I can plant some seeds of doubt at this time, without the influence of the JW, perhaps I can get him to see life as it is.
Thanks so much for taking the time for writing this!
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ingimar
I am from Canada so not sure how things work in the States but do teachers not have to follow some kind od state curriculum? Do students have to pass state exams? If so, these students will fail miserably and the teacher should be fired and the school reprimanded......no??
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Online Dating
by love_ever_wanting inwhat does everyone think, is dating avenues really that big of a deal?
i have been told by everyone on my congregation to not trust online dating.
especially if this is supposed to be the "truth".
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ingimar
You seem too confused and insecure to be able to commit to anybody. How old are you?
I have never been a JW nor will I ever become one as there are so many things with this cult that are just so wrong.
I met my inactive JW husband on eharmony. He presented himself as a Christian which I think was misleading as JW's don't worship Christ so thus cannot be called Christians. I never knew much about the JW's when he told me that he was a JW, I never gave it much thought as he wasn't attending meetings so I saw no signs of any problems.....wrong! 8 years into our relationship and 4 years into our marriage, one of those Bible pushers shows up at our door, he says that he is a baptised JW, he starts attending again, I start researching, learn that he is involved in a cult not a religion and my world falls apart. My wonderful, kind husband turns into someone that I don't recognize whenever he discusses his beliefs.
FYI, he started attending in November. Ironic as it may seem, I was diagnosed with a rare blood disorder in January which is preventing me from having a needed surgery until my team of doctors can determine how to operate without me either clotting or bleeding out. Needless to say, I have instructed all doctors to not confer with my husband in case of an emergency! I do not believe that he would deny me life saving transfusions but I want to be safe.
My husband is a wonderful man who loves me very much and he too is being torn apart by all of this. My doctors have told me that stress aggrevates my condition so the timing for his return was bad. There has been incredible stress and tension in our house and I had a huge meltdown yesterday and I was ready to move out. My wonderful husband stepped away from his cult personality, took me in his arms, told me that he couldn't stand to see me like this and said that he would not attend the Hall for a while. I was totally shocked and appreciative and I know that he means what he says. I know that this is a temporary fix but perhaps we can work something out in the future.In the meantime, I can focus on my health and have him by my side.
What I am trying to say, is if you are convinced that being a JW is what you want to do with your life, although it is beyond my rational thinking why you would do this, pick a JW man only and find him wherever. Don't go ruining a non JW man 's life with all the baggage that this religion brings. Why ruin two families?
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ingimar
girl.