Make it somewhere incredible like Hawaii???? All us non Americans would love it, It would be amazing to meet some people from this website one day.....
Pickler
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I am ready for an Apostapalooza!
by haboob48 inwhat does everyone think for that term?
i am diggin it!
i am thinkin no one has coined this?
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The Internet has been a lifesaver for victims of Cults of all sorts .Is it then the beginning of the end for Cults ?
by smiddy insince the internet has been available to people all over the earth, their has been an explosion of information going out that is unprecedented in the history of the world .. and one , just one of the beneficiaries of this knowedge are victims of cults who can relate to people who have undergone similar experiences and can offer help and encouragement to other victims .and this is done on a global scale .with what we are witnessing on this site with newbies joining on an almost daily basis , i live in hope that the writing is indeed on the wall for cults of all sorts.
do you agree ?.
smiddy.
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Pickler
I think cults will still be able to attract people who are missing something in their lives, but, it will become a lot harder for them.
The people that I knew who joined JW as adults had one thing in common, they were lonely.
For me, having been raised in this cult, finding out all this information online has been incredible. It was only because of the conti case that I followed threads online to here & other places. It has affected me so much, even after all this time, so many little things that people who weren't JW could never understand.
Here's an just one little example...... the other day my partner came home and laughingly said, "hey, do you know what apostate means? I didn't!" ( it was in a trivia quiz at his work ).
I laughed, but inside I was seething........ I felt like saying, you've been living with one for 20 years f**kwit!!!!!
It struck me that we are so different, so many things, like him complaining about getting too many Christmas presents, Boy Scouts, etc etc I don't think he even remembers that I didn't have any of those things.
sorry, I think I've gone off thread, what I'm trying to say is that the Internet is a lifesaver because I'm typing this here My iPad instead of ranting to my partner, or drinking a bottle of wine or doing something else equally stupid. Thanks Internet, and thanks everyone who posts here!
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Fading
by compound complex init is not chains that bind me to the position i now hold .
and, that, for a lengthy time now.. i stand motionless, my eyes peering through dark curtains, they fixed steadily upon cheerful passersby on the street below my third-storey bedroom window.
by their simply being out and about in the daytime sun i perceive that, in contrast to my placid self, these happy souls are at peace with the world.
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Pickler
Thanks for the welcome CC, I love to read, so keep it coming!
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What happens when a legally married....?
by sosoconfused inlesbian couple that has a child decides that they want to be one of jehovahs witnesses?
really think about this for a second.. what will they do then.. option 1: will they tell them that they have to get a divorce and ignore the scriptural counsel of jehovah hating a divorcing?
will they say that it was never valid anyway in the eyes of jehovah?
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Pickler
Hey shirley W, just got back home, and you know what? I have remembered a young man, 30ish, very effeminate. He was whispered about as "struggling" with sexual orientation issues, that's why he wasn't an MS or elder etc etc. Because I was a teenager, and stupid, I remember thinking, ooooh, he's so old, isn't he over it by now???
Sometimes I cringe at my own ignorance back then, and I am also desperately hoping that that young man got out & found someone to love.
Living in Sydney, at least he wouldn't have had to look far!
just re read my post before pressing submit....spell check had replaced "young man" with "hung man"!!!!!. Hahahahahh
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Fading
by compound complex init is not chains that bind me to the position i now hold .
and, that, for a lengthy time now.. i stand motionless, my eyes peering through dark curtains, they fixed steadily upon cheerful passersby on the street below my third-storey bedroom window.
by their simply being out and about in the daytime sun i perceive that, in contrast to my placid self, these happy souls are at peace with the world.
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Pickler
I'm picturing Anthony Perkins (psycho) but he couldn't see passersby.......nice writing CC!
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What happens when a legally married....?
by sosoconfused inlesbian couple that has a child decides that they want to be one of jehovahs witnesses?
really think about this for a second.. what will they do then.. option 1: will they tell them that they have to get a divorce and ignore the scriptural counsel of jehovah hating a divorcing?
will they say that it was never valid anyway in the eyes of jehovah?
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Pickler
Why any gay or lesbian couple would ever choose to become a JW is beyond me........I would have thought this would never, ever happen. Shirley W however has just proved me wrong.
I have known a few people in my life who have had confused gender issues, I'm sure the elders would have been a great help (ahhhhhhh)!!!
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Kathryn Schulz: On being wrong
by thecrushed ini've never heard a more appropriate ted talk for jw's to take to heart than this one.
"most of us will do anything to avoid being wrong.
but what if we're wrong about that?
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Pickler
Really interesting, recognize so much JW thinking clarified in this. It's huge to realize that what you were brought up to believe was wrong, now I'm open to being wrong about almost anything......it's very "freeing" not to have to be right all the time.
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My Son and I have about 5 Months Left
by bavman inhello, i haven't been on here in awhile and it looks like a whole new crowd.
i disassociated myself about 8 years ago.
went through a divorce and shunning from most my family.
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Pickler
Hey bavman, I'm so sorry to read your story. Remember, 18 is so young, lots will change for him.
You have a really important role in your sons life, he has someone he can always rely on, that is not a JW. You will always be there as an option for him, you offer unconditional love. One day he will understand how this differs from JW "love". He also has a sister, so always another reason to remain in contact. Love & good luck to you
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Bipolar Landlady kicks me out!
by Terry infun times.. a year and a month have passed since i moved in to the house where my cousin deb and her husband bobby live.. i had a small but comfortable room, tv, etc.. a nice cozy family situation, you might say....right?.
i pay $600 a month to defray expenses.. hunky dory.. sure.
until the first few eruptions!.
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Pickler
Terry, wow, your attitude, how you raised your kids & how you are living your life, it's amazing! Thanks for sharing this with us,
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Newbie - I need advice!
by awakening inwell here it is, my first post!
it feels like a huge step like the point of no return.
i am a born in, still in wanting to get out ms. i have refused eldership, used to pioneer and have sooo many stories.
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Pickler
Welcome Awakening, leaving TT is a slow, slow process. TT can take over your whole lives, you need to take yours and your wife's life back, bit by bit.
Sleep in, make some non JW friends, volunteer somewhere, play a sport, read good literature. Every little thing that you do that is positive and life affirming lessens the hold that the TT has on you. Create distance!
I know that I was fading for a long time, but my new workplace at the time had some fabulous people, it really had a powerful impact on me, how could all these people be going to die at Armageddon? I love music, how could that be wrong?
With distance it becomes easier to see clearly what you don't believe, for instance, I never hated homosexuality like you were supposed to. I couldn't care less what 2 consenting adults want to get up to. Once I was away from the daily grind of being a JW that became crystal clear to me!
In summary it was love for the world around me that got me out of TT.
only later (like now!) am I looking into the many ways in which they are wrong, it's been an eye opener for me, for sure. Good Luck to you!