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  Life at School - as a Witness

  by trevor in

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  life at school.

  as a schoolboy i lived a double life.

  in the evening i would go from door to door with my father or attend a meeting.

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  yumbby

  Reading this post was like looking a an entry into my diary! I just wonder if anyone else here has had problems integrating into the world after living like this. I find it hard to trust anyone when they say they love me, because in my life as well as yours, love was very conditional on actions. My mother and sister don't speak to me even though I'm not DA or DS yet. Its hard to break the feeling in relationships that the person will leave if our conduct isn't up to "standards". I can name many other ways that growing up in the borg, causes problems in future life, but thats for another post.
  Good night everyone.
  Shantelle
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  Obessed with sex?

  by DB in

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  now that i have your attention....really, this is about sex.. this week's issue of newsweek contains an interesting commentary by anna quinlan, found on the last page, that deals with the catholic church's priestly sex scandal and how, for so many years, repressive teachings by the church in matters realting to human sexuality have been very counter-productive and have missed the mark badly while the church at the same time tried to cover-up cases of pedophilia among priests.

  examples given include teachings like no divorce (while people suffer in bad marriages), no birth control (thus teaching that sex is not be engaged in simply for pleasure but with the purpose of procreation), and so on.

  and yet in the meantime, they obviously missed the boat on the whole problem of sex abuse within their own priesthood.. while jw teachings are not as repressive, at times i have noticed a seeming obsession, if one might call it that, among some jws in matters of a sexual nature.

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  yumbby

  My worldly husband was appalled at the rules the elders put on members of the congregation. Getting in trouble if you were ever with anyone of the opposite sex alone. At one meeting we were told that there was NO reason for a man and a woman to be friends outside of marriage. My husband was deeply offended that all men or woman where automatically judged to be sex pervs and ready to jump on anyone that they had two minutes alone with. He felt like it was assumed that everyone was animals without restraint. He's not the only one who has been offended at this line of reasoning.
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  What do you think is the worlds worst movie ever m

  by Waygooder64 in

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  i am watching what i think is the dumbest movie ever put on film,the quick and the dead.

  sharon stone (who i think looks great with no panties) absolutely sucked in this stupid movie.

  whats with the plot of this yawner,its been done a bit too much.she was terrible and gene hackman must have needed the money when he signed on to do this groaner..just my opinion and we all know what they about opinions...they are just like assholes, we all have them and they all stink...

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  yumbby

  I have to say, I wanted my money back after Muskateer, I thought they should have paid ME to watch that garbage.
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  Memorial No Shows...Please Check in....

  by ISP in

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  well, i was tempted but i decided not to go to the most bizarre religious ritual of modern times....how about you?.

  isp

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  yumbby

  This is my first miss, and I'm not a bit sad to miss this years fashion show. Is it just me or where more people concerned about what they were wearing than the so called "holy day"?
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  Louisiana

  by gspradling in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hi all,.

  i just wondered if there was anyone on here from deridder, la?

  i was in the borg there back in the 70's.

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  yumbby

  Hi, I grew up in sulphur and lake charles, la and in fact am moving to ragley louisiana in a week from now... I'm currently in denver, but since my dad doesn't associate with witnesses anymore, its time to get to know him again.
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  Are you happy?

  by teejay in

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  in the context of this forum, happiness at its core is generally defined in one of two ways: a) being a witness or, b) not being a witness.

  most of us consider ourselves happier since leaving the organization.

  because of a recent discussion between violetanai and marilyn, i've thought about it some more, only to reaffirm the truth i already discovered some time ago.

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  yumbby

  Hi, this is a really great post, and I find myself obligated to answer. As a witness, I did not leave because of the things I could not do. It truly didnot bother me having restrictions because it was all I knew, however I left because I came to believe it was not the only true religion as they claim and I couldn't stand to be so bigoted. Has the freedom to smoke, drink, cuss made me happier? No. Freerer. Yes, less stressed? Yes. However, when I started pursuing a career and better and bigger things when I left the org, my happiness vanished. I find the simple life, where you get enjoyment from the little things, thats what really makes me happy. I know it sounds so cliche. But I believe it so much that in two weeks, I'm moving out of my 700 dollar apartment in denver to live in a camp with no phone or tv in the swamps of louisiana. I think your mom has that key, she has found the way to her happiness in pride in her labor, feeling good about her life, family, and in her way, god. Your friend has a lot of money, but how excited does he get about the little joys of life anymore? Does he feel the satisfaction of a sparkling kitchen or a home cooked meal with friends? It sounds like he lost more than he gained. All that worry, when you have more, you have more to lose. I know this sounds preachy, I really don't mean it to be, I guess I have to validate my own decisions as well in this... forgive my rambling, and my over used cliches, I'm to tired to think up anything more original. peace to you.
  shantelle
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  How old were you when you lost your virginity...

  by butalbee in

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  2. relationships

  how old were you when you lost your virginity and was it all that you thought it would be?????.

  i was 19, and my first time was a complete let down.

  i envisioned that gothic romance motif, all about romance and love, i didn't know what i was doing, didn't know sex was like that.

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  yumbby

  Well, my story IS JW related actually. When the elders found out that I was seeing a worldly guy, they said I had to leave him, I told them I had no place else to go (he was letting me stay at his friends house) because my mom had kicked me out for seeing him, they said we'll thats not our problem, so I was SO angry, I drove to his house and demanded sex right then, so there would't be any more conflict and they could disfellowship me right then! Unfortunately, even though I was NOT repentant, they just reproved me. Oh, I was 24 and It wasn't very good, because the whole time I was thinking, so there and there and there, take that! Not very romantic, just angry. :(
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  Memorial Experiences from Hell

  by Black Man in

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  memorial.....the time of year where we meditate on the supposed significance of jesus' death and watch all types of crazy mufuckas come out of the woodwork.

  anyway, we had a new sister move into our territory and lo and behold claims she's of the anointed.

  she was all of 40 years old, 350 pounds, friendly, feels that the friends should treat her with special reverence "since she's one of christ's brothers" (wouldn't that be sisters?).

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  yumbby

  Hey guys,
  My heart froze when I read this post, I thought it was about my mom. By the way who is not black, but is all of 350 pounds, and loves to wear neon, big hats, green eyeshadow and fake daisys on her shoes. Not to mention the nasty red wig she wears, any way, she claims to be of the annointed and always manages to make a scene every year. I still don't know, this might actually be her....
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  What would happen if I partook at the memorial?

  by lv4fer in

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  i was just wondering.

  would they disfellowship me?

  would they just take me aside and question me?

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  yumbby

  My mom partook, and she was questioned after and disfellowshipped a month later for "staring at the elders on stage" and "not singing" so, yes, if you are in a volatile congregation, if they don't agree with you, then who knows what happens? Her disfellowshipping was recinded (taken off the books like it never happened) later, and she partakes at another hall and no one says a thing there, so I think it depends on the elders at your hall.
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  Does anyone really care

  by kenpodragon in

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  does anyone really care what active witnesses think of them?

  i ask, because on many of the ex-witness boards i see a lot of mention of what people think others say behind their back.

  personally, i hope the witnesses think i am the devil himself and fear me upon sight of me.

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  yumbby

  Hey kenpo, nice to see ya! I used to talk to you on timothys site, just wanted to say hi and I hope you are doing well.