Oh thank you everyone,why didnt I do this years ago!! You honestly have no idea how much better you have made feel in the last 24 hours. Still admit to feeling a wee bit scared that I will get "found out" but I reason to myself, "why on earth would you want to be part of ANY organisation that makes you feel like that?" I will take on board all of your advice and,yes I do believe we will get there.
franticfran
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Hello??
by franticfran ini have just joined this website and just wanted to say hello to anyone out there.
i am so nervous,after thirty odd years in the "truth" i feel as though my husband and i have just walked into a room full of smiling strangers and we are just standing here hoping to god someone will come up and speak to us.
scared and excited and hoping to wake up one morning and not wonder what we do now???
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Shunned!
by zeb inyay i have been shunned!
i have not been to the kh for more than a year and a posse of sisters have shunned me!.
i was out having a coffee and they were there as well.. maybe they just didint see me to busy gossing on about someone else....
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franticfran
Ignorant people! Simple good manners would have made me say good morning,actualy do you think that perhaps that people who behave in the this fashion are actualy the bad association. Dont get upset they are just small minded bullies.
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The Borg "our mother"? Good Grief!
by Roberta804 ini have heard it all now, or at least up to now, the borg never ceases to surprise me.
so when jesus was talking to his deciple from the cross (opps stake), "this is your mother" or something like that, was he talking about the borg?
lol.
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franticfran
This whole organisation is becoming unrecognisable to us older ones and its realy quite sinister,the more I hear and read the more I become convinced that to walk away was the safest thing to do to preserve any relationship I had left with Jehovah. Depressing,very depressing.
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Hello??
by franticfran ini have just joined this website and just wanted to say hello to anyone out there.
i am so nervous,after thirty odd years in the "truth" i feel as though my husband and i have just walked into a room full of smiling strangers and we are just standing here hoping to god someone will come up and speak to us.
scared and excited and hoping to wake up one morning and not wonder what we do now???
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Oh thank you all so much for taking the time to answer my post its been quite overwhelming realy!! It seems rude not to reply to all of you individualy but I will try to do this private message thing to as many as I can, but please dont feel that you have to respond I dont want to press anyone,but thank you again.
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Hello??
by franticfran ini have just joined this website and just wanted to say hello to anyone out there.
i am so nervous,after thirty odd years in the "truth" i feel as though my husband and i have just walked into a room full of smiling strangers and we are just standing here hoping to god someone will come up and speak to us.
scared and excited and hoping to wake up one morning and not wonder what we do now???
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Someone said"let us know a bit about yourselves" but I am afraid its all rather unexciting and I suspect predictable, and money on it you have heard it all before too. Were an older couple with three lovely children, we were baptised in 1975 and life was for the most fine for years allthough there was a lot we were unhappy about but we wanted to be obedient and so we carried on,but toward the end some of these "new truths" just didnt seem to come from the bible but seemed to spring from private interpretation,but God forgive us we stayed silent. The elders were slowly becoming more and more hard line and many in the congregation became afraid to express their opinions on even the most minor of matters,the word "apostacy" was used frequently to silence any unwelcome discussion,and it did. Im afraid the catalyst for us leaving was more mundane..I had a row with an elders wife,and that was it,the group was removed from our home after thirty years and it just went downhill from there on until I needed medication just to walk into the hall,we became like pariahs,if the elders disapproved us then it follwed we must be a bad association. We were devasted by our treatment,I felt as though the flesh had been stripped from my bones. The children stopped coming and finally we gave up ourselves and so for the last year we have sat here not talking about what we were all thinking about,but I hope thats coming to an end. So people,thank you for reading this at last I have got it out,I think I am starting to breathe again.
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Hello??
by franticfran ini have just joined this website and just wanted to say hello to anyone out there.
i am so nervous,after thirty odd years in the "truth" i feel as though my husband and i have just walked into a room full of smiling strangers and we are just standing here hoping to god someone will come up and speak to us.
scared and excited and hoping to wake up one morning and not wonder what we do now???
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Thank you everyone,this will be the first time in over a year when I feel that I can just "talk" at last!! We walked away from the congregation over a year ago now and it has been a tremendously difficult time,after over three decades in the congregation we have felt as though we have been walking in total darkness and thats a fearful place to be. We are just surfacing into this strange new world and it is difficult on so many levels,so many emotions...anger.mistrust.disappointment.bewilderment and fear,do we have enough time left to salvage our lives and realy enjoy things again. We dont want to rebel or say unkind things but I realy do feel that we were controlled and manipulated for decades and to raise a voice in dissent was to bring the might of the elders crashing down on you,and believe me it did! I just want to say thank you for your hello,s you have no idea how normal that makes me feel. :)
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by franticfran ini have just joined this website and just wanted to say hello to anyone out there.
i am so nervous,after thirty odd years in the "truth" i feel as though my husband and i have just walked into a room full of smiling strangers and we are just standing here hoping to god someone will come up and speak to us.
scared and excited and hoping to wake up one morning and not wonder what we do now???
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Hello anybody? I have just joined this website and just wanted to say hello to anyone out there. I am so nervous,after thirty odd years in the "truth" I feel as though my husband and I have just walked into a room full of smiling strangers and we are just standing here hoping to God someone will come up and speak to us. Scared and excited and hoping to wake up one morning and not wonder what we do now??? Sorry starting to talk too much.
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How Long has it Been since you Last Attended Meetings and What Caused...
by flipper in..... you to stop attending ?
injustices ?
disagree with the teachings ?
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Ah thank you people, not sure how to do that, not terribly computer literate,but I will go off and investigate. You have no idea how good this feels to speak to others at last,I must be careful I dont just talk and talk!! I feel as though suddenly the floodgates have been opened. Thank you all so much again,now I shall go off and do this post thing.
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How Long has it Been since you Last Attended Meetings and What Caused...
by flipper in..... you to stop attending ?
injustices ?
disagree with the teachings ?
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Thank you so much for your kind words of welcome. I admit that I quietly enjoy being a fairly free individual now, I am tremendously disappointed in this organisation and the culture of control that seems to have developed in the past few years,and I freely admit I feel lonely and out of step with "normal" people. I was so well known in my community as a witness and allthough I was friendly and I hope kind, I made sure never to make friends with "worldly" people,and now here we are an elderly couple without any social networks entirely afloat in an unfamiliar land,but we will start again I am determined. I believe that we can love Jehovah, live our lives in accord with the scriptures but enjoy our lives without fear and isolation in this world today,so here goes everybody, wish us luck...we are jumping in.
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How Long has it Been since you Last Attended Meetings and What Caused...
by flipper in..... you to stop attending ?
injustices ?
disagree with the teachings ?
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Goodness me, here I am for the first time and I still feel as though someone is peering over my shoulder and at any moment I will be "found out"! We havent been to a meeting for over a year and I am not sure what it is I still miss,is it the people? We had been in the truth for 37 years and nothing mattered in our lives but the truth,and now we are abandoned,but we still feel that we have our integrity. I see brothers I was so close to once and they duck into shops to avoid me,were not disfellowshipped or anything like that,we just refused to be bullied,and so just walking into the hall made me quite ill with fear and aprehension. So here I am,do I miss what I had,honestly? yes I do! To be honest though I think I just nodded dumbly for over thirty years and just accepted without question,but I think we were a kinder organisation then,I think now this organisation is about control and thats just wrong!! Sorry to rant on,its like for the first time I can speak without fear.