Posts by ingimar

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Hongkong billionaire offers $147,000,000 to man who can turn his daughter str8

by fulltimestudent in

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friends

this is an interesting and novel incident.

the billionaire's daughter has been married to another woman for 9 years (legally).

but the father refuses to accept that his daughter doesn't want to marry a man and has just doubled the cash reward to a successful suitor to $147,000,000.. background:.

ingimar

It is not important for everyone to produce offspring. I don't regret not having children. You can't speak for me or many others prologos. By the way, I was never a JW, so that did not influence my decision to not have children.

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Talking with a nonbeliever...

by suavojr in

in my search for the truth and the burning desire to become free from all forms of dogma and wishful thinking.

i have approached my first crossroads in my life, should i continue to believe in a god or not?.

currently i am leaning toward agnosticism, but all the suffering in the world, all the loss and pain in my own life makes it hard for me to simply let go of the idea and hope that at the end justice will prevail, that one day god can make it all good.. .

ingimar

Religion is the root of most of the evil and wars in the world. People should just focus on how they can make the world a better place because God has failed.

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The Pastor of my Old Church Tried to Re-Convert Me Yesterday

by cofty in

yesterday evening my wife and i were invited to friends house for new year's eve.

we met them when i was a christian and we have kept in touch.

they had a few other friends there as well, including the new church pastor and his wife.

ingimar

Excellent responses Cofty but the tsunami was 9 years ago on December 26, 2004. Not that it really matters as your responses are all excellent. I am just a stickler for facts which is why I could never be a JW .

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oh dear I think I messed up and pushed too hard

by Frazzled UBM in

reading all the posts on the wt study on higher education and careers really fired me up yesterday.

i have 2 undergraduate and 2 postgraduate degerees and a career as a result which allows me to provide well for my jw wife and son.

i was already unhappy because after 5 or 6 weeks of not going and appearing to be making progress she went back on sunday for the second sunday in a row and as usual was away all day.

ingimar

It doesn't matter how they met. They are married. Stop being so sensitive Frazzled. I can understand why Adam thought what he did. It is completely logical.

I had to put up with the JW BS this year too when my husband was pursued by the elders here and he was convinced that he was going to become active again after many years of inactivity. Well I handled tge situation as you did Fazzled. After him attending for a few weeks, I let him have it with both barrels too, telling him that there was no way this marriage could work with us having such opposing world views. I was the one crying uncontrollably though. I threatened to go to the elders and tell them all about us and how we had met online and had lived together for three years before we were married. I also told the pesty elder to stay away although I am not sure if my husband knows this. I also let him know that I was 100% sure that Satan was not influencing me in any of my actions. Well much to my surprise, he crumbled and said that he could not stand to see me like this and would not attend for a while. That was a year ago and things have been great between us although I do wonder what he is thinking but I don't want to rock the boat and ask.

Let your wife know that you will not walk on eggshells around her and that you will voice your opinion as you know that she is involved in a cult. I know that this goes against everything that weare told to do but it worked for me. I think that my husband was afraid that I would cause a scene, and he was right. I even threatened to follow the JWs door to door with my own literature.

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I give up

by KariOtt in

jw
friends

hubby is now giving 5 days a week to the cult.

they see more of him while he is awake than i do.

when he is home he is either sleeping or in his office on his computer.

ingimar

I know how you feel KariOtt although my husband actually chose me over the cult. I gave him a choice, it was either them or me and miraculously, he chose me. I told him that I wouldn't stand for being second and that if our marriage was not going to be his number one priority then it was definitely not going to be mine. I said that I did not know at the time what I was going to find to replace my focus but that I would find something and that it would probably be a charity. I told him that I would not leave the marriage but that I would want him to move into a separate bedroom and that if he wanted, he could leave but that I was staying. I also told him that I would make it very clear to his non JW family members (which is his entire family) what was happening and that he had chosen this cult over our marriage. I also told him that I would also talk to the pesty elder that kept coming to our house and tell him that we met online and that we lived together for 3 years before we got married and that we had lots of great premarital sex. I let him know that I was devastated but that I would not be my husband's second priority and if I was then he would be mine.

Well much to my surprise, he chose me! I am not saying that it will work for you but it worked for me. I did have the advantage that neither his family (except one sister overseas) nor any of his friends are JWs and they like me. They would have been furious at him if he chose the cult. This was a few months ago and he has not attended a meeting since. I told the pesty elder to stay away and to my knowledge, there has been no contact between my husband and any JWs. My husband has returned to his non cult happy self and I just pray that it lasts. Good Luck to you!

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