@Abiblestudent: That is a tough one to answer. Spiritually strong or spiritually weak? When we were "in" we were the ones who would have been considered spiritually strong, not to brag but my family was one of the back bones of the congregation.
But looking back now, I guess we never were the good little JW's who did everything WT said to do. When it came to df'ed ones, we still treated them like Christ said to by showing love because maybe you could get your brother/sister back. It's hard to explain, yes we were spiritually strong, but weak at the same time. Around 2001 my mom became sick and even then when we started missing meetings the so-called "friends" of ours called us apostates, even though we were not at the time. All we kept saying is where is this so-called love Christ said would be the identifying mark of his followers?
After mom got sick, every single WT that came out with the experiences of that poor old sister who is home bound and how the friends helped her through it, and how loving they are to her...made me sick. I would get so pissed that would hang up the phone tie-in to the meetings. That love, care and concern was never there for my family, like it was for that poor old sister. I think for me personally, I didn't want to be one of those people who didn't care for a sick person or someone who was "down". In my mind it didn't matter if they were df'ed, inactive or still JW or a non-JW. People are still people with feelings and emotions.
I guess after that is when I started to really "SEE" what wt was like, but like someone else said, you don't know where else to go. So you just stay in with WT because you don't know where else to go because WT did such a good job at disproving all other religions are false, it leaves you staying with WT because you truly don't know where to go. I guess there is still habe hope that God really is with WT, but then the second the 4 of us realized God is not with WT, it was really easy for me to walk away.
One interesting thing about myself. While I was a JW, I had terrible anger issues. I would get so angry so quick because of how the JW's acted...the least little thing and I would go off on a rant for hours. Since I've left, I still get angry, but not like before. My husband and even my parents say how my attitude has improved for the better. It's very hard for me to admit this, but I was to the point where I HATED people, JW's and non-JW's alike. Now there is no hate in my heart anymore, and I actually feel sorry for all of these people who are stuck in these religions who are teaching hate.
Sorry I kind of went off topic and I'm not sure if I answered your other question.
Gojira