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Dealing with mom.....

by wonderwoman77 in

well today i spent christmas at my dad's, but when i got home i had a disturbing message from my mom.

for you that know me, you know my mom has borderline personality disorder and is difficult to deal with at most times.

i had planned on actually seeing her before christmas, but everytime i tried to call her she was not home, so i was not able to.

wonderwoman77

Thank you all for you commments. It really helped for me to get on here and read some of the comments.

Scully--thanks for being so understanding and for the hug. IT is very hard to be in a relationship with my mom. It was a lot harder as a child and a teenagers, because I did not understand what was going on, but now I know and I am educated and I can protect myself to a degree from getting sucked in by her manipulation. Today it was just hard. This is the 2nd christmas I spent without her. I tried to see her before, but it is just too hard. A part of me really wants to, but then knows it will be really really hard. I have come through a lot with dealing with our relationship. I spent 2 years in counseling and have grown a lot in the last 1 just through grad school. I think I will make it someday...

Waiting--Thanks for the hug. I am sorry about your mom, it is a hard thing to deal with. Do you still live in Indiana. That is where I live. Take care

Thanks again everyone...

WW

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What Is 'Normal' Behaviour? And How Do You ....

by Celtic in

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attain the definition of what 'normality' is?.

how can i define it?

does the answer fit within a box?

wonderwoman77

I think normal is one of those relative terms. What one person believes is normal, another person says is not. But honestly, who cares what normal is. Accept yourself and others will accept you too...

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Dealing with mom.....

by wonderwoman77 in

well today i spent christmas at my dad's, but when i got home i had a disturbing message from my mom.

for you that know me, you know my mom has borderline personality disorder and is difficult to deal with at most times.

i had planned on actually seeing her before christmas, but everytime i tried to call her she was not home, so i was not able to.

wonderwoman77

Well today I spent Christmas at my dad's, but when I got home I had a disturbing message from my mom. For you that know me, you know my mom has borderline personality disorder and is difficult to deal with at most times. I had planned on actually seeing her before christmas, but everytime I tried to call her she was not home, so I was not able to. Well she called me saying she was hoping to see me, but she understood, and said then said at least she thought she did, by this time she was crying....

I called her back. It made me cry. I want nothing more than to have a relationship with her, but I know that I cannot. She hurts me over and over. I can have a distanced relationship with her, but that is about all. It is so hard to explain. I know I am the one that sounds like a bitch because I did not go see my mom on xmas. But she lives with a guy that is abusive, that has threatened me before. It is so hard, and she looks so unhappy, everytime I see her, I can tell she is hurting inside and that tears me up. I hate that things have to be this way. I wish I could change it, so that I could just have a normal relationship with her. That is all I want, why is that too much to ask?????

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Funny advertisement

by wonderwoman77 in

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on my way home from visiting my dad today, i heard the funniest commercial on the radio, i thought i was going to die laughing.

it was for a muffler shop called dad's mufflers.

there slogan is..."ain't no muff too tough".

wonderwoman77

On my way home from visiting my dad today, I heard the funniest commercial on the radio, I thought I was going to die laughing. It was for a muffler shop called Dad's mufflers. There slogan is..."Ain't no muff too tough". I was rolling....

Hope everyone has a happy holiday...

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I think Gods talking to me..at last.

by refiners fire in

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hi.. ive been experiencing some pretty weird phenomena recently.. it started about two months ago.. what happens is, i get dreams.

they are bad.so bad they wake me up.this is always like, 3am, 4am,then i get up.

after a while i start getting sensations with my hair standing on end and electric impulses running up and down my back, like mild electric shocks.

wonderwoman77

Refiners Fire...what ever you are experiencing is very real to you and that is what is important. You said you have a diagnosis of bipolar disorder. Are you on any meds? If you are, some meds prescribed for that disorder can cause pyschotic symptoms and sleep disturbance. Also bipolar in general can cause psychotic symptoms such as delusions and hallucinations. I am not saying this is what is happening to you, but it might be worth looking into. Just my thoughts.....

