Online Dating

love_ever_wanting

What does everyone think, is dating avenues really THAT big of a deal? I have been told by everyone on my congregation to not trust online dating. Okay, well WHY? Especially if this is supposed to be the "truth"

Okay so it makes sense to apply the same common sense rules everyone would apply when socializing or dating online. And I guess, not everyone on this board who says they are a witness may not be a witness.

But that does not mean there can't be sincere witnesses, breaking the "rules" of dating just to expand their options in finding a suitable marraige mate.

Okay so I am just being honest here, I am not an official baptized Jehovah's Witness, I am just a Bible Student, I have been going to the meetings for a year and a half, and looking forward to the summer conventions is the highlight of my life since going to my first ones last year. I haven't got any theocratic privilleges yet.

But I am sincere about the religion, and I am genuinly also looking for that right guy, and I don't know, despite what ever one says is my "better judgement" I kinda feel I might find him online.

I realize though that Because I am not baptized, no one who is baptized is going to touch me with a ten foot poll until I am, but I am just being honest and putting myself out there.

Please give me your feedback on this, and hey, if anyone wants to get to know me better to, I won't complain at that eaither.

MrFreeze

Because you don't know if the person on the other end is really a JW. I think that is why.

Mad Sweeney

I tried online dating. Met some nice people. It's no better or worse than any other way of meeting people. Didn't find what I was looking for though.

love_ever_wanting

That is true, you don't know if they are really a JW or not, and then there is that whole scripture about "concealing yourself". But like you should tell by the lingo they use, and also they would be up to date on the WT.

I have nothing against online dating, I am still open to it. Its not my preferable way to meeting people, but I have my own reasons for that.

I have found that you can get a false sense of connection, does that make any sense? So like your chatting it up online and you feel like you are really connected, but then when you meet and or go as far as dating them for a while, the connection is not there in person.

If you meet someone in person and you feel a connection, then its real. Does that make any sense?

LostGeneration

You are going to be picking from a very shallow pool if you limit yourself to JW men. First off, there are fewer men in the religion than women.

Next, most of them are beta men, simply because they are in a cult. They have no real interests, no drive, no fire, nothing. Everything they say and do is for their mother, and by that I mean the org. Beta men have a very hard time holding women's attention long term, simply because it is a turn off.

This was me, even a few years after I left. Only through a lot of self examiniation and work did I start to develop my alpha side, and its made such a difference with my wife, though she is still a JW.

As far as dating online, I see nothing wrong with that, especially if you are going to select from the shallow pool of JW men. I guess the only issue is probably going to be geography, its going to be tough to find one in your area.

joe134cd

Yeah I will get to know you.P.M me please.im just new to this and haven't quite figured out how to do it,

love_ever_wanting

I am relativley new here too joe.

LostGeneration. I definetly see your point, I have my own reasons for not wanting to limit myself, and its a topic of debate every week with my study partner.

However despite my reasons, I am choosing to limit myself to JW men, only because if I can find someone true to the faith, its not going to be as like what you just described.

I see what you mean though, I always wondered if the women are happy with their husbands, and I do see some very good marraiges in the congregation, my study partner for instance has become my best friend and has a wonderful husband, and he is the most affectionate man towards her I have ever seen, and I know its not put on eaither because she blushes right in front of me every time he comes in and kisses her on the cheek.

I have also already tried dating a Non JW as someone who wants to be one, and he was not willing to stick with me, it was very painful.

scary21

There is a JW dating site. But IMO JW men have a lot of sisters to choose from. I have seen some that are very homely men, married to girls that look like beauty queens. One recent example is the governing body member ( 57 yrs old but looks 67 ) that is engaged to a pretty young woman about 28 years old ( looks like she could be 18 )

If you want to see their picture together do a search on this site just type in ( are they married yet )

Maybe someone can post the link

Anyway, if I wanted a JW husband I would go on the JW dating site. Find out what congregation he goes to. Call the kingdom hall, and ask about him.

I would do this after a few telephone calls, but before a face to face. Please don't think all JW make good husbands. Sometimes that subjection thing goes to their head. If they have been a JW all their lives, odds are you will be poor and have to work forever. Even after children.

JW's are discouraged from higher education and a career.

My first husband was never baptized, but raised to be a JW so I thought he was a good guy. Turned out to be a big cheater . (Repeatedly)

I do hope your dreams come true sherry

Aussie Oz

baptised JW is by no means a guarentee they are a JW or even a good one if they are. Dont get fooled into thinking a 'bonafide babtized JW' is a good catch.

Oz

love_ever_wanting

Oh yeah I understand that complealey.

This is an on-going debate between me and the sister I study with. And thats what I worry about the whole "head of the family" thing going to his head.

I have heard this from another sister that they are discouraged from persuing higher education, but when I asked other members and elders, they said it was not true. You can take any chourse you want.

I think maybe they just would be more pleased if you chose a career in pioneering than secular work.

Sherry, your story sounds very similar to one of my sisters in the congregation, except they are not divorced as of yet, and what had happend is he actually kicked her and the kids out of the house too.

The heartbreaking part of this, is what she told me about him before they married what really turned her on about him, is he was a very zelous pioneer and everything, with alot of spiritual goals and everything.

See this is what worries me about marrying a yes a "bonified baptised JW man" but here is the thing, because I love the truth, I can't really marry anyone who is not a JW, I would probably end up being marked as a result.

I am really glad I found this site, because with anyone else I would be expected to say that it is because I love Jehovah that I will limit myself to JW men, and yes that is true I do love Jehovah, but its not a stand alone reason, I also don't want to be marked as a bad associate or possibly be dis-fellowshipped. Which seems very un-likely but I have seen it happen in the exact same situation.

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