Posts by excitesinceredetermination

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Distrust and paranoia among faders

by cedars in

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friends

hi guys.

i'm interested in knowing whether any other faders out there ever find themselves feeling a little paranoid about establishing contact with other faders or former jws, just in case the unthinkable happens and things turn sour.. personally, i'm now fairly comfortable with the idea that i will be disfellowshipped or disassociated within the next year or so.

i see it as inevitable, and an essential transition in order to do what i want to do with my life.

excitesinceredetermination

I feel the exact same! I am trying to start and establish friends outside of jws, but I am hesitant now about contacting ones that were recently df because one just stopped contact with me;

she felt she needed to go back now and she was not following the arrangement talking to me...so...is she going to out me when she goes back for her reinstatement and clear her conscience? It scares me that there is a chance someone will yes, "out" me before I am ready. I have to be sure I am in the optimal position with family before I leave, I have to get my fade just right for my best chance to get them to see ttatt. Is it worth the risk trying to gain a life outside the org with friends...if it means I lose that chance I need to get my family out? I am not one to over-analyze, but my god, it consumes your thinking to the nth degree for sure Cedars!

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That sweet, tingling feeling...

by MsGrowingGirl20 in

that sweet, tingling feeling you get, no matter how hard life is at the time, when you remember that you're free.

that feeling reminds you that it's okay to not be sure about everything and it's okay to love persons even if they don't read the same literature or hold the same views as you.. it's okay to make mistakes because the people who love you will not pull back their love and association because of it.. the persons who are around you genuinely love you and are not just trying to portray 'love' because it looks good to 'potential' sheep.. it's even okay to try new things and it isn't a bad thing when you're actually enjoying life.. i don't have to try to be someone that i'm not and my worth is not, not.... my worth is not measured by a number on a piece of paper.. i can go through life at my own pace and i can be different.. that feeling reminds me that i can be myself!.

i know that you get that feeling also.

excitesinceredetermination

Absolutely!

" It's okay to make mistakes because the people who love you will not pull back their love and association because of it... It's even okay to try new things and it isn't a bad thing when you're actually enjoying life."

Relax & enjoy life as it should be.

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New Girl

by excitesinceredetermination in

hello to everyone :) i wanted to introduce myself as a newbie.

i was raised in and i am currently on active status due to most of my family being very much in, but i am so ready to be done and have felt that way for quite some time.

internally i know this is not the right religion without a doubt.

excitesinceredetermination

Aunt Fancy That is unconditional support at it's best!

Theredeemer Yay! Made it just in time then ;) I am planning to fade and have to a certain point, but I am learning so much as far as how to fade safer than I had been. I am enjoying basking in all of the kindness and effective practical advice here.

Thank you both! - Excite

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Do you believe that God is using the faithful and discreet slave

by trujw in

it seems that this question is used by elder to trap us and close their minds(the jw elder) to thinking.

if you answer no they wrap up a jc in short order.

i was wondering if any have tried to use a more pointed question to actually get them to think themselves.

excitesinceredetermination

Listener, I am noting your answer for later use. I know I will need it! Exactly honest and can be slick enough to be what they want to hear in order to avoid a JC.

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The Greatest Show On Earth - A Book Summary In Many Parts

by cofty in

it was a number of years after i left the watchtower that i finally admitted to myself that i had never really investigated evolution.. i thought i was already an expert on the subject despite everything i knew about it coming form a source that was attacking the theory.

when i began to reserch evolution objectively i was astonished by the breadth an depth of the evidence.

i have been reading books and articles on the subject for around ten years now and always find it to be fascinating and inspiring.. a couple of years ago i began to write a summary of dawkin's book on the jws forum with the intention of helping any lurking jws who could not dare be seen reading the book for themselves.

excitesinceredetermination

btt

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New Girl

by excitesinceredetermination in

hello to everyone :) i wanted to introduce myself as a newbie.

i was raised in and i am currently on active status due to most of my family being very much in, but i am so ready to be done and have felt that way for quite some time.

internally i know this is not the right religion without a doubt.

excitesinceredetermination

I have appreciated thus far your posts that I have been able to read; The Greatest Show on Earth (great book, but I haven't been able to finish it quite yet!) and even the spell check tip for Google chrome, I needed that one. ;) Thank you for all that you do Cofty!

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Our Story

by Auntfancy in

jw
friends

hi everyone, i have been on here for a little while and haven't introduced myself to you.

i can't tell you how much all of you have helped me sort many things out in my mind.. i was raised in a very good christian home and married my hs sweetheart.

i left home and moved half way across the country with a husband and a brand new baby.

excitesinceredetermination

Aunt Fancy & WhoLovesMagic You are amazingly brave women!! Welcome to the forum! I anxiously await hearing and learning more about all you have been through. Your experiences have brought tears, but when I kept reading on to how you finally get to live your life...happy & to the full now...it brings a smile to my face! An inspiration to the ones like me, who are just starting on the journey out. (You too Villiagegirl!) Hugs from me!

Much love -Excite

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Fading with children in tow

by brainmelt in

excitesinceredetermination

I love what eyesropen said, there is nothing like seeing true unbridled joy on your children's faces. To see their eyes beam when you surprise them with their first birthday party and friends from school. :) To realize that you can now give them everything you didn't have growing up. They can grow up feeling normal, playing sports and hangin out with friends in pajamas on Saturday mornings....simple things in life that they don't have to feel guilty for...they will treasure being freed from such tight control.

I have little ones too and in the same situation. If you want to message me to discuss anything that weighs on your mind, just click on my name and send message on the blue bar. Leaving may take a while, but it will pay off. Hang in there & welcome hun!

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New Girl

by excitesinceredetermination in

hello to everyone :) i wanted to introduce myself as a newbie.

i was raised in and i am currently on active status due to most of my family being very much in, but i am so ready to be done and have felt that way for quite some time.

internally i know this is not the right religion without a doubt.

excitesinceredetermination

Hey thanks Freelife!

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Hubby and Wifey saying Hi

by free and happy in

jw
friends

so where do you start?.

i've been reading peoples experiences for several months now trying to figure out what i want to say but how do you put your whole life into a few words?.

i was a born in but have been happy and free for 5 years and luckily for me my husband felt the same way and we have freed our children from being brainwashed.

excitesinceredetermination

Free and happy & Gone Awol you did the right thing, you should be proud of the courageous stand you took to save your daughter. True friends would be genuinely happy...her life was saved my goodness, really people!

More and more are seeing the 'being kicked while you are down' That is what woke me up too, it is all words of support and gushing love...but when you're suffering and need your friends, they are gone. Worse yet, like you said, snarling with haughty disapproval. There is so much more to life!

A VERY WARM WELCOME TO YOU BOTH!