Always my luck...a little to late! After reading you post seeker I have to say you seem like a very insightful man....
That in the end what I think a lot of this is about is that we all want to connect with others, that we're looking for someone who makes us feel special, and that we all want to be close to someone and not taken for granted.
Bingo! You hit the bulls eye with that comment!
BTW this was a two part question wasn't it????