Seraphim you don't sound patronising. You have your views and beliefs and they bring you comfort. That is a good thing.
What makes me the most comfortable at this point in life is realizing that life is grand without having to constantly search for something that no one has found for thousands of years. I am not special and I do no thave the time to keep digging around for this stuff. Especially when the only places to dig around for it are in books that were written by people with obvious agendas... regardless of religion.
Ultimately I have noticed that in life i have been at my happiest times when I was not involved in any form of religious service or meditating on BOOKS and ideas of some prophet. If there is a god I can not attribute the things in the bible to him because that would be unfair. I have no proof that he did those things.
" I have the view that God does step in during the dying process for kids when they die"
Although that belief might make you feel better inside there is nothing anywhere that says he does this. You can see kids dying slow painful deaths of hunger... they hurt. they feel pain. they suffer. so it is obvious that he doesn't help them during the dying process unless all those kids are lying as they lie on the floor balled up in pain thinking to themselves... wow this feels great