No offense meant, but the little brother who was thrown down the stairs is the primary concern here.
1. Protect him - get him out if possible.
2. Protect mother - get her out if possible.
3. Deal with father.
4. THEN deal with emotions.
The mother may NEVER go against the father. What? Let the kid get the hell beat out of him while they learn to feel through their anger? NO! Get the kid protection - and the mother, because the father might turn on her next.
This is NOT a new situation, as Ashi has said - if the police have never been called in before - it would be a damned good learning lesson for the father. Perhaps a night in jail might help him calm down more than doing cleaning with his whipped wife. Perhaps he'll get the shit beat out of him. One can only hope.
But - Get help for the boy.
Wendy, no offense again, but you said in a previous post, several months back, that you had completed a 7th grade education. You and JanH were in a discussion and afterwards, you said you wanted "to get" an education. From your actual posts, exactly what are your professional accomplishments? What are you state accredited in - within the mental health field dealing with physical abuse - and when & what state? What exactly is your profession in dealing with old people? I was under the impression when JanH called you ignorant - and I defended you, that you had some nursing experience. Are you a registered nurse? LPN? Nurses Aid?
And btw, even if you are a highly state licensed professional with experience at age 26 with 2 kids and one on the way, and been on your own since age 16 - it doesn't make you necessarily right. Just like me, you can be wrong. The only difference is, we won't be dead wrong - the little brother might be.
This is serious crap we're talking about - and I'm not a professional. This is when I take a bow to professionals and say "call professionals."
Tina & I may not get along - but on this one.....this family needs professional intervention - pronto.
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