It's likely we will have to face being shunned or viewed as DA because one of our children is ill and will most definitely be receiving regular blood transfusions as part of his treatment. There are no alternatives - its either blood or he won't make it. Although the doctors would administer blood regardless of our position, because we haven't opposed it and have welcomed it, we will be shunned by our former congregation and friends. It also puts our families in the awful heartbreaking position of being able to talk to us or shun us. I only hope it wakes them up, I have a hopeful feeling that my dad will at least wake up - he has already commented on the pettiness of the orgs rules on blood.
brainmelt
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WT SHUNNING POLICY: What has it done, or could it do to you?
by flipper inhi y'all, this is mrs. flipper.
please share your experiences with this, or possible consequences of being outed.. this recent controversy and resulting arguments all stem from people being outed - possibly losing friends and family because most jw's will blindly follow the watchtower's rules to shun them.. among people i know and experiences read here, the grief and loss caused by this is terrible, and maybe now is a good time to put up some experiences here, and put the focus on the worst villians of all - wt policymakers..
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brainmelt
Sorry, I didn't mean to leave my original post blank the other day, my browser was playing up.
Thanks for all your replies. So let me get this right.
If you don't consent for blood but the doctors give your child a tranfusion anyway because they were losing blood, the parents would be 'let off' by the elders because they didn't consent in the first place?
If you do sign the consent form for a blood transfusion and the child is given blood, if anyone finds out and tells the elders then a JC would be formed? If you said that you were sorry, you'd be given a private reproof but if you said you weren't sorry, then you'd be considered as having DA yourself?
So, the outcome for the child is the same, thanks to the law. The child would be hopefully be saved but the parents are shunned because they wanted to save their childs life. Have I understood this properly?
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"Prove the truth to yourself" Why does the GB give this advice?
by Comatose inwas reflecting on the instructions that are given pretty regularly to make the truth your own, prove it to ourselves, and address any doubts we might have.
why would jws get this advice when the result of any honest search would lead one to exactly where most of us here are?
i can think of two answers.. first, it's somewhat like being on a tour at a public attraction.
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brainmelt
Well I followed that very advice and look where it led me . I tried using just their publications, I could tell straight away that the info they had on evolution was codswallop and it led me to look at what else was codswallop...
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Anxiety Attacks At Meetings
by EmptyInside ini believe i posted on this before.
but,i was recently thinking back when i was still regularly going to meetings.
and how sometimes,just the thought of having to start to get ready to go,sent me in a panic.
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brainmelt
It's why I had to make the decision to stop going altogether. I was having anxiety attacks for two days before a meeting, my nerves were on edge, half my week was ruined because of feeling so anxious. I couldn't fake it any more, my last meeting was two weeks ago. I feel so much better already.
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How long has this been going on!?
by Julia Orwell inok, i've suddenly got heaps of time for stuff, i can cuddle with my husband on weekend mornings, and i don't have to spend money on meeting clothes!
i've got all these great clothes i hardly wear!
we can make pancakes on saturday mornings!
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brainmelt
Julia - yes please! Weekend brunch is a particular favourite of mine :)
Lost - unfortunately my children spoil any chance of a lie in, they are both under 5 so seem to enjoy getting up at 7am! But lazy mornings, walks to the park, pottering around in the garden, it all feels so good to finally feel 'normal' :)
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After the cult how many reject faith in anything?
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brainmelt
I would describe myself as agnostic. I can't completely rule out the idea of some sort of spiritual being/beings but I also have no proof either, and evolution makes so much sense to me now that I am actually learning about it. At the moment, I have no need for faith in a god or supernatural being, it has been completely shattered. I've put the shattered pieces into a metaphorical box which I will reopen at some time and explore if I feel the need. Right now, I'm taking time for me and to enjoy life and my family.
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How long has this been going on!?
by Julia Orwell inok, i've suddenly got heaps of time for stuff, i can cuddle with my husband on weekend mornings, and i don't have to spend money on meeting clothes!
i've got all these great clothes i hardly wear!
we can make pancakes on saturday mornings!
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brainmelt
Its a great feeling isn't it? I'm finally looking forward to weekends for the first time in a long time, I had been dreading them for so long, especially after learning TTATT. Now I can enjoy that Friday feeling again and look forward to spending quality family time together and not spend the whole weekend feeling exhausted.
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What is the best thing that ever happened in your life?
by creativespirit infor me it was meeting and marrying my current husband (who had once studied for the catholic priesthood).. the second best thing was having an affair during my first marriage (to the bethelite).
he said "oh, this is all wrong.
you have to get out of your marriage, and you have to get out of your religion.".
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brainmelt
Getting married to my best friend and having my two gorgeous children.
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It got to be hard being a JW today!!!!
by jam ini can understand why they think the end is near.. in the old days, one was proud to be a jw (well maybe.
not for you young ones) but for us that came in the 60,s.
and 70,s, we felt no shame in our game.
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brainmelt
Its embarrasing being a JW today. All the talks on how we should be proud to be witnesses, I was always embarrassed to tell anyone, the beliefs are so wacky.