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  Need advice: Intimacy with my wife almost non existint because she considers me an apostate

  by goingthruthemotions in

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  just on of the perks of being an apostate who is married to a branwashed, blinded jw woman.

  you know, we have been married for ~27 years....most of which we had nothing to do with the piece of shite cult.

  up till the begining of 2014 was when i woke up.

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  Morpheus, if that is "most certainly provable", please do so. Otherwise your comment sounds terribly mysogynist in nature.

  Not all women "withhold sex as means of manipulation and negative reinforcement".
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  Need advice: Intimacy with my wife almost non existint because she considers me an apostate

  by goingthruthemotions in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  just on of the perks of being an apostate who is married to a branwashed, blinded jw woman.

  you know, we have been married for ~27 years....most of which we had nothing to do with the piece of shite cult.

  up till the begining of 2014 was when i woke up.

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  To classify any woman who does not feel like having sex as "withholding it" (as if using a weapon) shows a complete lack of understanding of women's emotions. Granted, there are probably many women who DO use sex as a weapon, and we all (including other women) consider them to be first class b*tches.

  But as Steve2 wisely pointed out: As a rule,whereas the male sexual drive can function even in the absence of love and affection, women's cannot. Why turn a physiological and psychological (sp corr) difficulty in sexual functioning into a combative phrase such as using it as a weapon?

  It's probably very difficult for some men to understand that women just don't get turned on when they are upset. It's not always a vindictive act, although in GTTM's case it may well be.

  I don't support an instant call for divorce where younger children are involved, but having grown up in a family where it would have been better had the parents divorced, I cannot condemn it either. The line about "children deserving two parents" does not take into account the negative drama that lives within a family when the parents cannot reconcile their relationship. Better to have great times separately with each parent than to have crappy times with them both.

  GTTM, only you can decide what the climate is like in your household and how you should handle it. Even though you are understandably angry at the cult, there may be a different feeling once some of this anger wears off. However, if your wife continues to act ugly and cold toward, it may be very difficult to try the "wine and dine" approach. I think many here totally understand your pain and anger. Perhaps by venting here to us, it will help you to lessen your anger level at home and allow you to clearly see the path you need to walk. Give yourself some time to see how this plays out. No matter what decisions you make, we will be here to support you.
  
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  ...But will he get disfellowshipped?

  by Funchback in

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  mta driver suspended after drunken long island joyride was seen at depot but somehow still got hold of city bus: officials.

  http://www.nydailynews.com/new-york/nyc-crime/mta-driver-suspended-drunken-long-island-joyride-article-1.2359826.

  olga calderon, 50, who lives a few homes down, said copeland leaves at dawn to drive buses in the city and he spends his days off at home with his wife.

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  Gee, I thought the neighbors' comments were pretty kind. What did they say that his daughter so upset about?

  (And who knew you could drive buses for $84K?)
  
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  Washington Post in US: Jehovah's Witnesses Face Child Sex Abuse Investigation in Australia

  by cultBgone in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  it's finally hit mainstream media in the us!

  let's hope some savvy investigative journalists see a pulitzer for opening up this story to cover the us and worldwide cases.. jehovahs-witnesses-face-child-sex-abuse-investigation-in-australia/2015/08/14/.

  everyone who is able should hurry up and post comments on their website as the pro-jw forces have rallied and are trying to squash this as libel.

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  Freddo, I just happened to run across this when I was searching for another article. Hadn't noticed it before and was at least happy to see it hit a major US daily.

  Guess the comments only stay open for a few weeks or 30 days, sorry I missed that window.
  
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  Washington Post in US: Jehovah's Witnesses Face Child Sex Abuse Investigation in Australia

  by cultBgone in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  it's finally hit mainstream media in the us!

  let's hope some savvy investigative journalists see a pulitzer for opening up this story to cover the us and worldwide cases.. jehovahs-witnesses-face-child-sex-abuse-investigation-in-australia/2015/08/14/.

  everyone who is able should hurry up and post comments on their website as the pro-jw forces have rallied and are trying to squash this as libel.

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  It's finally hit mainstream media in the US! Let's hope some savvy investigative journalists see a Pulitzer for opening up this story to cover the US and worldwide cases.
  

  jehovahs-witnesses-face-child-sex-abuse-investigation-in-australia/2015/08/14/

  Everyone who is able should hurry up and post comments on their website as the pro-JW forces have rallied and are trying to squash this as Libel. Danny Haszard has posted a lot of data but he could use some support in this.
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  Today's Watchtower Study

  by sprintcmp in

  1. jw
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  so my uber devoted mom called me this morning....wanted to encourage to go to the hall today.

  she has called my df brother also to encourage him.

  our deliverance is getting near, she says....and you need to get to the meeting today.

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  Is that today's cover photo? Where are the spring dresses and smiling faces as they head off into "Paradise"? And will those guys looking back be turned into pillars of salt? Oh, the drama!!
  
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  Extreme emotions re today's watchtower

  by Tornintwo in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i was supposed to attend the meeting today, one of my once a month duties for the sake of my family and my fade.

  i read the wt and i just can't stomach going.... what this wt does is again and again reiterate that only jws will survive the coming destruction and that they should be happy about this and raise ourselves erect...eg:.

  we cannot expect that many people will suddenly convert to true christianity.

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  Let's not ignore this not-so-subtle point:
  

  To remain faithful, will we be willing to experience material loss? Will we be ready to do whatever is required of us to prove our loyalty to Jehovah?"

  Now please empty your pockets and bank accounts and give everything to the GB, as we have not all got our pinky rings and Apple watches yet. Thank you.
  
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  Three Elders with Same Victim - Is Poland Next?

  by berrygerry in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  from reddit:.

  https://www.reddit.com/r/exjw/comments/3iipt9/its_happening_a_big_news_story_in_one_of_the/.

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  And let's not forget this point --> IF this is THE religion being used by (should you care to believe) the supreme spiritual being in the sky who is in charge of all things, meaning this "religion" is THE ONE and MOST HIGH, then it should NOT be having the same problems as all other religions.

  No excuses.
  
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  Reflecting on my Disfellowshipping

  by kairos in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  today is the day.. i was baptized as one of jehovah's witnesses on march 25th 1989.disfellowshipped for admitted apostasy today, september 10th 2015.. what an amazing story we all share.

  how did we get involved with this group and think this was the best way of life?.

  i asked my wife to stay home from the meeting tonight and spend the evening with me.she is.... we celebrated our 19th wedding anniversary this past monday.. i must admit, i never saw any of this coming, but it couldn't have come sooner.i'm free of all the fake friendships.

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  Congrats to you kairos, it will feel so good to finally be free!
  
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  If the elders were abused sexually this problem would have been taken care of long time ago.

  by Still Totally ADD in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i feel the real problem with the wt cult concerning child abuse is it happens to children not adult men.

  notice i didn't say adult women because they don't care about adult women either.

  i remember a c.o.

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  First, ADD, I totally agree that their misogyny is the reason women and children are treated like trash.

  Second, I totally agree that the term "child abuse" is deliberately used to soften the image of the horrific trauma suffered by children when they are brutally RAPED by men.

  Rape is not sexual. Rape is a power and control tool used by those who have no sense of self-worth.

  While it's true that many rapists (abusers is too soft) have themselves been victimized, it does not excuse the continued pattern of behavior. Only when horrible crimes are exposed and labeled as such can change begin in any society.