i have been drifting for about 1 1/2 years now and was hoping that in a year or two i would have distanced myself enough from the org.
that i can actually start living my life exactly the way i want to...aka celebrating the holidays by putting lights on the house, not having to tell my daughter not to say anything about going trick or treating, getting birthday presents or going to cheerleader camp.
but i read some posts in the disfellowhiping thread started by somebody where people have been inactive for 3 years and are still disfellowhiped!
No not really worried Jonnie, even if someone did see my pic and posts..they will still have to prove it was me...don't have my name or exact location..I have changed a lot in appearance since I left also...lol doubt ANYONE would connect the brunette submissive sister I was with the blonde on here showing her cleavage to the world
But thank you for the warning! And for all the active JW spies lurking...this is for you enjoy living thru us
one of the upcoming articles listed in the latest wt is:.
"i appeal to caesar".
just speculating, but could this be an article that explains the ngo/dpi association to the rank and file?.
Hey Mak you have a subscription? If so how did you get it? We tried but for some reason they don't want us to have one
P.S. you know we are saving the good wine for when ya'll come and visit! Louis Jadot Pinot Noir 1998 (I think that is the year)
i have been drifting for about 1 1/2 years now and was hoping that in a year or two i would have distanced myself enough from the org.
that i can actually start living my life exactly the way i want to...aka celebrating the holidays by putting lights on the house, not having to tell my daughter not to say anything about going trick or treating, getting birthday presents or going to cheerleader camp.
but i read some posts in the disfellowhiping thread started by somebody where people have been inactive for 3 years and are still disfellowhiped!
lol leave it to you Mega to find my weakest spot (you were an elder, weren't you???) I do worry about the effects of teaching my daughter to keep certain things "secret". Is this a pattern I really want to start? I have so far handled this by explaining that we do not want to upset or hurt them by telling them about these things...she seems to understand that, but worries she is going to slip up sometimes when she is with them..I try to relieve this by stressing that is it OK if she does slip up...it's not that big a deal...lol what a tangled web we weave though, huh?
Do you want your daughter to have a relationship with people, or family, that will shun her mother because you celebrated the day of your daughter being born or whatever the Watchtower says is wrong?
Well actually I do want her to have a relationship with them...why you may ask...because they are her family too and she has a right to know them. I will not be the one to shun them or have my daugher shun them for their beliefs...I would rather teach her to pity them and to love them dispite their flawed reasoning. We all need relationships that aren't perfect, no one has perfect relationships with their family and just because a relationship requires a little more effort than normal doesn't mean it isn't worth that extra effort, does it?
i have been drifting for about 1 1/2 years now and was hoping that in a year or two i would have distanced myself enough from the org.
that i can actually start living my life exactly the way i want to...aka celebrating the holidays by putting lights on the house, not having to tell my daughter not to say anything about going trick or treating, getting birthday presents or going to cheerleader camp.
but i read some posts in the disfellowhiping thread started by somebody where people have been inactive for 3 years and are still disfellowhiped!
Please let me know what you find out petty! We have considered broaching the subject with an elder...the old what if...but that would mean we would actually have to TALK to an ELDER...I would much rather wait to hear back from you!
I hear you on the subject of JW relatives! Most of them I am more than happy to let "shun" me. But there are a few that I would miss and I know my daughter would miss them too, so we try to stay out of trouble
i have been drifting for about 1 1/2 years now and was hoping that in a year or two i would have distanced myself enough from the org.
that i can actually start living my life exactly the way i want to...aka celebrating the holidays by putting lights on the house, not having to tell my daughter not to say anything about going trick or treating, getting birthday presents or going to cheerleader camp.
but i read some posts in the disfellowhiping thread started by somebody where people have been inactive for 3 years and are still disfellowhiped!
Thank you for your imput Lizard and radar..my only problem with your solution is that they DO have a hold on my family and through them indirectly on me...my family is the ONLY thing that ties me to the JW's anymore and I don't want to be forced to lose them. So if I do my own thing and they decided to d/f because if it...even though I no longer go to meetings or identify myself as a JW...the family memebers that don't shun me right now might feel pressured to start shunning me.
It would just be nice to know that there was some kind of time limit...lol your membership expires if you don't renew after a certain amount of time (with no penalites)...
...I am sorry you have reached a wrong number please hang up and dial again!?!
I am probably missing something here...but what?? (shaking head with puzzled smile on face)
i have been drifting for about 1 1/2 years now and was hoping that in a year or two i would have distanced myself enough from the org.
that i can actually start living my life exactly the way i want to...aka celebrating the holidays by putting lights on the house, not having to tell my daughter not to say anything about going trick or treating, getting birthday presents or going to cheerleader camp.
but i read some posts in the disfellowhiping thread started by somebody where people have been inactive for 3 years and are still disfellowhiped!
Cool Six...I can come and decorate your house too???
It just never ceases to amaze me the strangle hold this religion can have....damn I wish my mom had never opened that door!!!! lol then of course I probably never would have met all you nice people and that really would be a shame!!!!!
i have been drifting for about 1 1/2 years now and was hoping that in a year or two i would have distanced myself enough from the org.
that i can actually start living my life exactly the way i want to...aka celebrating the holidays by putting lights on the house, not having to tell my daughter not to say anything about going trick or treating, getting birthday presents or going to cheerleader camp.
but i read some posts in the disfellowhiping thread started by somebody where people have been inactive for 3 years and are still disfellowhiped!
Thanks for your reply HS. So I wonder if there any written rules on this kind of thing?? Probably not due to legal "issues" that might arise.
lol I will just keep telling myself..patience is a virtue...patience is a virtue...
>Pity will then be your friend rather than judgment your enemy.<
Excellent thought!
i have been drifting for about 1 1/2 years now and was hoping that in a year or two i would have distanced myself enough from the org.
that i can actually start living my life exactly the way i want to...aka celebrating the holidays by putting lights on the house, not having to tell my daughter not to say anything about going trick or treating, getting birthday presents or going to cheerleader camp.
but i read some posts in the disfellowhiping thread started by somebody where people have been inactive for 3 years and are still disfellowhiped!
I have been drifting for about 1 1/2 years now and was hoping that in a year or two I would have distanced myself enough from the org. that I can actually start living my life exactly the way I want to...aka celebrating the holidays by putting lights on the house, not having to tell my daughter not to say anything about going trick or treating, getting birthday presents or going to cheerleader camp. But I read some posts in the disfellowhiping thread started by somebody where people have been inactive for 3 years and are still disfellowhiped! When does it end? When are you no longer considered one of them?
I don't want to d/a myself because then it would be hard for some of my family members to justify still associating with me...lol I just want it to be over..someday...so is there any hope at all????
this just came to me while i was sitting here.
i know, it belongs in the arts forum but it's for newly-outs or 'on the way outs' and they're more likely to find it here.. .
i know that's what you have been told,.
That was so beautiful and so true....thank you so much for sharing!