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Pathetic Roll Call

by Valis in

i thought the easiest way to share the pathetic tale of one faithful family in a different sort of way.

we'll start at the top and work our way to myself.. grandfather mom's side=never saw him, abused his children sexually/physically, emotionally, finally got the big df and has been sighted at halls around country using different names.

other wife/family also abused and left.. grandmother mom's side= lived w/abusive elder/alchoholic for many years, after he left for life w/other wife, went crazy, then she got cancer, but wouldn't get transfusions, or bone marrow transplant.

wonderwoman77

Nice to meet you Valis. Welcome to the board. You will come to find out many people here have been through crazy stuff. It is hard, but once we get past it we are much better, stronger people. I am glad you found the board and look foward to getting to know you.

I left when I was 19 when I went to college. I am still in grad school now...only a little bit left YEA!!!

Again...welcome

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Request for next few days

by joelbear in

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hey my friends,.

throw me some positive thoughts over the next few days.. my job worries are back and my brother called yesterday to say my mother is going downhill more quickly than i imagined.. mitch and i are off to visit her and dad tomorrow.. i had a terrible panic attack last night.

mitch got a xanax in me in the nick of time and i calmed down and went to sleep.. hope everyone is having a good holiday season.

wonderwoman77

Hey Joel, I hope things get better for you. You will be in my thoughts. I know what panic attacks are like, and it is not pleasant. I hope all is well HUGS!!!!

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Christmas and birthdays...

by Celia in

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this thought came to me this morning, as i was lying in bed, trying to figure out which end is up.... the jws dont celebrate christmas, the birth of christ their savior.... because in earlier times, the same date was used to celebrate the return of the sun, the winter solstice.... (by the way, celebrating the return of the sun makes a lot of sense... no sun - no life..... we know the sun is there, we know what it does, no such thing about a god...) .

but i regress.. so, because on this date, pagans used to celebrate the sun, the jws dont want to celebrate christs birth..... its a little bit like not wanting to celebrate the birthday of a loved one, because he/she was born on the same day as a bad guy in history, like hitler, or napoleon, or slobodan milosevic, or saddam hussein, or osama bin laden... etc.... hmmm... my thinking is flawed, because, of course, the jws dont celebrate birthdays either.... question : did they first decide that christmas was evil or birthday celebrating was ?.

edited because the emoticon does not work.... :) :?

wonderwoman77

Celia...you said in your first post that it was like jesus was born on a bad day because it was a sun worshiping holiday. But Jesus would have not been born in december, but in the fall. I celebrate christmas, but not because it would be jesus' birthday, but because it is a day to celebrate family and friends and tradition.
So your question, it doesn't matter which came first, birthdays or christmas....Christmas came to be so catholics (no offense) could convert the pagans. They said, lets make this sun worshiping Jesus' birthday so the pagans will then worship christ and that is how it came to be.....

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What do you know about Unitarian Universalist?

by Eyebrow in

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i have read on their website that then are a noncreed religion, and welcome all sorts of views and that they encourage their members to be active in community and charities, etc,.

what do you guys know about this church?

i was thinking about checking one of the churches out around here.

wonderwoman77

Thanks for all the info...It has been something I have been seriously thinking about.

Gopher: My reasons for wanting to pursue a religion is it helps me focus on my spirituality and personal growth. It allows me to have others to speak with on this matter. I want an environment where I am not stifled or felt like I have to believe one way or the other and I think so far in my search the UU do that. I think I am going to see what I can find in my community.

anewperson: could you tell me where you got those resources about the UU? Also, I find the jahchristian group to be a little stifling...nothing personal...

penn: Yeah jesus said that...what does that have to do with the UU?

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What do you know about Unitarian Universalist?

by Eyebrow in

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i have read on their website that then are a noncreed religion, and welcome all sorts of views and that they encourage their members to be active in community and charities, etc,.

what do you guys know about this church?

i was thinking about checking one of the churches out around here.

wonderwoman77

Hey there. I actually am in the same boat as you. I do not know much about them, but I took that quiz on beliefnet.com and each time I take it, they come up as the most compatible (by the way JW always come up least compatilble at 16%). So I have been doing some research. They accept just about any views overall. Some of their churches are more christian based, but they accept any belief in god, even nontheist. They are very open with all types of people. I am sincerly thinking of looking into attending some of their services. Let me know if you find anything interesting out....